Boyfriend teases me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend makes fun of me daily. In general he is very sarcastic and funny, but I don’t like being teased all the time. It bothers me particularly because he is not good at giving words of affirmation. Through his actions I know that he cares for me and I enjoy his company, but the teasing sucks. I’ve voiced this and he said he understands. However the teasing seems to just be ingrained in him. Anyone just sick this type of thing up successfully?

My family does this to me and has always done it. But now I am tired of it, and it is too late for them to stop. I think you should break up as he hasn't changed after you asked him to stop.

My family does it to me, too. It’s annoying and exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You've asked him to and he won't. This relationship should be terminated.

To those asking "what kind of teasing?" ... just stop. It doesn't matter. He's doing something she's asked him to stop doing.

If OP's BF took a cup of water and dumped it on her every day, and she asked him to stop, but he didn't, would we be asking "Was it boiling hot water, or was it ice water?" TBH, DCUM probably would. For those of you who think it matters what kind of teasing she's getting, it doesn't. She's asked him to stop. So it's like she's getting a cup of ice water dumped on her every day. No, it doesn't leave physical scars. But she shouldn't be subjected to this. She asked that he stop. But instead he goes back to the sink to get another glass of water to dump on her.

It's easy to be kind. He's not being kind.

Wow. You need to lighten way up, PP. Female here.

Are you suggesting that when someone asks a person to stop a behavior they don’t like, stopping isn’t necessary? They should just suck it up and feel uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend makes fun of me daily. In general he is very sarcastic and funny, but I don’t like being teased all the time. It bothers me particularly because he is not good at giving words of affirmation. Through his actions I know that he cares for me and I enjoy his company, but the teasing sucks. I’ve voiced this and he said he understands. However the teasing seems to just be ingrained in him. Anyone just sick this type of thing up successfully?

My family does this to me and has always done it. But now I am tired of it, and it is too late for them to stop. I think you should break up as he hasn't changed after you asked him to stop.

My family does it to me, too. It’s annoying and exhausting.

+1 OP, if you don’t want this for the rest of your life, you need to go now. On the one hand, I have wonderful children who are who they are because he is my partner. But I find myself thinking more and more that I cannot keep experiencing this into my old age …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM is always too quick with "dump him" advice. In long lasting relationships, these are the things you both need to work on. "teasing" is no reason for breakup without trying.

No thanks. If I want that kind of behavior, I’ll hang out with my adolescent nephews.

[Anonymous]

Sarcasm — the tool of the idiot.

I sounds like a matter of a lack of respect for you, especially so if you’ve already brought it up clearly and directly.