If you’re staying together for the kids, do you acknowledge it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you going to a therapist for your question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

Have you ever watched one of those movies where the character finally exclaims "How is this helping?!" You can't go back in time, but let us know if you've invented that. If not, please stay in the present or future for advice.

The advice is still the same, you just don’t want to be responsible for a poor choice.

You must be a crappy friend.

[Anonymous]

I think the tween and early teen years are the WORST time to divorce. If it's inevitable, do it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

Then don’t blame your husband. You are at fault here.

That’s exactly what she’s doing, douche canoe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

Have you ever watched one of those movies where the character finally exclaims "How is this helping?!" You can't go back in time, but let us know if you've invented that. If not, please stay in the present or future for advice.

The advice is still the same, you just don’t want to be responsible for a poor choice.

You must be a crappy friend.

You must be a patronizing, fake “friend.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the tween and early teen years are the WORST time to divorce. If it's inevitable, do it now.

Thanks that’s helpful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

DP. Are you taking medication?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

Do you read much sci-fi?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

I’m OP and I’m heartbroken, and kicking myself. Thank you for your concern?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

DP. Are you taking medication?

Whatever. I'm just tired of this bot. Not OP. It makes this page unenjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

I’m OP and I’m heartbroken, and kicking myself. Thank you for your concern?

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Picking the right spouse would’ve been the right thing to do.

I agree. I messed up. I should have heeded red flags. I didn’t

And you think this is helpful for you to move forward? I thought that was kind of a given. But if this is the "advice" you need then peace out. Won't waste my time. Why don't we just make this the response to all relationship threads and save ourselves the time of educating other people on how to move forward with their problems for free and let them pay for their own therapy? Glad this person was helpful for you. Won't visit again.

WTF. You are angry at OP for not getting angry at the PP? I agree they were being an absolute d**k, but still.

That same person or bot comes on every thread and says the same thing and makes some false assumption that somehow making a bad decision in the past and wanting to move forward away from that decision into something better means you don't take responsibility for the past which is both untrue and unhelpful and this OP basically gives her credit for her "great idea" to go back in time and fix her past decision, so yeah, I am. I want this time traveler to get off the relationship discussion thread. They derail every discussion and waste people's good ideas to help. I'm not going to make a comment after careful thinking and then have this bot every time pipe up about how really the problem is your responsibility for your past decision.

DP. Are you taking medication?

Whatever. I'm just tired of this bot. Not OP. It makes this page unenjoyable.

So you are on meds.

[Anonymous]

We’re staying together for the kids. I’m trying to stick it out till they are in high school or college, but if the home environment becomes too much, then we’ll have to get divorced sooner. He is verbally abusive to both my son and I, but I worry more about leaving the kids alone with him. At least if we’re married I can monitor what’s going on and keep the kids away from him as much as possible.

We acknowledge that we’re really just staying together for the kids to each other. I don’t tell the kids per say, but they hear it often enough since my husband says it all the time.