Proposal with cheap ring

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to get it appraised for insurance if it is over $15K. Was it his grandma's? The PP was right about unserious engagement. MAKE SURE HE SETS A DATE AND GETS HIS FAMILY MEMBER/FRIEND to book a NONREFUNDABLE payment on a flight or venue.

Brides' American Wedding Study found that the average couples spent on an engagement ring in 2020 was $3,756, which is less than the $7,829 average couples spent in 2018https://www.brides.com/story/proper-cost-of-engagement-ring

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Anonymous wrote:I had to unlearn a lot of things during my adulthood, including all the bullshit surrounding relationships and engagements and weddings and marriages. I’m sure it stings a little if all the other women at work or tennis or yoga have 5 carat blinders. So you need to ask yourself what’s really important. Because so many people are blinded by all the nonsense (like rings) that they don’t even ask themselves if they really want to spend the rest of their lives with the guy. If you want to spend the rest of your life with the guy, don’t worry about the ring. Also don’t ever mention it to him. Ever.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Gold digger

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to get it appraised for insurance if it is over $15K. Was it his grandma's? The PP was right about unserious engagement. MAKE SURE HE SETS A DATE AND GETS HIS FAMILY MEMBER/FRIEND to book a NONREFUNDABLE payment on a flight or venue.

Brides' American Wedding Study found that the average couples spent on an engagement ring in 2020 was $3,756, which is less than the $7,829 average couples spent in 2018https://www.brides.com/story/proper-cost-of-engagement-ring

This is all so ridiculous to me. Especially after learning the history of the diamond engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

I suspect OP is a man looking to gauge how a $10k ring will be received by his partner.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to get it appraised for insurance if it is over $15K. Was it his grandma's? The PP was right about unserious engagement. MAKE SURE HE SETS A DATE AND GETS HIS FAMILY MEMBER/FRIEND to book a NONREFUNDABLE payment on a flight or venue.

Brides' American Wedding Study found that the average couples spent on an engagement ring in 2020 was $3,756, which is less than the $7,829 average couples spent in 2018https://www.brides.com/story/proper-cost-of-engagement-ring

This is all so ridiculous to me. Especially after learning the history of the diamond engagement ring.

Yes, it's an archaic tradition.

[Anonymous]

He should run.

[Anonymous]

We completely forgot about rings, and so the justice of the peace made some out of Post-it notes. We've been married 23 years.

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Anonymous wrote:We completely forgot about rings, and so the justice of the peace made some out of Post-it notes. We've been married 23 years.

Many obsessed with expensive rings gets divorced. That's part of the master plan-wife for hire until child support/alimony.

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To be fair to OP, i can see where a small ring could be a source of stress for the wearer in their social circle. Like if you want to hang out at The Club with a bunch of pretentious b’s, your small ring might be out of place. So in that case I’d spend the money to get a great CZ or something. If that’s important to you.

But actually spending a lot on a ring seems crazy. I’d much rather have a down payment on a house.

I got a family ring and people used to tell me all the time to “make” DH buy me a ring too, but that would actually have made us not be able to buy our house. That seems ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I posted about this before but a friend of ours proposed with a cheap ring on purpose so he could judge if his girlfriend (of 4 years!) was materialistic. He said she’d agree to marry him even with a cheap ring. It was also an ugly ring in a yellow gold setting and wasn’t a pear like she liked. She dumped him. She said her proposal wasn’t the time for him to be setting a trap for her. She was pissed that he’d take a romantic moment and turn it into some weird anti materialistic stance. He made over 150k (so did she). We all agreed with her and thought it was particularly nasty and cheap of him. She said she would have said yes to the proposal if there hadn’t been a ring. She didn’t care about how much he’d spent.

[Anonymous]

So he spent $10,000 on a gift for you. He loves you enough to ask you to spend the rest of your life with him. You should say no to the proposal because this relationship is clearly not right for either of you. If you loved him, you wouldn't feel insulted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a joke, right?

Probably not. There is no shortage of shallow personalities.

[Anonymous]

I always said I'd rather have an engagement car than an engagement ring. 😂

OP, do you actually love the guy, the person, the human from whom you expect a ring? The answer to that question will tell you how much you should care about the ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted about this before but a friend of ours proposed with a cheap ring on purpose so he could judge if his girlfriend (of 4 years!) was materialistic. He said she’d agree to marry him even with a cheap ring. It was also an ugly ring in a yellow gold setting and wasn’t a pear like she liked. She dumped him. She said her proposal wasn’t the time for him to be setting a trap for her. She was pissed that he’d take a romantic moment and turn it into some weird anti materialistic stance. He made over 150k (so did she). We all agreed with her and thought it was particularly nasty and cheap of him. She said she would have said yes to the proposal if there hadn’t been a ring. She didn’t care about how much he’d spent.

She dodged a bullet.