Why are you dead set on being hateful and mean on here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The meanness is even more shocking when you consider that most posters are raising children. It’s embarrassing really. How would you feel if your children treated their friends and classmates the way some of you treat others here? It’s no excuse that this is some anonymous playground; you are still hateful and hurtful, and your actions have consequences, whether you realize it or not. Be better.

Other DCUM posters are not my kids friends or classmates.

You never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re lonely, pathetic people. I always report them.

I try to report them. Annoys me a bit when people quote them and tell them they stink as it makes it harder to clean up the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The cluelessness of so many makes it obvious that so many here have no idea what most people around them really think about their stupid BS. It’s no wonder they cry and get butthurt when they are confronted with reality.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think the anonymity of this board and the negativity permitted is one of DCUM's assets. You get straight answers, no BS. If you're being ridiculous, people will tell you so. No one will do that in real life.

+1

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I get why some of these examples annoy you guys and make you unsympathetic to the OP (or believe them to be a troll). I agree with many of your complaints about annoying or unreasonable behavior.

But my response to it is to… leave those threads. Which is also technically what the rules of this forum directs you to do. Don’t like an OP? Don’t respond. Responding only feeds that thread, boosts it on the board, gets more eyeballs on it. When someone is being an idiot or a troll, the best possible response is to ignore it. Or report it, if you must.

No one has actually provided a reason why being cruel or engaging in pile-ons is a justifiable response. Except the PP who said they find mean posters funny, which I personally disagree with (I usually just find these posts as annoying as the OP).

+ 100.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP here. I get why some of these examples annoy you guys and make you unsympathetic to the OP (or believe them to be a troll). I agree with many of your complaints about annoying or unreasonable behavior.

But my response to it is to… leave those threads. Which is also technically what the rules of this forum directs you to do. Don’t like an OP? Don’t respond. Responding only feeds that thread, boosts it on the board, gets more eyeballs on it. When someone is being an idiot or a troll, the best possible response is to ignore it. Or report it, if you must.

No one has actually provided a reason why being cruel or engaging in pile-ons is a justifiable response. Except the PP who said they find mean posters funny, which I personally disagree with (I usually just find these posts as annoying as the OP).

+ 100.

+1

There have been incidents where the offending party will try to say they are "joking" - but if you go back and look at their posts, it is quite obvious that it is more serious than "joking". You are not a child in a principal's office - grow up.

OP, some people pile it on just to pile it on, their lives suck that very much.

[Anonymous]

Just a curious question to OP: do you not find most women in the DC area to be quite rude in person, as well? Many of them are fairly monstrous in person.

[Anonymous]

I am not one of those posters however I see them in 96% of the threads posted on this forum.

I think the people that are so mean on here are pretty miserable in their real (offline) lives.
They likely carry a ton of suppressed internal anger around all the time + use this forum to blow off some steam every now + then.

I find it very unfair and unnecessary to do so…..and will likely call them out on this.

However if someone posts that they have cancer, have lost a child or another loved one, etc. the responses that follow are typically kind, sympathetic as well as heartwarming and empathetic.
Not a bad apple in the bunch.

[Anonymous]

I think 90% of the disagreements and rudeness on here could be avoided if people would:

1) Read. The. Original. Post. Read it, and don’t twist words or add stuff that isn’t there.

2) Read. The. Thread. If you waltz in on page 5, do you think you’re adding to the conversation by asking questions that have already been asked, making suggestions that have already been made, and making assumptions that have already been cleared up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure you’ll get meaningful responses with zero details or examples of what you’re referring to

I'm not OP here but they probably mean threads like--
OP: My next door neighbor had a backyard BBQ last night and invited everyone on our street--adults and kids. I'm confused because we have a good relationship. We have coffee together at least once a week and our kids play together. I'm kind of hurt. Should I say something?
Other People: Your DH is cheating on you with the neighbor.
Your kids are probably brats.
Do you play your music really loud?
MYOB.
No one owes you anything.
You sound needy and annoying.

All legitimate responses and possible reasons you wouldn't be invited when the entire neighborhood was.

The second last is the only legitimate one and it could be said a bit more gently.

Nope. They’re all legitimate except “your DH is cheating on you,” and the “your kids are brats” is about 50/50 legitimate. The rest are absolutely valid.

NP. But if they are completely unsupported by any facts presented, they are not valid and legitimate. It’s one thing to say “could it be that your music is too loud? I didn’t invite somebody once because her music was too loud.” It’s another thing to say “your neighbors probably hate you because you’re one of those obnoxious homeowners who plays music too loud, people like you are the reason I will now always live in an HOWA.”

[Anonymous]

It’s genuinely fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s genuinely fun.

Are you mean to people in real life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think 90% of the disagreements and rudeness on here could be avoided if people would:

1) Read. The. Original. Post. Read it, and don’t twist words or add stuff that isn’t there.

2) Read. The. Thread. If you waltz in on page 5, do you think you’re adding to the conversation by asking questions that have already been asked, making suggestions that have already been made, and making assumptions that have already been cleared up?

People who put. a. period. after. each. word. should be banned from DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Because people hate me.

And yes, the hating me came before my bitterness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because people hate me.

And yes, the hating me came before my bitterness.

I believe that. Thank you for your honesty.