Welp, now you have 3 kids who don’t call

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound as petty as your parents.

THIS

+2. Come on OP. Express your anger, take a break for a bit, but don’t seriously stop calling your parents over this.

Or . . . OP's parent can pick up the phone and call to the extent they want to hear from her. I understand that even senior citizens can make outgoing calls these days.

Continue to voice that. But as people here have said, this isn’t an uncommon viewpoint of older generations, that it’s the younger ones that call them. It can stem from an (in our view) outdated notion of respect looks like, or it can be from being uncomfortable about potentially disturbing a young family, or it can be from absentmindedness etc. Discuss it, let them know you’d appreciate a phone call. Take a break if you need to, space out your phone calls if you find it super annoying.

But cutting off contact for something like this is over the top.

Cutting off contact is the advice of choice on DCUM. I really wonder if so many people cut off family members or if they're just saying it here to act out some weird fantasy.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound as petty as your parents.

THIS

+2. Come on OP. Express your anger, take a break for a bit, but don’t seriously stop calling your parents over this.

Or . . . OP's parent can pick up the phone and call to the extent they want to hear from her. I understand that even senior citizens can make outgoing calls these days.

Continue to voice that. But as people here have said, this isn’t an uncommon viewpoint of older generations, that it’s the younger ones that call them. It can stem from an (in our view) outdated notion of respect looks like, or it can be from being uncomfortable about potentially disturbing a young family, or it can be from absentmindedness etc. Discuss it, let them know you’d appreciate a phone call. Take a break if you need to, space out your phone calls if you find it super annoying.

But cutting off contact for something like this is over the top.

Cutting off contact is the advice of choice on DCUM. I really wonder if so many people cut off family members or if they're just saying it here to act out some weird fantasy.

Guys, you all don't seem to be reading the OP very well. I am sure she will happily accept her parents' call. However, she doesn't want to hear gried when she does call so she is blowing off steam. Cutting someone off is not the same as not calling.

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. You sound as petty as your parents.

THIS

+2. Come on OP. Express your anger, take a break for a bit, but don’t seriously stop calling your parents over this.

Or . . . OP's parent can pick up the phone and call to the extent they want to hear from her. I understand that even senior citizens can make outgoing calls these days.

Continue to voice that. But as people here have said, this isn’t an uncommon viewpoint of older generations, that it’s the younger ones that call them. It can stem from an (in our view) outdated notion of respect looks like, or it can be from being uncomfortable about potentially disturbing a young family, or it can be from absentmindedness etc. Discuss it, let them know you’d appreciate a phone call. Take a break if you need to, space out your phone calls if you find it super annoying.

But cutting off contact for something like this is over the top.

Cutting off contact is the advice of choice on DCUM. I really wonder if so many people cut off family members or if they're just saying it here to act out some weird fantasy.

Misery loves company. The bad advice comes from people who think this is normal and encourage others to do the same.

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

DP. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?

Ah! Of course, thank you.

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Why not take the high road rather then getting into a pissing contest. I have three adult children and one I speak with likely every other day, one twice a week and one every couple of weeks. I love them dearly and whatever works for them works for me. Generally they call me because they all work and have children so they are very busy and I hate interrupting them.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not take the high road rather then getting into a pissing contest. I have three adult children and one I speak with likely every other day, one twice a week and one every couple of weeks. I love them dearly and whatever works for them works for me. Generally they call me because they all work and have children so they are very busy and I hate interrupting them.

If only there was a way to call them and leave them a message that they could call back when they are free. Or perhaps a way to send a text message to their phone saying thinking of you, is there a good time to call. Or maybe a way that you could call and if they don’t answer because they are busy, they could see that they missed a call from you, and they could return it at their convenience.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not take the high road rather then getting into a pissing contest. I have three adult children and one I speak with likely every other day, one twice a week and one every couple of weeks. I love them dearly and whatever works for them works for me. Generally they call me because they all work and have children so they are very busy and I hate interrupting them.

If only there was a way to call them and leave them a message that they could call back when they are free. Or perhaps a way to send a text message to their phone saying thinking of you, is there a good time to call. Or maybe a way that you could call and if they don’t answer because they are busy, they could see that they missed a call from you, and they could return it at their convenience.

Dp. You missed pps underlying message: her children are busy with families of their own. She is allowing them to be adults, plus she isn't needy and trying to feed off her grown kids. That seems healthy to me. Probably, she has her own life to live.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not take the high road rather then getting into a pissing contest. I have three adult children and one I speak with likely every other day, one twice a week and one every couple of weeks. I love them dearly and whatever works for them works for me. Generally they call me because they all work and have children so they are very busy and I hate interrupting them.

If only there was a way to call them and leave them a message that they could call back when they are free. Or perhaps a way to send a text message to their phone saying thinking of you, is there a good time to call. Or maybe a way that you could call and if they don’t answer because they are busy, they could see that they missed a call from you, and they could return it at their convenience.

Dp. You missed pps underlying message: her children are busy with families of their own. She is allowing them to be adults, plus she isn't needy and trying to feed off her grown kids. That seems healthy to me. Probably, she has her own life to live.

That isn’t the dynamic of OP’s family, is it?

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I am unclear what we are to make of this.

And is anyone else amazed that the apples don't bruise?

I grew up in a cherry growing area and have seen the cherry shakers. But cherries are not heavy so they wouldn't bruise each other when they fall. But apples? I don't get it. Maybe if they're harvested well before ripening?

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Welp

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Anonymous wrote:Why not take the high road rather then getting into a pissing contest. I have three adult children and one I speak with likely every other day, one twice a week and one every couple of weeks. I love them dearly and whatever works for them works for me. Generally they call me because they all work and have children so they are very busy and I hate interrupting them.

If only there was a way to call them and leave them a message that they could call back when they are free. Or perhaps a way to send a text message to their phone saying thinking of you, is there a good time to call. Or maybe a way that you could call and if they don’t answer because they are busy, they could see that they missed a call from you, and they could return it at their convenience.

THIS!

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Welp!

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Anonymous wrote:Welp!

FU not helpful