What to do? My friend may die.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

Whoa, OP. You sound like the rude and nasty one to me. I agree with the other poster that your response to her advice sounded a little oblivious "maybe we can send over a meal kit or something." Why would you blithely say that if you haven't ever had one? In fact your whole post is about you. You don't seem to care much about your friend or her family. Just me, me, me. Yuck. She's better off without you. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

Whoa, OP. You sound like the rude and nasty one to me. I agree with the other poster that your response to her advice sounded a little oblivious "maybe we can send over a meal kit or something." Why would you blithely say that if you haven't ever had one? In fact your whole post is about you. You don't seem to care much about your friend or her family. Just me, me, me. Yuck. She's better off without you. Truly.

More trolls, I see. 😈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

Whoa, OP. You sound like the rude and nasty one to me. I agree with the other poster that your response to her advice sounded a little oblivious "maybe we can send over a meal kit or something." Why would you blithely say that if you haven't ever had one? In fact your whole post is about you. You don't seem to care much about your friend or her family. Just me, me, me. Yuck. She's better off without you. Truly.

More trolls, I see. 😈

No, just willing to call out bad behavior on the part of OP, who sounds much more concerned about herself than her "friend."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

Whoa, OP. You sound like the rude and nasty one to me. I agree with the other poster that your response to her advice sounded a little oblivious "maybe we can send over a meal kit or something." Why would you blithely say that if you haven't ever had one? In fact your whole post is about you. You don't seem to care much about your friend or her family. Just me, me, me. Yuck. She's better off without you. Truly.

More trolls, I see. 😈

No, just willing to call out bad behavior on the part of OP, who sounds much more concerned about herself than her "friend."

Yet another person who thinks they know the whole story from lines others have called too vague.

Bad behavior is attacking someone who is upset about their sick friend. I sent food before and it wasn’t well received. To be nice, I said to the other poster we might get the meal kit, because I didn’t feel like explaining it would not be appreciated.

Caring about other people means doing something they would find helpful. Sending food wasn’t welcomed before so it’s not something they want. I’m the same way. I don’t want to eat food sent by others.

Think before you post. You don’t know everything but you sound like someone who thinks you do, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks again, all!

I wanted to let you all know the friend survived major surgery. Doctors are optimistic. Friend will be in hospital a long time yet and it’s comforting to know they will have medical help nearby while they recuperate.

They have received phone calls and are sending their own updates again about progress and that seems promising.

OP

That's great news! Have you spoken to your friend's spouse or partner or parents or kids? Can you help them while they help your friend? They're probably exhausted and they may just need a little break - someone to take the kids out for ice cream or to do a play date, someone to spell them at the hospital so they can go home and take a nap, someone to sit at the house while Merry Maids is there cleaning, those kinds of things.

Great ideas! Maybe we can send over a meal kit or something. Our neighbors use an online service to arrange meals. Maybe there is something like that.

DON'T do a meal kit. That's more work on them. The point is to make their lives easier, not harder. Sheesh. If you're going to do a meal kit, then you might as well send over a mop, bucket and cleaning supplies. Try to think about what they need and would appreciate, not the easy route for you.

You’re rude. I’ve never ordered a meal kit, Sinai didn’t know it was “too hard.”

It’s odd you would assume I was thinking about what is easier for me. You don’t know any of the details or back story and yet you are an expert, apparently.

Such a weird response from you.

OP

Whoa, OP. You sound like the rude and nasty one to me. I agree with the other poster that your response to her advice sounded a little oblivious "maybe we can send over a meal kit or something." Why would you blithely say that if you haven't ever had one? In fact your whole post is about you. You don't seem to care much about your friend or her family. Just me, me, me. Yuck. She's better off without you. Truly.

More trolls, I see. 😈

No, just willing to call out bad behavior on the part of OP, who sounds much more concerned about herself than her "friend."

Yet another person who thinks they know the whole story from lines others have called too vague.

Bad behavior is attacking someone who is upset about their sick friend. I sent food before and it wasn’t well received. To be nice, I said to the other poster we might get the meal kit, because I didn’t feel like explaining it would not be appreciated.

Caring about other people means doing something they would find helpful. Sending food wasn’t welcomed before so it’s not something they want. I’m the same way. I don’t want to eat food sent by others.

Think before you post. You don’t know everything but you sound like someone who thinks you do, troll.

DP. It is 8 am and too early to be drunk posting. Go back to bed and sleep it off.