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Would you accept if your nanny volunteered to work an extra half hour for free?
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Anonymous
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Since my older child started preschool, he’s been begging nanny to stay later and just play or read with him without the baby sister. Nanny agrees most days but made it clear that this is her choice and not expected to be paid.
It’s very kind of her but I feel weird accepting. |
Anonymous
| Sure! You’re lucky you have such a loving nanny. She clearly misses him when he’s at school too. |
Anonymous
| I'm guessing she is refusing pay because she doesn't want to commit to doing this. I'd just up her check to cover the time. I would also be uncomfortable with her doing this for free. |
Anonymous
| It’s illegal. If you suffer or permit her to work, you need to pay her for it. She’s okay with it now but if things ever go bad, she could sue you. Why not just adjust her hours to account for more time? You could do in in conjunction with her annual raise. And then just let her go early on other days. But there’s probably a larger problem in that kids always want just one more story, so if you expand her day he’ll just want her to stay even longer. So you need to get your son to respect boundaries. That might require some more prepping for when he end time is. Like — okay larlo, nanny needs to leave in 15 minutes so let’s pick the last book for today and then sing the goodbye song! Or whatever. Kids do better with transitions if they have warning and are allowed to be part of the process. |
Anonymous
| Build the special time into her schedule and pay her. As PP said, it’s legally dubious. |
Anonymous
| Nope. I would pay her for that time. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t. I might try to hire on the weekend once a month for an outing with older sib if she’s agreeable. |
Anonymous
| Does he not want to play 1-on 1 with you? |
Anonymous
| Just make sure you give her a really good bonus. |
Anonymous
| Maybe nanny should start giving your child a 15 minute warning before you arrive home so that they can do that last story/hug/whatever within her hours? |
Anonymous
OP here. Our time with DS since he started school is the same as it was before he started school. His time with nanny is what’s changed. And changed considerably. |
Anonymous
| It’s kind of your nanny and not illegal. She’s an adult and can make her own decisions on her own time. |
Anonymous
| No, I’d pay her. |
Anonymous
OP here. We really can’t afford to since it’s time-and-a-half. |
Anonymous
| We would just add extra to the nanny's tip. |