GRR - Husband unable to "get relief" when having sex, becoming a huge problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a hornet teenager. So gross. It feels predatory to be honest. I would have sleeping next to someone who just sees me as a vessel to get off.

This is EXACTLY how I feel. He reminds me of a horny teenager that constantly has sex on his mind. He is always grabbing my breasts just in passing. I get out of bed early in the morning to avoid being forced. He will text me to come back to bed, then get pissed when I don't. To the other poster asking about bjs, etc, no- if he drank alcohol on top of his meds, nothing will work. It's exhausting and disgusting at this point.

OP, did you try sex therapy ? Is he able to achieve relief while watching porn? These are questions you didn’t answer. I am a woman but I do feel for him as I lived through something similar with my exH. At one point out of a sudden he just became so bland abs didn’t try in sex. He was finishing but I could not fit years. I could still satisfy myself. Turned out he was cheating.

I would try to save the relationship - if he’s decent otherwise as father and a good earner. What about other areas (finances, joint vacations, kids, common topics for conversation) ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does a BJ or HJ or mastrubating “give relief?”

He needs to talk to a better doctor or specialist

????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you despised him already and this is just bringing it to a head.

I agree. OP you have some valid pints, but why not also initiate occasionally and see what happens. Just fake like you want to. Comes with the territory of marriage.

Go away, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does a BJ or HJ or mastrubating “give relief?”

He needs to talk to a better doctor or specialist

????

Not sure why you are confused. “Give relief” = his orgasm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him “your orgasim is not my responsibility.”

Bingo! This is so true, minus the terrible spelling.

The terrible spelling was the point. If you know, you know.

[Anonymous]

If he is drinking while taking a benzodiazepine, he has bigger issues to worry about than just the sexual dysfunction. There is already an alcohol addiction, is there a sex addiction as well?

[Anonymous]

I'm now a middle aged man.

When I was younger, I thought I had to be good in bed (pay attention to her very specific needs and desires) in order to get her off, but i didn't need her to be particularly good at anything. Women almost always got off with me, even if they complained that they hadn't always gotten off with other guys. I paid a lot of attention to foreplay, what she was doing and saying, how she was breathing, etc. And I took my time. I always figured that I myself would get off no matter what.

Now I need a woman to be as attentive in bed as I am. They need to take their time with me. I can still "get relief" when I have an encounter with a woman who really gets into pleasing a man and we take time with one another, but the days of achieving a mutually satisfactory conclusion after frantically crashing into the refrigerator, and then the coffee table, and then falling onto the floor in a frantic whirlwind of clothes and body parts are probably behind me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him “your orgasim is not my responsibility.”

Bingo! This is so true, minus the terrible spelling.

The terrible spelling was the point. If you know, you know.

Uh, no, the OP of that thread apologized for the bad spelling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him “your orgasim is not my responsibility.”

Bingo! This is so true, minus the terrible spelling.

The terrible spelling was the point. If you know, you know.

Uh, no, the OP of that thread apologized for the bad spelling.

Uh, yes. This is a different thread and obviously the pp was paying homage to the other thread with the funny misspelling.

Are you retarded or something?

[Anonymous]

Milk his prostate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Milk his prostate.

I’m guessing most women wouldn’t be into this, and I’ve never had anyone offer to do this to me (nor have I asked for it). However, I’ve read that the results are almost explosive for the male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Milk his prostate.

I’m guessing most women wouldn’t be into this, and I’ve never had anyone offer to do this to me (nor have I asked for it). However, I’ve read that the results are almost explosive for the male.

Also no experience.

But an exGF had done it to men with supposedly tremendous results, and offered it, so long as I bought a box of latex gloves. I didn’t have any gloves. We broke up just after that for other reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Milk his prostate.

I’m guessing most women wouldn’t be into this, and I’ve never had anyone offer to do this to me (nor have I asked for it). However, I’ve read that the results are almost explosive for the male.

Had a FWB. Asked him if he trusted me and he said yes. Had him face down, A up and did something to get him going. He was putty in my hands. Once he was relaxed and ready, I found his prostate, gave him a few tugs, legs were shaking and it was over. He couldn’t speak and his toes were numb. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Milk his prostate.

I’m guessing most women wouldn’t be into this, and I’ve never had anyone offer to do this to me (nor have I asked for it). However, I’ve read that the results are almost explosive for the male.

Had a FWB. Asked him if he trusted me and he said yes. Had him face down, A up and did something to get him going. He was putty in my hands. Once he was relaxed and ready, I found his prostate, gave him a few tugs, legs were shaking and it was over. He couldn’t speak and his toes were numb. 🤣

Never heard of "milking the prostate" before... googling!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell him “your orgasim is not my responsibility.”

Bingo! This is so true, minus the terrible spelling.

The terrible spelling was the point. If you know, you know.

Uh, no, the OP of that thread apologized for the bad spelling.

Uh, yes. This is a different thread and obviously the pp was paying homage to the other thread with the funny misspelling.

Are you retarded or something?

That word hasn't been acceptable to use in 30 years. Are you 100 or something?