Am I too mean to say that even though it is true?

[Anonymous]

You seem the type of mom to make the dog suddenly disappear because your 6-year-old didn't refresh the water dish on the timetable you prefer.

Is there a loving friend or relative you could rehome your son with?

[Anonymous]

Aww that it pretty mean OP. I would never say that to my 5 year old. She tells me she’s going to live with me forever and I’m savoring it. There are positive ways to encourage independence.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I think it's mean. And it makes the kid sad already -damaging.

If you are worried about him picking up after himself, let him have his own space that he's responsible for.
I moved my son to a downstairs apartment and he's big on doing his own laundry. Even started buying his own hygiene products. Crap, he even started cutting his own hair...
too independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You seem the type of mom to make the dog suddenly disappear because your 6-year-old didn't refresh the water dish on the timetable you prefer.

Is there a loving friend or relative you could rehome your son with?

The sooner, the better. I'd like to give him a hug a tell him he can come to live with me when she kicks him out. I cannot imagine the damage OP had done to this child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You seem the type of mom to make the dog suddenly disappear because your 6-year-old didn't refresh the water dish on the timetable you prefer.

Is there a loving friend or relative you could rehome your son with?

The sooner, the better. I'd like to give him a hug a tell him he can come to live with me when she kicks him out. I cannot imagine the damage OP had done to this child.

Yep seriously.

OP, would you feel embarrassed if your child told his friends and teachers that you tell him this?

[Anonymous]

Be careful what you wish for, OP. Once your son comes of age he might not want to have anything to do with you.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's mean. But I think you realize that and that's a good thing. What I get from you is feeling depressed and overwhelmed with a challenging child. You're at your wits end because nothing seems to be working and maybe all the responsibility is falling to you. Pick ⚒️ me behavior at a time you'd like to work on.

Maybe start with wiping himself. . You can get good advice here or online or even from child's pediatrician.

Don't give up but do change your methods

[Anonymous]

I remember telling our youngest when she was six that if she didn’t figure out how to sleep in her own bed that she would have to go to college close to home, and she said that’s okay there are lots of good colleges near here! Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want my 6 year old to be less relied on me to do things for him( e.g. shower, put on clothing, flush toilet after use, clean up after himself etc) and be more independent growing up. I have been telling him that when he turns 18, he will be kicked out of house and no longer living with us because he is no longer a child. He will either go to college (live in dorm) or go to work to earn for his living (live outside). He is more than welcome to visit us because here is always his home.

Don't worry, he is flooded with many love/attention and I still do a lot of things for him because it is a learning process. I just want to let him know that mommy will die one day and he needs to grow up to learn to do things by himself. Once or twice a month, he would say that he will feel sad because there's only 12 years left before he is going to be kicked out. He would ask if I will give him some money before he leaves, or will he have a party before he leave home. I know some kids of his age help out at home and do some simple chores, and he always leave me a mess to clean up and complain/whine when I am not available that second to help him.

Do you tell your kid that at age 18, he/she is no longer a child but have to be independent on their own with minimum family support? Am I too mean to tell him the real fact ? DH tells me that he took student loan and moved far away from home to college when he turned age 18, and he never moved back to home even he works/lives at the same city as his parents. He visits his family, but he would not move back once he had a taste of privacy and freedom.

OMG, you’re horrible. Why do you burden a 6 year old like that. What is wrong with you. My 6 year old wants to live with us forever and I told him, absolutely he can, why the hell would I give him the “life talk” at this young age. You’re not normal and your child will grow up resenting you.