Wife is upset that my sister bought a house

[Anonymous]

Have you ever noticed that all the angry DILs here on DCUM chastise, insult and mock men who consult with or tell their moms anything, especially about their marriage or their wife, but nobody does the same when a woman mentions talking to or consulting with her own mother?

Why is that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever noticed that all the angry DILs here on DCUM chastise, insult and mock men who consult with or tell their moms anything, especially about their marriage or their wife, but nobody does the same when a woman mentions talking to or consulting with her own mother?

Why is that?

Hateful sexist women. This board is full of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever noticed that all the angry DILs here on DCUM chastise, insult and mock men who consult with or tell their moms anything, especially about their marriage or their wife, but nobody does the same when a woman mentions talking to or consulting with her own mother?

Why is that?

Hateful sexist women. This board is full of them.

The nation is full of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever noticed that all the angry DILs here on DCUM chastise, insult and mock men who consult with or tell their moms anything, especially about their marriage or their wife, but nobody does the same when a woman mentions talking to or consulting with her own mother?

Why is that?

Hateful sexist women. This board is full of them.

It's a little odd though that so many of them don't seem to realize that one day they will be the mom and will likely want their grown sons to feel free to talk to them.

[Anonymous]

You need to leave mommy out of it. That’s a big sign you lack maturity.

[Anonymous]

Some people think having a good relationship with your mother is a sign of maturity, and they are not all mothers of grown sons either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people think having a good relationship with your mother is a sign of maturity, and they are not all mothers of grown sons either.

Why do you define “good relationship” as “someone you can call your spouse names to”? I have a good relationship with my parents and would never think to call my husband names to them, nor do I think these mothers of grown sons want their daughters in law telling their mothers about all the failures of these sons.

[Anonymous]

Well, I didn't say what you are quoting me as saying, but I think having a good relationship with someone includes being able to talk to them about issues you are struggling with which is what the OP did and is also what many are mocking him for. I don't agree with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever noticed that all the angry DILs here on DCUM chastise, insult and mock men who consult with or tell their moms anything, especially about their marriage or their wife, but nobody does the same when a woman mentions talking to or consulting with her own mother?

Why is that?

Hateful sexist women. This board is full of them.

It's a little odd though that so many of them don't seem to realize that one day they will be the mom and will likely want their grown sons to feel free to talk to them.

There is a world of a difference between talking to their moms as a grown man versus running to their mom and complaining every time their wife is being “mean” and “acting like a baby”. How childish and immature. And if I were a mother, I’d be embarrassed for my son that he was acting like that and remorseful that I did not teach him better. The relationship between the DIL and MIL is fragile as it is, and it requires a bit of maturity, respect, and work on the part of the son to make it a good one.

The first person the son should turn to when facing a problem with his wife, is…. HIS WIFE.

[Anonymous]

She would be in divorce court. What in the world is a 35 yo doing having a tantrum over not buying a house. She cam work and make more money if that is what she wants. I had a SF home by 24 and now have 4 by 40, renting out each one as I move up and 1 recreational cabin. I am not rich either just smart in my investments and frugal in my desires.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I didn't say what you are quoting me as saying, but I think having a good relationship with someone includes being able to talk to them about issues you are struggling with which is what the OP did and is also what many are mocking him for. I don't agree with that.

What the OP did is call his mom and call his wife names. If all he had done was call and say “hey we’re struggling to buy a house and Larla is disappointed it’s taking so long” no one would care. It’s that he called her a baby.

If she called her mom and said OP is an unsuccessful cheapskate who can’t provide for his wife and is too lazy and selfish to contribute to a family, I imagine OP wouldn’t be impressed.