This is why we put our kids in sports!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just remember that many non-athletes have things they’re also dedicated to- maybe it’s their instrument or a job or carrying for a family member. There are many ways to build grit and resilience, and for most people it doesn’t come through youth sports.

Agree . My son is not athletic, but he is still building character.

[Anonymous]

I sort of believed what you were saying until HS sports tryouts started for FCPS. The competition is INSANE and I currently have a kid that has been stressed for a WEEK about(first) what team they would make Fr/JV/Varsity but now stressed about making any of them and decisions are now made next Monday. I realize HS sports are not end all be all and they can, at this point, play for their club(not rec) and still succeed but wow! It sure is intense for a young person who has skills and put work in for years in the DC metro area!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son who is in medical school to be a trauma surgeon never played sports. He has true grit. You can't generalize about kids.

Seriously. My sister who is a surgeon and pumps milk to feed her baby while at the same time skillfully performing surgery and rarely if ever complains about the insane amount of tasks on her plate managing motherhood, being a sole source of food for a human, AND her residency was pretty mediocre at sports and did very little in the end. She has more resilience and grit than just about anyone I know. Sports can be great, I look forward to the fun my kids will have on sports teams if they end up enjoying it (they are too young to know) but humans are complex - things are not this simple, sorry.

But, I'll bet, both of these doc grew up working at, if not sports, something that the practiced practicing and persistence through.

[Anonymous]

You are a giant loser OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens and young adults these days are WAY too sheltered, spoiled, lazy, immature, and lack grit and resilience (the two most important characteristics for success!). I put my kids into sports not to help with college admissions or scholarships, but because sports participation builds grit, resilience, character, the ability to work through tough times, and the ability to bounce back from failure when things aren't going your way.

I'm also a hiring manager and oversee recent college grads/workers in their 20s (early Gen Z/late Gen Y). The VAST majority of people in this age range lack grit and resilience, and they are a major PITA for most workplaces. The sheer lack of grit, resilience, and the ability to persevere when times are tough among recent college grads these days is depressingly low, so I know by pushing my kids in sports (even though I know they're nowhere near good enough to get recruited), I'm doing them a world of favors.

I don't normally post on the Sports forum -- I mainly stick to the Jobs forum and the Real Estate forum. However, this post in the Jobs & Careers forum stuck out to me:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1071777.page

TL DR: Spoiled Ivy League kid is pissed she has to take out $80k in loans and doesn't want to stay at her (elite, prestigious) Ivy since it's "too stressful" and "too competitive" and "too cutthroat" and yadda yadda yadda all that BS. It is painfully obvious that this girl's parents never put her in team sports (or any team activity, really) where she had to fail and bounce back from disappointing losses to build grit and resilience. This spoiled young woman is unable to bounce back from her negativity and constant whining to rise above and lead and create a positive outlook on an objectively amazing opportunity that 99% of Americans would kill to have. But no, like so many sheltered DMV rich kids I see, she insists on having everything perfectly catered to her snowflake sensibilities.

And THAT is why I put my kids in sports -- to build a competitive spirit, to learn to win and lose gracefully, and to build their ability to stick through undesirably situations. I know that they won't end up like the navel-gazing OP of the thread above since I push them in team sports.

My most whiny, impatient, navel-gazing, depressed, annoying colleague was a high level athlete in high school. So I guess he missed your memo, OP. Maybe it would do you good to stop patting yourself on the back before you get results. Can you imagine doing that at work?

There is no easy way to teaching your kids character.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens and young adults these days are WAY too sheltered, spoiled, lazy, immature, and lack grit and resilience (the two most important characteristics for success!). I put my kids into sports not to help with college admissions or scholarships, but because sports participation builds grit, resilience, character, the ability to work through tough times, and the ability to bounce back from failure when things aren't going your way.

I'm also a hiring manager and oversee recent college grads/workers in their 20s (early Gen Z/late Gen Y). The VAST majority of people in this age range lack grit and resilience, and they are a major PITA for most workplaces. The sheer lack of grit, resilience, and the ability to persevere when times are tough among recent college grads these days is depressingly low, so I know by pushing my kids in sports (even though I know they're nowhere near good enough to get recruited), I'm doing them a world of favors.

I don't normally post on the Sports forum -- I mainly stick to the Jobs forum and the Real Estate forum. However, this post in the Jobs & Careers forum stuck out to me:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1071777.page

TL DR: Spoiled Ivy League kid is pissed she has to take out $80k in loans and doesn't want to stay at her (elite, prestigious) Ivy since it's "too stressful" and "too competitive" and "too cutthroat" and yadda yadda yadda all that BS. It is painfully obvious that this girl's parents never put her in team sports (or any team activity, really) where she had to fail and bounce back from disappointing losses to build grit and resilience. This spoiled young woman is unable to bounce back from her negativity and constant whining to rise above and lead and create a positive outlook on an objectively amazing opportunity that 99% of Americans would kill to have. But no, like so many sheltered DMV rich kids I see, she insists on having everything perfectly catered to her snowflake sensibilities.

And THAT is why I put my kids in sports -- to build a competitive spirit, to learn to win and lose gracefully, and to build their ability to stick through undesirably situations. I know that they won't end up like the navel-gazing OP of the thread above since I push them in team sports.

The more I reread your post when someone else quotes it, the more I hate you. You are a terrible, terrible person -- the exact opposite of a poster child for sports. Hateful, mean, judgmental, bullying a young person when they're down. There is nothing admirable about your character. If you represent sports, no thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I sort of believed what you were saying until HS sports tryouts started for FCPS. The competition is INSANE and I currently have a kid that has been stressed for a WEEK about(first) what team they would make Fr/JV/Varsity but now stressed about making any of them and decisions are now made next Monday. I realize HS sports are not end all be all and they can, at this point, play for their club(not rec) and still succeed but wow! It sure is intense for a young person who has skills and put work in for years in the DC metro area!

It’s really this. My kid had a slightly different experience but same level of stress for tryouts this week. It wasn’t as competitive, he knows he will make a team, but might never play. He came down with a fever yesterday and couldn’t get out of bed. We were telling him he couldn’t go to tryouts with a 102 fever and he kept stressing he wouldn’t play all season. The stress and competition is real. No, he didn’t go, and wouldn’t have been able to do anything anyway if he attempted to go. We kept telling him that the coach already say him all week and to communicate by email what’s going on. Hopefully it won’t make a difference. There is grit and then there is insanity. I’m sure some in this area would have let their kids go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teens and young adults these days are WAY too sheltered, spoiled, lazy, immature, and lack grit and resilience (the two most important characteristics for success!). I put my kids into sports not to help with college admissions or scholarships, but because sports participation builds grit, resilience, character, the ability to work through tough times, and the ability to bounce back from failure when things aren't going your way.

I'm also a hiring manager and oversee recent college grads/workers in their 20s (early Gen Z/late Gen Y). The VAST majority of people in this age range lack grit and resilience, and they are a major PITA for most workplaces. The sheer lack of grit, resilience, and the ability to persevere when times are tough among recent college grads these days is depressingly low, so I know by pushing my kids in sports (even though I know they're nowhere near good enough to get recruited), I'm doing them a world of favors.

I don't normally post on the Sports forum -- I mainly stick to the Jobs forum and the Real Estate forum. However, this post in the Jobs & Careers forum stuck out to me:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1071777.page

TL DR: Spoiled Ivy League kid is pissed she has to take out $80k in loans and doesn't want to stay at her (elite, prestigious) Ivy since it's "too stressful" and "too competitive" and "too cutthroat" and yadda yadda yadda all that BS. It is painfully obvious that this girl's parents never put her in team sports (or any team activity, really) where she had to fail and bounce back from disappointing losses to build grit and resilience. This spoiled young woman is unable to bounce back from her negativity and constant whining to rise above and lead and create a positive outlook on an objectively amazing opportunity that 99% of Americans would kill to have. But no, like so many sheltered DMV rich kids I see, she insists on having everything perfectly catered to her snowflake sensibilities.

And THAT is why I put my kids in sports -- to build a competitive spirit, to learn to win and lose gracefully, and to build their ability to stick through undesirably situations. I know that they won't end up like the navel-gazing OP of the thread above since I push them in team sports.

The more I reread your post when someone else quotes it, the more I hate you. You are a terrible, terrible person -- the exact opposite of a poster child for sports. Hateful, mean, judgmental, bullying a young person when they're down. There is nothing admirable about your character. If you represent sports, no thank you.

Forgot to add "braggart."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um if you had read that other thread, I think you would realize her problems were not going to be solved by swim team (parents pushing her to fit their ideal and now her self esteem is so low that she can’t please them).

I read that other thread, too, and remembered thinking it was smart to consider whether she should actually take out the $80,000 in loans, especially since she wasn't happy there! OP, it was a good opportunity, but not if he was miserable there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens and young adults these days are WAY too sheltered, spoiled, lazy, immature, and lack grit and resilience (the two most important characteristics for success!). I put my kids into sports not to help with college admissions or scholarships, but because sports participation builds grit, resilience, character, the ability to work through tough times, and the ability to bounce back from failure when things aren't going your way.

I'm also a hiring manager and oversee recent college grads/workers in their 20s (early Gen Z/late Gen Y). The VAST majority of people in this age range lack grit and resilience, and they are a major PITA for most workplaces. The sheer lack of grit, resilience, and the ability to persevere when times are tough among recent college grads these days is depressingly low, so I know by pushing my kids in sports (even though I know they're nowhere near good enough to get recruited), I'm doing them a world of favors.

I don't normally post on the Sports forum -- I mainly stick to the Jobs forum and the Real Estate forum. However, this post in the Jobs & Careers forum stuck out to me:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1071777.page

TL DR: Spoiled Ivy League kid is pissed she has to take out $80k in loans and doesn't want to stay at her (elite, prestigious) Ivy since it's "too stressful" and "too competitive" and "too cutthroat" and yadda yadda yadda all that BS. It is painfully obvious that this girl's parents never put her in team sports (or any team activity, really) where she had to fail and bounce back from disappointing losses to build grit and resilience. This spoiled young woman is unable to bounce back from her negativity and constant whining to rise above and lead and create a positive outlook on an objectively amazing opportunity that 99% of Americans would kill to have. But no, like so many sheltered DMV rich kids I see, she insists on having everything perfectly catered to her snowflake sensibilities.

And THAT is why I put my kids in sports -- to build a competitive spirit, to learn to win and lose gracefully, and to build their ability to stick through undesirably situations. I know that they won't end up like the navel-gazing OP of the thread above since I push them in team sports.

Did you walk 100 miles to school in the snow too? You’re already a crumudgeon

[Anonymous]

I think sports can help build character but they aren't for everyone. I think the thing missing here is that kids today do not know how to fail. When they are on the verge of failing many parents step in. I think kids need to fail and see what they do with it moving forward. It is so hard to watch and not intervene..this happened to us recently with our oldest who is a rising junior in HS. We knew DC was going to fail and watched it in slow motion. Both of us agreed the failure would either make or break her (at least in the sport). Its what they do after the failure (regardless of in sports or academics) that will help show you what kind of kid you have.

[Anonymous]

My son learns the same lessons from working plus he earns money for college. Win, win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teens and young adults these days are WAY too sheltered, spoiled, lazy, immature, and lack grit and resilience (the two most important characteristics for success!). I put my kids into sports not to help with college admissions or scholarships, but because sports participation builds grit, resilience, character, the ability to work through tough times, and the ability to bounce back from failure when things aren't going your way.

I'm also a hiring manager and oversee recent college grads/workers in their 20s (early Gen Z/late Gen Y). The VAST majority of people in this age range lack grit and resilience, and they are a major PITA for most workplaces. The sheer lack of grit, resilience, and the ability to persevere when times are tough among recent college grads these days is depressingly low, so I know by pushing my kids in sports (even though I know they're nowhere near good enough to get recruited), I'm doing them a world of favors.

I don't normally post on the Sports forum -- I mainly stick to the Jobs forum and the Real Estate forum. However, this post in the Jobs & Careers forum stuck out to me:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1071777.page

TL DR: Spoiled Ivy League kid is pissed she has to take out $80k in loans and doesn't want to stay at her (elite, prestigious) Ivy since it's "too stressful" and "too competitive" and "too cutthroat" and yadda yadda yadda all that BS. It is painfully obvious that this girl's parents never put her in team sports (or any team activity, really) where she had to fail and bounce back from disappointing losses to build grit and resilience. This spoiled young woman is unable to bounce back from her negativity and constant whining to rise above and lead and create a positive outlook on an objectively amazing opportunity that 99% of Americans would kill to have. But no, like so many sheltered DMV rich kids I see, she insists on having everything perfectly catered to her snowflake sensibilities.

And THAT is why I put my kids in sports -- to build a competitive spirit, to learn to win and lose gracefully, and to build their ability to stick through undesirably situations. I know that they won't end up like the navel-gazing OP of the thread above since I push them in team sports.

Yawn. No one cares that you paid for your kids to run around and play ball and we laugh at you blathering on and on about your “student athletes.” Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, just for kicks please post this on the AAP thread.

[Anonymous]

You ain’t nothing but a hound dog loser