What time does your 11/12 year old kid go to sleep?

[Anonymous]

Almost 13 and he goes to bed by 9 or 9:30. I get antsy if he isn’t in bed by 9:30. He has to be up at 6:30 for school. But he is an early riser anyway so he doesn’t fight going to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 10 and 12. 10 year old has always needed more sleep than the 12 year old. Both need to be totally ready for bed and in their rooms by 830. 10 year old is allowed to read or draw in bed until 9. 12 year old can do whatever (but no electronics) until 9 and then can read or draw in bed until 930.

Add 30 mins to those times on Friday and Saturday nights.

Your 12yr old middle schooler is in bed by 8:30pm? That seems so early. We have elementary school functions like concerts, science fair, etc.. that go beyond 8:30pm and my middle schooler has soccer from 6:30-8:30pm. They don't have to be up until 7:30am though.

No, she doesn't have to be in bed until 9. Lights out by 9:30. She just has to be ready for bed and in her room at 8:30, mainly because my 10 year would lose his mind if she got to stay out in the living room with us while he had to go to bed.

Wait what? Your youngest dictates what the older one can and can not do because you can’t parent your kids? I loathe parents with no backbone and raise whiny ass kids.

The older one stays up later and gets more privileges. That’s life. You gonna raise them like twins so the younger one doesn’t cry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8:15 on school nights (has to get up at 6:40am!) and 9pm otherwise.

It is still light out at 8:15

[Anonymous]

So kids get phones at 11yrs old to look at porn and social media, but still have Mommy tucking them in at 8:30?

What kind of backwards world are we living in?

[Anonymous]

My almost 12 year old goes to bed at 10 pm and wakes up at 8 am for a 9 am school start. She’s a natural night owl. Would stay up all night if we let her.

[Anonymous]

11 yo: Not hard and fast rule, but all ready, in bed by 9:00 but can stay up reading (I rarely check but assume asleep around 10, although some nights she claims to have read until midnight). Wakes up at 7:30.

[Anonymous]

We aim for earlier but usually 9:30-9:45.

[Anonymous]

Screentime starts at 11

[Anonymous]

11yo (5th grade) goes to bed at 9. Up at 7:15.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:insanity
my 10 yo goes to bed at 11 at best

3 pages of responses and other people are the insane ones?

yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I laugh at this. No way middle schoolers are going to sleep at 8pm. Are your kids just hermits and have no activities or events in the evening? Are you all SAHM?

It is still light outside, kids playing/biking, and your middle schoolers are going to bed?!?! Gotta be trolls.

Very few people are saying anything in the 8pm hour. Standard answer seems to be 9 to 9:30.

As for my own kid, I offered 9 to 9:15pm and that's school nights. In the summer and on weekends, depends what else is going on but I try not to let it go past 10:30/11 just because my particular kid doesn't sleep in much.

[Anonymous]

12 yr old around 10pm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 10 and 12. 10 year old has always needed more sleep than the 12 year old. Both need to be totally ready for bed and in their rooms by 830. 10 year old is allowed to read or draw in bed until 9. 12 year old can do whatever (but no electronics) until 9 and then can read or draw in bed until 930.

Add 30 mins to those times on Friday and Saturday nights.

Your 12yr old middle schooler is in bed by 8:30pm? That seems so early. We have elementary school functions like concerts, science fair, etc.. that go beyond 8:30pm and my middle schooler has soccer from 6:30-8:30pm. They don't have to be up until 7:30am though.

No, she doesn't have to be in bed until 9. Lights out by 9:30. She just has to be ready for bed and in her room at 8:30, mainly because my 10 year would lose his mind if she got to stay out in the living room with us while he had to go to bed.

Wait what? Your youngest dictates what the older one can and can not do because you can’t parent your kids? I loathe parents with no backbone and raise whiny ass kids.

The older one stays up later and gets more privileges. That’s life. You gonna raise them like twins so the younger one doesn’t cry?

+1

The older one will 100% resent the younger brother but they aren’t whining so lazy mom doesn’t care

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I laugh at this. No way middle schoolers are going to sleep at 8pm. Are your kids just hermits and have no activities or events in the evening? Are you all SAHM?

It is still light outside, kids playing/biking, and your middle schoolers are going to bed?!?! Gotta be trolls.

Very few people are saying anything in the 8pm hour. Standard answer seems to be 9 to 9:30.

As for my own kid, I offered 9 to 9:15pm and that's school nights. In the summer and on weekends, depends what else is going on but I try not to let it go past 10:30/11 just because my particular kid doesn't sleep in much.

No, most are saying between 8-9pm for their middle schoolers.

[Anonymous]

10:15