Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. But what if DH is like this but is able to keep it private… Keeps up the semblance of normalcy to the outside world? Co-workers who he works closely with might notice he’s a little more irritable, others might not notice it at all. He doesn’t do rash things like go on spending sprees. Do you still think bipolar? He does have ADHD.
NP. I don't have experience with bipolar disorder but I will just say this:
Every time you retreat, take stock, and then go back, is just a step towards normalization. And that's dangerous. And bad. My husband is not bipolar, but he has anger issues. Everyone along the way has made an excuse for him because he's smart, charming, and essentially kind. It's a big joke with his family. Guess what isn't a joke? When he viciously verbally attacks his teen daughter for standing up for herself and the rest of us, to the extent that I am literally sick to my stomach and she's devastated.
20 years on and it's just so much harder to leave. I wish I would have left at the point you are at now.
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