Dressing nicely when companions aren't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's like this. If I wear a casual dress and sandals, I automatically look more dressed up than DH in khaki shorts and old running shoes and polo and DS in the same, minus a plain t-shirt.

But I'm too overweight to wear shorts and even when I wear jeans, I stick out. Know what I mean?

Can you show us an example of the kind of dress you're wearing, and what shoes you'd wear with it? I'm just having a hard time picturing what you are wearing, that you feel so out of place with your family.

Something like this: https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/afternoon-dress-in-gathered-floral-block-print/BI600?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=batik-block-with-lurex&colorProductCode=BI600 with this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Italian-Shoemakers-Womens-Cruise-Wedge-Sandals/926006618

That looks cute to me. I would see the three of you and think, wow, the mom is stylish and look at the two slobs with her.

[Anonymous]

I am simply more fabulous than others around me. Own it, OP -- maybe you are too!

[Anonymous]

I don’t think others notice. They are too busy with their own lives. I never notice what others are wearing unless it’s outlandish.

Im a DW who usually dressy causal and comfortable- jeans, college shirt, fleece and old running sneakers. It’s who I am. DH dresses up more - button up polo shirts, nice shoes, tailored pants. That’s his style. I don’t ask him to dress differently and he doesn’t ask me.

Maybe just let everyone be themselves.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I would work to upgrade my family’s wardrobes. My husband is a tshirt guy, but he wears plain black tshirts, which read as nicer than say, an oversized ill fitting free t-shirt with some random company’s name on it. He wears shorts that fit him properly and are fairly slim cut so he doesn’t look sloppy. My kid is still young enough that they aren’t buying their own clothes, so I control what comes in the door and they can decide what they wear from what’s available. I conpliment them profusely, to them directly and to our friends we gather with, when they wear the stuff I like. You’d be shocked how much they react to that and reach for those items more often. I say nothing about the stuff I don’t like. After I get slightly elevated versions of the stuff they want to wear in the house, and weed out the crappier versions, how they dress has shifted over time, and they generally always look acceptably presentable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's like this. If I wear a casual dress and sandals, I automatically look more dressed up than DH in khaki shorts and old running shoes and polo and DS in the same, minus a plain t-shirt.

But I'm too overweight to wear shorts and even when I wear jeans, I stick out. Know what I mean?

Can you show us an example of the kind of dress you're wearing, and what shoes you'd wear with it? I'm just having a hard time picturing what you are wearing, that you feel so out of place with your family.

Something like this: https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/afternoon-dress-in-gathered-floral-block-print/BI600?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=batik-block-with-lurex&colorProductCode=BI600 with this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Italian-Shoemakers-Womens-Cruise-Wedge-Sandals/926006618

Throw these hideous old lady shoes away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's like this. If I wear a casual dress and sandals, I automatically look more dressed up than DH in khaki shorts and old running shoes and polo and DS in the same, minus a plain t-shirt.

But I'm too overweight to wear shorts and even when I wear jeans, I stick out. Know what I mean?

Can you show us an example of the kind of dress you're wearing, and what shoes you'd wear with it? I'm just having a hard time picturing what you are wearing, that you feel so out of place with your family.

Something like this: https://www.jcrew.com/p/womens/categories/clothing/dresses-and-jumpsuits/afternoon-dress-in-gathered-floral-block-print/BI600?display=standard&fit=Classic&color_name=batik-block-with-lurex&colorProductCode=BI600 with this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Italian-Shoemakers-Womens-Cruise-Wedge-Sandals/926006618

Throw these hideous old lady shoes away.

I don't own them, but thanks for digging up a month old thread to mock the first pair of dressy sandals I came across in a google search. You're a real gem, lady.