Would you accept if your nanny volunteered to work an extra half hour for free?

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Anonymous wrote:No, I’d pay her.

OP here. We really can’t afford to since it’s time-and-a-half.

Then send her home and play with your own children

+1 if you can’t afford it send her home. Like others have said, it’s not legal to have her work and not pay her.

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Anonymous wrote:No. You need to tell your child no when he asks her. She is just being polite. She does not want to stay an extra 30 min reading to your kid every day. However, she is likely young and wants to be nice and doesn’t know how to say no and doesn’t want you to think she’s being rude or unkind to your kid. You have to teach your kid that nanny gets to go home when you come home and has other things to do.

This. Your kid can’t always get everything he wants. This is a good time to reinforce that message and that nanny has already worked a long day and needs to rest at home.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of your nanny and not illegal. She’s an adult and can make her own decisions on her own time.

No, she cannot and it is illegal.

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Anonymous wrote:We would just add extra to the nanny's tip.

What tip? Nannies aren't tipped. They are hourly domestic employees and Federal labor law clearly states they must be paid for all time worked

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I would just make it clear Nanny is there for the story time and you are the caretaker. Go in and tell kid if he needs anything ask you. Go in and you handle the goodbye.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I am a salaried employee but my secretary is an hourly employee and is paid for all hours worked. Even if she requests comp time for working extra hours, I cannot give her comp time because she is an hourly employee.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I'm paid a salary. I'm guessing nanny is paid hourly, therefore she needs to be compensated for all time worked.

But she’s not “working”. She’s choosing to stay to hang out with just the older child. Mother is now in charge.

Sorry, I’m a nanny and I honestly don’t see the problem.

Well there is a huge problem because it is illegal. A domestic employee cannot give free time. If yourneighbor:s high school daughter offers to read a story to your child, fine. She is not an employee.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I'm paid a salary. I'm guessing nanny is paid hourly, therefore she needs to be compensated for all time worked.

But she’s not “working”. She’s choosing to stay to hang out with just the older child. Mother is now in charge.

Sorry, I’m a nanny and I honestly don’t see the problem.

Well there is a huge problem because it is illegal. A domestic employee cannot give free time. If yourneighbor:s high school daughter offers to read a story to your child, fine. She is not an employee.

It is not illegal! Jesus, you people are nuts. If the nanny comes over as a guest for dinner, do you have to pay her? This nanny has volunteered to spend some time at the end of her day alone with her older child.


She isn’t working as her work involves the care of both kids.

The nanny wants a few minutes with her charge. It’s fine, drama debs! No laws broken and no huge debate.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I'm paid a salary. I'm guessing nanny is paid hourly, therefore she needs to be compensated for all time worked.

But she’s not “working”. She’s choosing to stay to hang out with just the older child. Mother is now in charge.

Sorry, I’m a nanny and I honestly don’t see the problem.

Well there is a huge problem because it is illegal. A domestic employee cannot give free time. If yourneighbor:s high school daughter offers to read a story to your child, fine. She is not an employee.

It is not illegal! Jesus, you people are nuts. If the nanny comes over as a guest for dinner, do you have to pay her? This nanny has volunteered to spend some time at the end of her day alone with her older child.


She isn’t working as her work involves the care of both kids.

The nanny wants a few minutes with her charge. It’s fine, drama debs! No laws broken and no huge debate.

+1. I’m a nanny and some of these comments are patently ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I'm paid a salary. I'm guessing nanny is paid hourly, therefore she needs to be compensated for all time worked.

But she’s not “working”. She’s choosing to stay to hang out with just the older child. Mother is now in charge.

Sorry, I’m a nanny and I honestly don’t see the problem.

Well there is a huge problem because it is illegal. A domestic employee cannot give free time. If yourneighbor:s high school daughter offers to read a story to your child, fine. She is not an employee.

It is not illegal! Jesus, you people are nuts. If the nanny comes over as a guest for dinner, do you have to pay her? This nanny has volunteered to spend some time at the end of her day alone with her older child.


She isn’t working as her work involves the care of both kids.

The nanny wants a few minutes with her charge. It’s fine, drama debs! No laws broken and no huge debate.

If your nanny comes as a guest for dinner you don’t need to pay her because she’s not working. If she’s caring for a kid, while the parent is busy elsewhere she is working. I don’t know what planet you’re living on that you think the nanny is only working if she’s watching 2 kids but it’s not true.

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Anonymous wrote:You people act like your Nannies are children or mentally disabled! If a nanny wants to do more on her own dime, let her!!

Big fat no. And you have zero integrity.

NP here. Do none of you ever stay late to complete a project or task?

Why can’t the nanny decide for herself?

I'm paid a salary. I'm guessing nanny is paid hourly, therefore she needs to be compensated for all time worked.

But she’s not “working”. She’s choosing to stay to hang out with just the older child. Mother is now in charge.

Sorry, I’m a nanny and I honestly don’t see the problem.

Well there is a huge problem because it is illegal. A domestic employee cannot give free time. If yourneighbor:s high school daughter offers to read a story to your child, fine. She is not an employee.

It is not illegal! Jesus, you people are nuts. If the nanny comes over as a guest for dinner, do you have to pay her? This nanny has volunteered to spend some time at the end of her day alone with her older child.


She isn’t working as her work involves the care of both kids.

The nanny wants a few minutes with her charge. It’s fine, drama debs! No laws broken and no huge debate.

If your nanny comes as a guest for dinner you don’t need to pay her because she’s not working. If she’s caring for a kid, while the parent is busy elsewhere she is working. I don’t know what planet you’re living on that you think the nanny is only working if she’s watching 2 kids but it’s not true.

She is spending time with the older kid at her request and not working. What planet do you live on that believes every moment spent with a child needs to be compensated?

Nanny here. I routinely see my former charges without being paid and often stay late without being paid if my charge is having a hard time with my leaving. I trust other nannies know their own minds and can make decisions for themselves.

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Nanny here. I generally stay late or come early without compensation. It’s no big deal and my choice. Sometimes the kids are having so much fun at the park and I let them stay later. I come early because it’s easier for me to get set up when the parents are still there.

This is the closest and most personal relationship I’ve ever had with employers due to Covid where they saw no one but me and I saw no one but them. I even spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with them that first year.

I would also say to trust your nanny knows her own mind. Let her do as she asks.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I generally stay late or come early without compensation. It’s no big deal and my choice. Sometimes the kids are having so much fun at the park and I let them stay later. I come early because it’s easier for me to get set up when the parents are still there.

This is the closest and most personal relationship I’ve ever had with employers due to Covid where they saw no one but me and I saw no one but them. I even spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with them that first year.

I would also say to trust your nanny knows her own mind. Let her do as she asks.

Stupidity reigns supreme with nannies working for free for both nanny and employer. It is illegal. End of discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I generally stay late or come early without compensation. It’s no big deal and my choice. Sometimes the kids are having so much fun at the park and I let them stay later. I come early because it’s easier for me to get set up when the parents are still there.

This is the closest and most personal relationship I’ve ever had with employers due to Covid where they saw no one but me and I saw no one but them. I even spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with them that first year.

I would also say to trust your nanny knows her own mind. Let her do as she asks.

Stupidity reigns supreme with nannies working for free for both nanny and employer. It is illegal. End of discussion.

It’s not illegal, you idiot! The nanny is not offering to work for free; she wants/is offering to stay and play with the older kid.

And someone as illiterate and ugly as you does not get to end the discussion.

- signed, a nanny.

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OP here. There are some very loving nannies on this thread.

I’m going to let our nanny do whatever she wants on her own time. Thanks for the input, everyone. It’s been very clarifying.