What do you do if someone is absurdly jealous of where you live?

[Anonymous]

Years ago I dated a girl who bagged her Uncle had the best home on all of Long Island. It seems her parents were jealous even though they had a huge home.

So I get invited I pull up to the seven car garage house that is maybe 7,000 square feet park in front and announce to girlfriend nice but I have seen better.

Slow eye roll and she goes I hope so that is the guest house.

I recall I counted the kitchen table had 32 seats. He even had a huge sectional with massive TV as did not want to miss the game while his chef was cooking up food at halftime.

Me and him bonded. I recall nice guy. Tells me let you take you out back I have a super nice boat I want to show you.

So he had a nice 40 foot boat on his dock. I go nice I have seen bigger joking with him.

He goes I hope so that is boat I use to get to my boat. The guy had a 200 foot boat out in the harbor. He had the big boat as it took a crew of 13 to operate.

I went there a second time and the Guy owned 7 rolls Royces Royces. Not new ones like ones from 1920s to 1950s fully restored.

Since that no house makes me jealous. I recall it was off Great Gatsby Lane in Kings Point NY.

He also owned an aqua car. That car you can drive on water he takes from his house to city Island on Bronx for Lobstet dinners.

Unless you have a house like that. His is worth 20-40 million today. Doubt he is still alive.

[Anonymous]

I like my SFH and neighborhood a lot. DCUM has christened it bumfuc$$istan. So be it.

The only place I would move to is Hawaii, even if it meant living in a small apartment near the beach.

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago I dated a girl who bagged her Uncle had the best home on all of Long Island. It seems her parents were jealous even though they had a huge home.

So I get invited I pull up to the seven car garage house that is maybe 7,000 square feet park in front and announce to girlfriend nice but I have seen better.

Slow eye roll and she goes I hope so that is the guest house.

I recall I counted the kitchen table had 32 seats. He even had a huge sectional with massive TV as did not want to miss the game while his chef was cooking up food at halftime.

Me and him bonded. I recall nice guy. Tells me let you take you out back I have a super nice boat I want to show you.

So he had a nice 40 foot boat on his dock. I go nice I have seen bigger joking with him.

He goes I hope so that is boat I use to get to my boat. The guy had a 200 foot boat out in the harbor. He had the big boat as it took a crew of 13 to operate.

I went there a second time and the Guy owned 7 rolls Royces Royces. Not new ones like ones from 1920s to 1950s fully restored.

Since that no house makes me jealous. I recall it was off Great Gatsby Lane in Kings Point NY.

He also owned an aqua car. That car you can drive on water he takes from his house to city Island on Bronx for Lobstet dinners.

Unless you have a house like that. His is worth 20-40 million today. Doubt he is still alive.

I was really hoping this was working up to a great pithy punchline, but instead it's just a rambling anecdote about how you met someone really rich once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

How does this comment help the thread move forward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

How does this comment help the thread move forward?

how do any of these comments help?? most don't

[Anonymous]

Back to the topic at hand. I’d be shocked if someone got all jealous and weird over McLean. And I didn’t even know what UES stood for until someone explained it. I don’t know the difference between Vienna, Oakton, McLean and Great Falls. And I’ve lived in Virginia for over 20 years. I think the OP feels superior for whatever reason and shows her sense of superiority when interacting with others so she is incorrectly interpreting their utter lack of caring where she lives as jealousy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

Yeah, nobody is jealous of anyone living anywhere in the DC area. I could totally see myself being jealous of someone with oceanfront private property on a Caribbean island, or private lodge with ski access in Beaver Creek.

DC? Hah!

+1 lol right? i promise you all, no matter the location, no matter how tasteful the renovations, no one is jealous of your DC-area house.
Now your private 10,000 acre ranch in Wyoming that borders Yellowstone and is fully staffed with chefs and maids and where you spend retreat time making art and horsebackriding: Yes.

That's not an atypical reaction from people who can't afford one of the more expensive areas in DC, but make themselves feel better by reassuring themselves that the people they envy may not own a big spread in Malibu or Jackson Hole, either.

Nobody dreams of living in McLean. Please just stop. If not for the job market and government being right there, McLean wouldn’t be a thing.

But it's right between the two main job centers in the region and the Federal Government is but a few miles away, so here we are.

You do realize that you're coming across as exactly the type of person OP is describing. It's easy enough to laugh at people like you on DCUM, but it's a bit more distracting IRL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

Yeah, nobody is jealous of anyone living anywhere in the DC area. I could totally see myself being jealous of someone with oceanfront private property on a Caribbean island, or private lodge with ski access in Beaver Creek.

DC? Hah!

+1 lol right? i promise you all, no matter the location, no matter how tasteful the renovations, no one is jealous of your DC-area house.
Now your private 10,000 acre ranch in Wyoming that borders Yellowstone and is fully staffed with chefs and maids and where you spend retreat time making art and horsebackriding: Yes.

That's not an atypical reaction from people who can't afford one of the more expensive areas in DC, but make themselves feel better by reassuring themselves that the people they envy may not own a big spread in Malibu or Jackson Hole, either.

Nobody dreams of living in McLean. Please just stop. If not for the job market and government being right there, McLean wouldn’t be a thing.

But it's right between the two main job centers in the region and the Federal Government is but a few miles away, so here we are.

You do realize that you're coming across as exactly the type of person OP is describing. It's easy enough to laugh at people like you on DCUM, but it's a bit more distracting IRL.

You just proved PP’s point. If not for that, McLean wouldn’t be relevant.

Nobody would get jealous of someone living in a nice suburb unless you have some severe insecurities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic at hand. I’d be shocked if someone got all jealous and weird over McLean. And I didn’t even know what UES stood for until someone explained it. I don’t know the difference between Vienna, Oakton, McLean and Great Falls. And I’ve lived in Virginia for over 20 years. I think the OP feels superior for whatever reason and shows her sense of superiority when interacting with others so she is incorrectly interpreting their utter lack of caring where she lives as jealousy.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. Do you live in Mclean or the UES, or do you have properties in both?

I assume OP has residences in both places and says McLean when talking to people in the DC area and UES with in the NYC area.

We moved to McLean from another DC-area suburb and noticed (1) more people that we knew along the Boston-DC corridor specifically congratulating us for moving to McLean (it does have more name recognition in certain professional circles than most DC-area suburbs) and (2) some people who over the years have made teasing comments based on assumptions about, for example, our neighbors or the level of services that they assume people in McLean receive from the county, etc.

But it's not that often, and not malicious, so it's not like any particular strategy is needed other than "thanks" or "ha, ha."

“Congratulations” on moving to McLean? This is absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

How does this comment help the thread move forward?

DP, but it’s pointing out that OP is most likely reading these situations incorrectly. Especially since it has happened multiple times. People are not that pressed to live in McLean.

[Anonymous]

To the rest of the world, most ppl would prefer DC over Maryland or virginia. Just like ppl prefer New York over michigan. Unless u hv family there or smtng. The life, money, people are something to look forward to. Nothing wrong w that. That’s just how the rest of us see it. U guys arguing over whose house is bigger is crazy, only u guys see that, the rest of us want to see the tourist areas, popular, world-famous scenes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d never get jealous of anyone living in a suburb of DC or even DC proper. I can see somewhere like Iceland or Australia. But not your standard, run of the mill DC burb. That’s just weird.

+1

There’s nowhere in the USA that I’d be jealous of living at. Even if they lived somewhere like Martha’s Vineyard. But it’s laughable that anyone would be jealous that someone has a McMansion in McLean or bethesda. Who cares.

There’s a reason why I hardly visit this forum these days lol. This topic is one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the rest of the world, most ppl would prefer DC over Maryland or virginia. Just like ppl prefer New York over michigan. Unless u hv family there or smtng. The life, money, people are something to look forward to. Nothing wrong w that. That’s just how the rest of us see it. U guys arguing over whose house is bigger is crazy, only u guys see that, the rest of us want to see the tourist areas, popular, world-famous scenes

Hard disagree. As someone who could live in DC, we chose Virginia. There are several reasons why one would pick Maryland and Virginia over dc itself.