Welp, now you have 3 kids who don’t call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call my parents regularly, at least twice a week. Have for 20+ years ever since I left for college. My older sister and younger brother rarely call. (It should be noted that my parents don’t call THEM, because God forbid the parent initiate a call to the child, when that’s now proper deference to the patriarch/matriarch, eye-roll.)

Every now and again, when I don’t call as frequently as usual (or not on a Sunday, the one day they really expect), they act miffed and put-upon when I call like a day or two later. Somehow, my siblings never get this crap. Somehow, my parents don’t just pick up the phone and call me when they want to talk—which they darn well could, being retired and having nothing they have to do and all.

My mom started in, and I have had it. I told her, “You have my number. If you want to talk, you can call me. But I am your one child who does call you regularly, so if you have complaints about your kids not calling, you can take it up with Sally and Bill.” She didn’t back down and went off.

Welp, I’m done. Now she has 3 kids who don’t call. Enjoy.

My mom doesn't call me because she knows I am busier than she is and doesn't want to bother me. If I call than she knows I have the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I call my parents regularly, at least twice a week. Have for 20+ years ever since I left for college. My older sister and younger brother rarely call. (It should be noted that my parents don’t call THEM, because God forbid the parent initiate a call to the child, when that’s now proper deference to the patriarch/matriarch, eye-roll.)

Every now and again, when I don’t call as frequently as usual (or not on a Sunday, the one day they really expect), they act miffed and put-upon when I call like a day or two later. Somehow, my siblings never get this crap. Somehow, my parents don’t just pick up the phone and call me when they want to talk—which they darn well could, being retired and having nothing they have to do and all.

My mom started in, and I have had it. I told her, “You have my number. If you want to talk, you can call me. But I am your one child who does call you regularly, so if you have complaints about your kids not calling, you can take it up with Sally and Bill.” She didn’t back down and went off.

Welp, I’m done. Now she has 3 kids who don’t call. Enjoy.

My mom doesn't call me because she knows I am busier than she is and doesn't want to bother me. If I call than she knows I have the time.

If you miss a call, does your mom ask how you are doing or does she act miffed and put upon and start in with you? My guess is all of the people posting like the PP don't deal with people who don't pick up the phone AND complain you don't call enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Welp!

Inside joke, idiot poster, or both?

[Anonymous]

Unless you are working to get a large inheritance from your parents, OP, just drop the rope. You don’t need this extra hassle in your life.

[Anonymous]

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

Could some of you tell me with a straight face that you would not be hurt if your parents treated your adult siblings one way, and treated you a completely different way? Can you tell me you would not find it hurtful if your parents gave YOU a hard time about staying in touch with them regularly just because you miss a call or two, but never breathe a word of criticism to your siblings who never call?

Explain to me how OP is not being treated badly by her parents. Explain to me how it’s out of line for her to get exasperated by this unfair and unhealthy dynamic.

[Anonymous]

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

Could some of you tell me with a straight face that you would not be hurt if your parents treated your adult siblings one way, and treated you a completely different way? Can you tell me you would not find it hurtful if your parents gave YOU a hard time about staying in touch with them regularly just because you miss a call or two, but never breathe a word of criticism to your siblings who never call?

Explain to me how OP is not being treated badly by her parents. Explain to me how it’s out of line for her to get exasperated by this unfair and unhealthy dynamic.

Relax. I was commenting on the meaning of the picture. I've been defending OP.

[Anonymous]

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

Could some of you tell me with a straight face that you would not be hurt if your parents treated your adult siblings one way, and treated you a completely different way? Can you tell me you would not find it hurtful if your parents gave YOU a hard time about staying in touch with them regularly just because you miss a call or two, but never breathe a word of criticism to your siblings who never call?

Explain to me how OP is not being treated badly by her parents. Explain to me how it’s out of line for her to get exasperated by this unfair and unhealthy dynamic.

We don't know the whole story. And I am not sure if op does either. Op could ask her parents instead of blowing up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Welp!

Inside joke, idiot poster, or both?

NP. You must be young or relatively new to the country. Welp has been around a long time.

[Anonymous]

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

Could some of you tell me with a straight face that you would not be hurt if your parents treated your adult siblings one way, and treated you a completely different way? Can you tell me you would not find it hurtful if your parents gave YOU a hard time about staying in touch with them regularly just because you miss a call or two, but never breathe a word of criticism to your siblings who never call?

Explain to me how OP is not being treated badly by her parents. Explain to me how it’s out of line for her to get exasperated by this unfair and unhealthy dynamic.

You seem to have a sore spot on this issue, pp.

[Anonymous]

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

Could some of you tell me with a straight face that you would not be hurt if your parents treated your adult siblings one way, and treated you a completely different way? Can you tell me you would not find it hurtful if your parents gave YOU a hard time about staying in touch with them regularly just because you miss a call or two, but never breathe a word of criticism to your siblings who never call?

Explain to me how OP is not being treated badly by her parents. Explain to me how it’s out of line for her to get exasperated by this unfair and unhealthy dynamic.

I mean, the whole point is that the parents wouldn’t have a chance to say anything because…the siblings don’t call. How exactly would such a discussion take place?