Son sold Nintendo Switch- but not upfront about i

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I’d take him to the doctors for a drug test asap. And take him again sporadically and without notice.

Wow, talk about overkill. What other signs has OP noticed that would indicate a drug addiction?

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Anonymous wrote:Thx all for the advice-
For the prior poster, I didn’t let him sell any of it. Not switch or games. Why he didn’t take it all in to sell is a good question- I’ll ask him that. I assume (in my opinion) he felt I would discover the switch gone - or maybe - actually I have no idea.
But good advice for strong discipline- we did tell him the least is he has to give me the money he made- which he said ok and wants me to take from his savings- but that hardly makes him feel pain. So I’m still thinking.
He knows he did wrong and said I never let him sell anything so he has no way to make money. We shut that down by saying no excuse. He was sneaky and we are thinking of the punishment.

You said "So pulled out of closet and told my 17 year old- ok I’m not giving switch to our youngest so he can sell it and keep the difference for what we paid. Problem is, he went into my closet, took games without asking and sold them for 40 bucks." Which one is it?

Seems like you are changing your story to make your DS look worse. Sorry, not buying it.

I think OP is not changing the story. She’s just not telling it clearly. I’ve reread it a couple of times and think this is what happened. I think what’s confusing is that we as readers dont have a sense of time between events.

Let’s say in October 2021, OP’s son bought a switch and 4 games for little brother. Son paid $150. Mom said that younger brother was too young for such a gift and said, “Hey, that was a nice gift, but he’s too young. I’ll reimburse you for the $150 and hold the switch and games until younger brother is old enough.” She paid him $150.

Fast forward to July 2022: Son is trying to sell things to make money. Mom goes into closet and sees that the switch and games she reimbursed him for are gone. Son had gone in there and sold them for $40.

Is that what happened, OP?

OP here- exactly! This is what happened. So we sat son down and told him how disappointed we are. How once I bought the game from him two years ago, it obviously became mine. So then to take it, is stealing. Obvidouky he knew that or he wouldn’t have needed to go into my closet and take without asking.
So he stole it. It was no longer his once I bought back in 2020ish.
Second he violated my trust going into my closet to get anything that wasn’t his. That alone was sneaky.
So now I’m selling the switch myself- and he starting yesterday, has to “earn the money” to pay me back. Just pulling it from his savings account didn’t really feel like a punishment. So he has to earn the 80 bucks- through working more hours or mowing for neighbors. Then he has to take the paycheck or money, cash the check- and pay me 80 bucks. Quite honestly, while reading some of the other suggestions, I think he should have to buy back all the games- which would cost more than 80- but I didn’t read that or think of that before I sat down with him.
In meantime, he can’t use Xbox until I am paid in full. He has to “work for” the money he stole. What he should have for in the first place.
And yes he bought the new Xbox- that was what he was trying to get money for. He did buy a used one- but FYI

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Anonymous wrote:Thx all for the advice-
For the prior poster, I didn’t let him sell any of it. Not switch or games. Why he didn’t take it all in to sell is a good question- I’ll ask him that. I assume (in my opinion) he felt I would discover the switch gone - or maybe - actually I have no idea.
But good advice for strong discipline- we did tell him the least is he has to give me the money he made- which he said ok and wants me to take from his savings- but that hardly makes him feel pain. So I’m still thinking.
He knows he did wrong and said I never let him sell anything so he has no way to make money. We shut that down by saying no excuse. He was sneaky and we are thinking of the punishment.

You said "So pulled out of closet and told my 17 year old- ok I’m not giving switch to our youngest so he can sell it and keep the difference for what we paid. Problem is, he went into my closet, took games without asking and sold them for 40 bucks." Which one is it?

Seems like you are changing your story to make your DS look worse. Sorry, not buying it.

I think OP is not changing the story. She’s just not telling it clearly. I’ve reread it a couple of times and think this is what happened. I think what’s confusing is that we as readers dont have a sense of time between events.

Let’s say in October 2021, OP’s son bought a switch and 4 games for little brother. Son paid $150. Mom said that younger brother was too young for such a gift and said, “Hey, that was a nice gift, but he’s too young. I’ll reimburse you for the $150 and hold the switch and games until younger brother is old enough.” She paid him $150.

Fast forward to July 2022: Son is trying to sell things to make money. Mom goes into closet and sees that the switch and games she reimbursed him for are gone. Son had gone in there and sold them for $40.

Is that what happened, OP?

OP here- exactly! This is what happened. So we sat son down and told him how disappointed we are. How once I bought the game from him two years ago, it obviously became mine. So then to take it, is stealing. Obvidouky he knew that or he wouldn’t have needed to go into my closet and take without asking.
So he stole it. It was no longer his once I bought back in 2020ish.
Second he violated my trust going into my closet to get anything that wasn’t his. That alone was sneaky.
So now I’m selling the switch myself- and he starting yesterday, has to “earn the money” to pay me back. Just pulling it from his savings account didn’t really feel like a punishment. So he has to earn the 80 bucks- through working more hours or mowing for neighbors. Then he has to take the paycheck or money, cash the check- and pay me 80 bucks. Quite honestly, while reading some of the other suggestions, I think he should have to buy back all the games- which would cost more than 80- but I didn’t read that or think of that before I sat down with him.
In meantime, he can’t use Xbox until I am paid in full. He has to “work for” the money he stole. What he should have for in the first place.
And yes he bought the new Xbox- that was what he was trying to get money for. He did buy a used one- but FYI

Sorry, you are changing your story again and that is what a troll does. How are you selling the Switch yourself that you son already sold? Stop feeding the troll, people.

[Anonymous]

Make him get a job and pay you back, OP. He's a minor. He's under your control until he is 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Umm why is he so desperate for money? This story is so fishy.

+1 Does he owe someone money? Is he being blackmailed online? Something seems off.

[Anonymous]

OP, your kid is addicted to drugs and you are worried about some Nintendo switch. Focus on the real problem here. Your story is tiptoeing around the elephant in the room. Why is he stealing and selling stuff? It is clear he is buying drugs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thx all for the advice-
For the prior poster, I didn’t let him sell any of it. Not switch or games. Why he didn’t take it all in to sell is a good question- I’ll ask him that. I assume (in my opinion) he felt I would discover the switch gone - or maybe - actually I have no idea.
But good advice for strong discipline- we did tell him the least is he has to give me the money he made- which he said ok and wants me to take from his savings- but that hardly makes him feel pain. So I’m still thinking.
He knows he did wrong and said I never let him sell anything so he has no way to make money. We shut that down by saying no excuse. He was sneaky and we are thinking of the punishment.

You said "So pulled out of closet and told my 17 year old- ok I’m not giving switch to our youngest so he can sell it and keep the difference for what we paid. Problem is, he went into my closet, took games without asking and sold them for 40 bucks." Which one is it?

Seems like you are changing your story to make your DS look worse. Sorry, not buying it.

I think OP is not changing the story. She’s just not telling it clearly. I’ve reread it a couple of times and think this is what happened. I think what’s confusing is that we as readers dont have a sense of time between events.

Let’s say in October 2021, OP’s son bought a switch and 4 games for little brother. Son paid $150. Mom said that younger brother was too young for such a gift and said, “Hey, that was a nice gift, but he’s too young. I’ll reimburse you for the $150 and hold the switch and games until younger brother is old enough.” She paid him $150.

Fast forward to July 2022: Son is trying to sell things to make money. Mom goes into closet and sees that the switch and games she reimbursed him for are gone. Son had gone in there and sold them for $40.

Is that what happened, OP?

OP here- exactly! This is what happened. So we sat son down and told him how disappointed we are. How once I bought the game from him two years ago, it obviously became mine. So then to take it, is stealing. Obvidouky he knew that or he wouldn’t have needed to go into my closet and take without asking.
So he stole it. It was no longer his once I bought back in 2020ish.
Second he violated my trust going into my closet to get anything that wasn’t his. That alone was sneaky.
So now I’m selling the switch myself- and he starting yesterday, has to “earn the money” to pay me back. Just pulling it from his savings account didn’t really feel like a punishment. So he has to earn the 80 bucks- through working more hours or mowing for neighbors. Then he has to take the paycheck or money, cash the check- and pay me 80 bucks. Quite honestly, while reading some of the other suggestions, I think he should have to buy back all the games- which would cost more than 80- but I didn’t read that or think of that before I sat down with him.
In meantime, he can’t use Xbox until I am paid in full. He has to “work for” the money he stole. What he should have for in the first place.
And yes he bought the new Xbox- that was what he was trying to get money for. He did buy a used one- but FYI

Sorry, you are changing your story again and that is what a troll does. How are you selling the Switch yourself that you son already sold? Stop feeding the troll, people.

+1 I call troll. She's ignoring the 70 posters talking about drugs completely.