Help me not be an a@&hole to grieving MIL

[Anonymous]

Is this really about the cost of overnighting a check or about having to give her $ at all. No way would I be sending her any more money. Stop enabling her.

[Anonymous]

I just pay her bills using my credit card-as I get cash back. I know her account if with all vendors.

[Anonymous]

I am shocked you would be petty at a time like this, OP. You can settle this issue later on, now is not the time.

[Anonymous]

Give her less food at Thanksgiving to make up for the lost money. That should make you feel better, OP.

[Anonymous]

I used to fight like cats and dogs with my MIL who would always take my wife's side of arguments even when she was obviously wrong.
Both of them wrong.
She moved in with us, living in our house when health care became impossible for her and we were the only family members who would/ could take her in.
In the worst of situations, her and my wife would "team up" to argue what family decisions should be made immediately pitting my wife and I against each other.
They even jointly hired a lawyer to discuss potential divorce property settlement, alimony, and child support.
At the great advice of a female friend, I hired a lawyer whom looked at my statements, my wife's claims, did a little digging ( which I could have done for myself) said " you have got to be kidding me!" (Eyeroll).

MIL apologies and politely asks that she can stay .
I go "you can, but your daughter needs to move or I call the police".
A few years later, MIL dies from breast cancer and I speak at her eulogy about the great cruise trip we as a family had.
Biting my tongue.

I'm am now cautious parenting partners with my ex-wife.
I will never trust her or let her back in.
Ever.