Carolyn Hax today

[Anonymous]

Honestly I think most women are too sensitive. Own your body and love it. Change it if you hate it, just don’t make it someone else’s problem to manage your body issues. I have large breasts and Dh said he preferred small boobs and a nice ass (I’m thin but my butt is pretty flat, not round in the way that kardashians have made popular). I don’t GAF. I love myself.

Frankly if you hate your AA boobs, then fix it. A girlfriend became a 32C after years. A lot of women I know have had reductions. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a boyfriend who told me after we'd been together for at least six months that he preferred small breasts and I have large breasts. It would have been a relationship breaker if he hadn't also been very attentive to my breasts and great at mammary stimulation. I decided not to hold that faux pas against him. I mean, I prefer larger penises to his but he was so good at his penis skills that I overlooked that and decided not to mention it as well.

how large are we talking about? and how small was his … sorry … what was the largest breasts he found attractive enough?

btw, best answer ever you had there!

[Anonymous]

Personally, I would be hurt. I would be mortified that he shared that he shared that with a friend and then to phrase it like he would always feel like he missed out if an ex didn’t have that attribute- whew. If you put the shoe on the other foot and she said that about the boyfriend and his attributes (or lack there of) to a friend - I don’t know that this would even be a question.

And as a side note - dating 2 1/2 years, umm, this should have been fiancé or pretty darn close by now so I am wondering how that fits into the story.

[Anonymous]

I love how this was originally about women being hurt by jerk men and jerk men turned it into a discussion on what type of breasts they like. UGH.

I love how your complaint was about "jerk men" turning into a discussion about the type of body they like and not jerk women talking about how the PP should complain about his size. And predictably, women making off-topic posts about this issue surfaced with three posts of the OP's first post.

This is the heart of DCUM: If men complain about women, it is open season to use any off-topic subject needed when responding.

And you can STFU with any reply such as "this hit a nerve" or "you must be on the small side" if your only focus has been how it is only the men who are jerks. UGH is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

The French have always said anymore than a 'coupe glass' is too big.

[Anonymous]

I don’t get what the GF is upset about. Is it what he said, or that he discussed her boobs with a friend? Neither seems like a big deal to me, though the latter makes more sense.

If my husband said this to my face, I’d be fine with it. If he said it to a friend I’d be mildly irritated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

The French have always said anymore than a 'coupe glass' is too big.

That’s why they lost the war.

[Anonymous]

I really would not care and I don't really get what she's upset about. He said it was an experience in a way that it might be a slight preference that is obviously not a dealbreaker for him and tat he got out of his system. So what? Maybe he thinks her legs or butt are so amazing or whatever he rarely thinks about it. Being upset about a comment made two years ago is just looking to make a mountain out of a molehill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really would not care and I don't really get what she's upset about. He said it was an experience in a way that it might be a slight preference that is obviously not a dealbreaker for him and tat he got out of his system. So what? Maybe he thinks her legs or butt are so amazing or whatever he rarely thinks about it. Being upset about a comment made two years ago is just looking to make a mountain out of a molehill.

It’s a problem because the OP has body image issues and will not be able to get over this. This is why the OP should break up. Not because of what he said but because she has serious issues about her body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

The French have always said anymore than a 'coupe glass' is too big.

My dad always said anything more than a mouthfull was excessive.
Yes, he did.

[Anonymous]

Women get crazy over the dumbest things. Man or women, if you've had other lovers before your spouse, of course there are things about them you may remember fondly including her larger breasts, his larger D, or 100 other things. It doesn't mean you reject your spouse over it. Some day, you will fondly remember the younger version of your spouse and wish to behold that body again. But people age, sag, droop, get wrinkles, stretch marks, etc and still get turned on by each other. His friend who revealed what he said is a real AH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I would be hurt. I would be mortified that he shared that he shared that with a friend and then to phrase it like he would always feel like he missed out if an ex didn’t have that attribute- whew. If you put the shoe on the other foot and she said that about the boyfriend and his attributes (or lack there of) to a friend - I don’t know that this would even be a question.

And as a side note - dating 2 1/2 years, umm, this should have been fiancé or pretty darn close by now so I am wondering how that fits into the story.

Why? A guy can't engage in guy talk with a friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women get crazy over the dumbest things. Man or women, if you've had other lovers before your spouse, of course there are things about them you may remember fondly including her larger breasts, his larger D, or 100 other things. It doesn't mean you reject your spouse over it. Some day, you will fondly remember the younger version of your spouse and wish to behold that body again. But people age, sag, droop, get wrinkles, stretch marks, etc and still get turned on by each other. His friend who revealed what he said is a real AH.

The so-called, friend was probably hitting on the wife. She doesn't even know if it's true or how exactly he phrased it if it is true. Also, his former lover having large boobs may be the only, or certainly the best thing he liked about her while it's just as possible she was lousy in bed and not that great or giving. After all, their relationship didn't survive while he married the smaller boobed woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here - I’m on the smaller size and definitely not one to walk around a locker room naked. But in my dating and now many married years I’ve never heard any complaints. My wife has small breasts that are pretty perky at age 48 which is much nicer than big breasts that sag.

+1. Male here. Far prefer my GF’s smaller, perky Bs than my exW’s DDs.

The French have always said anymore than a 'coupe glass' is too big.

My dad always said anything more than a mouthfull was excessive.
Yes, he did.

Gross.