Is “marrying well” a thing for men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a thread with a woman trying to get her son to “marry well”. I don’t know if I’m wrong, but as someone well off, it doesn’t seem like men have shown me extra interest because of it? I make 100k in my late twenties, no debt, and parents are worth around 15 million. I’m not conventionally pretty and men aren’t lining up to date me. I mean I don’t show off my wealth but my salary is easy to figure out and after a few dates it’s probably apparent I have family money. Are there actually men who want to marry up wealth wise? I guess I’m surprised.

Statistically heirs get about 25% of family money. Everything else is lost in divorces, remarriages, trust fights, legal and management fees. So don't think you would be worth $15mm unless both of your parents are already 85 y.o.

You need to have assets titled to your name, and a higher income to consider yourself a candidate for a man who wants to marry up. You haven't earned anything yet, and your salary is low. Inheritance is also separate property, and your parents won't like it commingled.

Do you realize how uncommon it is for a woman to be making six figures in her twenties without student loans? Are you delusional?

Not that uncommon these days in this area.

[Anonymous]

In 2022, well educated is a pretty good proxy for intelligence.

Badly educated people like to think they are just as smart or smarter than the average person who went to a good college, but this is not true.

This is DC. There is no shortage of women who are intelligent enough. I don’t care about your resume. Save it for potential employers, not potential spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

In 2022, well educated is a pretty good proxy for intelligence.

Badly educated people like to think they are just as smart or smarter than the average person who went to a good college, but this is not true.

This is DC. There is no shortage of women who are intelligent enough. I don’t care about your resume. Save it for potential employers, not potential spouses.

How old are you and how many times have you been divorced?

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it matters much how much your salary is. I think what matters is the overall lifestyle. If anything, high salary can play against you as surely you won’t be relaxed and will expect some work grind from your spouse as well…