Dating someone religious when you’re not religious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was raised Catholic and attended Catholic school from kindergarten through high school. My parents were not overly religious and only attended Mass on holidays. I do not identify myself as Catholic anymore for a multitude of reasons. Personally, I do not want to be in a relationship with someone who is religious because it's too different from me. I also would not ever want my children being raised in a Church that allowed for the abuse and rape of children and women. That's a hard no for me.

You are right- no teacher, coach, or other religious leader has EVER been convicted of "abuse and rape of children", other than Catholics. (You must think it is also the Catholics who want to teach 4-8 year olds about sex/trans issues & advocate for puberty blockers/life changing surgery for 12 year olds- 6th graders!)

Of course children are abused in other places and by people of all religions. I never said they weren't. The OP specified religion in her post which is why I commented specifically on the Catholic religion. My reason for not raising my children as Catholic isn't simply because of the risk of abuse. Abuse can happen anywhere. However, I refuse to be part of an institution that knew about abuse, did nothing and covered it up for DECADES. Why on earth would I want to be part of a Church like that??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this world needs more interracial and interfaith marriages.

I think everyone also needs to pay attention in world history class, western civilizations and eastern civilizations. No body knows anything factual or chronological any longer. All themes and feelings and modern personal ideologies acting as new religion instead.

That too. However, people embracing each other even with all the differences is good not only for them but for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn’t go to mass then he’s not religious in any sort of way that should bother you. These lines he’s giving you are BS.

Thank you! I thought I was the only one to notice this! OP, religious people attend church weekly and pray every day. This guy sounds like a nominal Catholic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn’t go to mass then he’s not religious in any sort of way that should bother you. These lines he’s giving you are BS.

Thank you! I thought I was the only one to notice this! OP, religious people attend church weekly and pray every day. This guy sounds like a nominal Catholic.

+2.

[Anonymous]

Just an observation: as people get older, they tend to get more religious. Going to mass on holidays will turn into going every week, being supportive will turn into him pressuring you to convert.

I personally wouldn't risk it. And the raising kids Catholic would be a deal breaker for me, I want my kids to make their own choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please, do not listen to all the anti-religion, anti-Catholic posters. If you truly care about the guy, take him at his word that he wants a Catholic family. For the sake of his soul and his children’s—you can either agree to what he wants or leave him alone.

It is insane to think he doesn’t mean what he says or that you can change what he wants because there is no way he’s serious and it’s no big deal.

- a Catholic who is Catholic

I agree with this.

I love raising my kids Catholic and sending them to Catholic school by the way. I know that a lot of people have had bad experiences, but we switched from public a couple of years ago and our kids have been so much happier and less anxious. The kids all really encourage each other and pray for each other and each other’s families when they are going through a hard time. Instead of big class parties at holidays, the kids collect for the poor and we have a family mass. The kids spend a lot of time talking about life in the context of history and nature and their place in the universe.

Just yesterday, my sixth grader failed his Latin quiz and was upset with himself. His teacher gave him study advice, but also told him that he was a human being and that his worth is far beyond what his grades are in school.

I just wanted to put my two cents in the Catholicism isn’t necessarily this horrible thing and can be a good alternative world view to our class-based and capitalist society.

[Anonymous]

I'm an athiest, and while I would date someone who believes in God, I won't if it's to the extent that they attend church regularly or mention being a follower of Christ in their OLD profile. That means it's too much in the forefront of their life to be compatible with mine.

[Anonymous]

It seems odd to me for a Catholic to talk about putting their decisions in God’s hands or whatever. I hear Catholics say, “I will pray on it” when other people might say, “I will think about it.” I also hear Catholics say that they feel that God is calling them to do something they find challenging or don’t want to do. The “Jesus take the wheel” stuff sounds more like an evangelical Christian. I’m a pretty devout Catholic, and I would find that kind of talk pretty off putting as well.