Carolyn Hax today

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

The French have always said anymore than a 'coupe glass' is too big.

That’s why they lost the war.

Best response of the day!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1

Cow udders that sag are not attractive. I find big breasts can start to look matronly when women age. Best friend had a reduction in her late 40s and she looks like she lost 15 pounds (and she was not heavy). They were just large on a small person.

I love how this was originally about women being hurt by jerk men and jerk men turned it into a discussion on what type of breasts they like. UGH.

+1

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I could see telling my girl pal, "I'm glad I dated Steve because he had a huge c*ck and I'm so glad I got to experience that. I love John but his d*ck is small".

Would the guy be hurt if he found this out? Sure.

If my DH said, "Make is so luck because his wife is still thin" would I be hurt, you bet.

There's nothing wrong with the FEELING that you are glad you got to enjoy/wish you had such and such that your current partner doesn't have. It is callous to SAY it and in very poor taste and poor judgement for someone to have repeated that.

I don't blame the flat chested woman in this scenario for feeling bad but it' s unfortunate if she takes it as a personal criticism.

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Large breasts are overrated.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that he likes big boobs. Obviously, we all have physical ideals that our partners can never meet. The problem is that he told her. (I’m not clear on how she found out, though.) If it was an isolated incident or she found out by mistake, NBD. But if he consistently makes her feel judged, objectified, inferior … that’s the problem.

+1000

Body types are over rated for marriage. My wife has my ideal body type. But we're still likely headed for divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Always great to hear what the divorced relationship columnist has to say.

It is interesting, because she can understand so many different perspectives through her own experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Women get crazy over the dumbest things. Man or women, if you've had other lovers before your spouse, of course there are things about them you may remember fondly including her larger breasts, his larger D, or 100 other things. It doesn't mean you reject your spouse over it. Some day, you will fondly remember the younger version of your spouse and wish to behold that body again. But people age, sag, droop, get wrinkles, stretch marks, etc and still get turned on by each other. His friend who revealed what he said is a real AH.

This is so true! We’ve been married 37 years and all of those things have happened to our bodies even though we are both in darn good shape for our ages. But we can still turn each other on and do so frequently. If my husband has ever desired a different body type than mine he has never mentioned it nor have I even if we’ve both thought about it. When I look at pictures of my husband from 30 years ago I remember that body fondly. When I look at guys my husbands current age I look at my husbands current body fondly.