I cannot get over my yearning for one more baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.

Kids are $$$? No wonder so many on this website devalue life. Sicko.
The one I have though is precious!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

You could skip as well. Doesn’t need to be a title. _dp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks to those of you for all the thoughtful (and not so nice) responses! I know a lot of people think it's gross/irresponsible to have more than 2 kids, so I was expecting that.

In response to some of the questions: my husband is fully supportive of whatever I want. He definitely would love another child, but would never push me into it.

I have a big job. My husband has settled into more of a SAHD, although he also has a full time job. He has a lot of flexibility which has worked well for us. That said, I have always been able to build in time for family stuff, even with a pretty intense job.

We have enough money to support another baby and all it entails; we've already invested in some of the things we'd need - like a big car, a big house, etc.

I am not a huge baby person! My favorite ages are really the 3-5 range, though I have enjoyed almost every phase of my children's lives.

In addition to being old, and worrying about problems the baby might have as a result of my age (a poster above mentioned that, and I think it's the thing that has held me back most), I also worry about having sufficient 1-1 time with my kids. I think we've always done a pretty good job of managing that, but it's an important thing for me.

The funny thing is that my kids are the ones constantly mentioning their hope for another baby in the family! And life is definitely getting a lot easier as the kids get older.

People with “big jobs” as you say you have don’t get on and drum and write this crap.

NP. Yes we do. DCUM is often my mental break in a workday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

+1

What’s wrong with being weird and odd? Nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

+1

What’s wrong with being weird and odd? Nothing.

A lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks to those of you for all the thoughtful (and not so nice) responses! I know a lot of people think it's gross/irresponsible to have more than 2 kids, so I was expecting that.

In response to some of the questions: my husband is fully supportive of whatever I want. He definitely would love another child, but would never push me into it.

I have a big job. My husband has settled into more of a SAHD, although he also has a full time job. He has a lot of flexibility which has worked well for us. That said, I have always been able to build in time for family stuff, even with a pretty intense job.

We have enough money to support another baby and all it entails; we've already invested in some of the things we'd need - like a big car, a big house, etc.

I am not a huge baby person! My favorite ages are really the 3-5 range, though I have enjoyed almost every phase of my children's lives.

In addition to being old, and worrying about problems the baby might have as a result of my age (a poster above mentioned that, and I think it's the thing that has held me back most), I also worry about having sufficient 1-1 time with my kids. I think we've always done a pretty good job of managing that, but it's an important thing for me.

The funny thing is that my kids are the ones constantly mentioning their hope for another baby in the family! And life is definitely getting a lot easier as the kids get older.

People with “big jobs” as you say you have don’t get on and drum and write this crap.

NP. Yes we do. DCUM is often my mental break in a workday.

I hope your job isn’t important because that would be frightening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

+1

What’s wrong with being weird and odd? Nothing.

A lot.

This little side conversation is bizarre. I’d rather be weird and odd aka eccentric than mean and nasty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus ladies!
Enjoy the family you have!
Stop with the pining!
Kids are $$$
If you don’t work you’re even more up the creek if your partner loses a job/leaves
Stay present. Give your current kids attention.
Find a hobby. Get fit. Read. Go back to school.
Your life is not just about your kids.
When they are older and have flown the nest
WHAT WILL YOU HAVE?
Is your only conversation topic your kids?
I am not a troll but these posts are so annoying.

Why do you read them then??? Never really understand why people complain about posts rather than just skipping. That is what is annoying.

As for me I’m yearning for a second, but yes kids are $$$$ so not in a position to swing it and by the time I will will likely be too old.
The one I have though is precious!

The same way you just complained? -np

Yep I was being annoying too. But it’s easier to skip a whole thread than a single post and I did want to express my yearning for a second child. Yearning is real! And it’s ok OP.

It’s easier to skip a single post, weirdo.

How. If you find threads about people yearning for additional kids annoying - easy to skip because it’s right there in the title.

How if you find it annoying when someone posts rather than skip, why do you do the same? It’s not a matter of which is easier. You can’t complain about someone doing something that you do.

This is my first time doing it and I only did it because pp was dumping on OP. Totally possible to treasure the child(ren) one has while yearning for another.

That doesn’t give you a free pass. You’re making yourself look bad. You’re really weird and odd.

+1

What’s wrong with being weird and odd? Nothing.

A lot.

This little side conversation is bizarre. I’d rather be weird and odd aka eccentric than mean and nasty.

You actually are mean and nasty along with weird and odd. You complained about someone and hypothetically did the same as what you complained about.

[Anonymous]

Not the same but maybe you can invest in your nieces and nephews or help out occasionally with kids of friends and neighbors. Perhaps your family could even foster.

[Anonymous]

The teen years are not for the faint of heart, and I have good kids without major issues. It’s still a lot of hormones and emotions and desire for independence and learning responsibility. It’s emotionally exhausting for me and though I pined for years for another baby, I’m glad now I have just the two because I’m honestly not sure how people do more than this with teens.