Wife is upset that my sister bought a house

[Anonymous]

My wife is crying and throwing a tantrum because my younger sister and her husband bought a house. We have been unable to buy a house for years due to low incomes. She has wanted to nest since we turned 30, we are now 35 and it’s been a long road of renting. She says it’s my fault as I can’t provide for her enough to buy us a house. She has been crying and is hysterical and being mean. I told my mom that she was being a baby and my mom thinks my wife bullies me. What to do?

[Anonymous]

I desperately hope you’re a troll because everybody in this scenario sounds revolting. Your mommy told you you’re being bullied? Okay then.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend who really wanted a house. We were mom friends. We bought a house and we like to vacation. We would often invite them over and invite them on vacation because we liked them. Apparently in their house not buying a house and not vacationing were top arguments. They eventually divorced and she dropped me. I had no idea just my existing with our house and vacations upset her so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I desperately hope you’re a troll because everybody in this scenario sounds revolting. Your mommy told you you’re being bullied? Okay then.

+1 - You told your mommy on your wife?

[Anonymous]

First - stop running to your mommy.
Second - recognize lots of people can “nest” in apartments.
You all sound like lunatics

[Anonymous]

Convince your wife to look for a better paying job.
Ditto for you if possible.
Apologize to your wife for telling on her to your mommy.

[Anonymous]

Is this an answer to this other thread?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1047629.page

[Anonymous]

your wife sounds like the problem. what are you going to do about that? Adults shouldn't be crying and throwing tantrums over their own life choices.

[Anonymous]

2 of you working for 10+ years and you couldn't save up for down payment? Paying mortgage on a condo would have been forced savings. Stock market has gone up almost 4x since 2012. Apple went up 10X since 2013, Tesla 50x and FB 10X.
Not too late for you two. Both of you need to get a 2nd job at night and weekends, and you should be able to buy something in two years. Working 2nd jobs will keep you from spending.
How low is your income? Can't be lower than my $35k. I think you have spending problem and you don't invest. You got to invest if you have low income. Saving is not enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 of you working for 10+ years and you couldn't save up for down payment? Paying mortgage on a condo would have been forced savings. Stock market has gone up almost 4x since 2012. Apple went up 10X since 2013, Tesla 50x and FB 10X.
Not too late for you two. Both of you need to get a 2nd job at night and weekends, and you should be able to buy something in two years. Working 2nd jobs will keep you from spending.
How low is your income? Can't be lower than my $35k. I think you have spending problem and you don't invest. You got to invest if you have low income. Saving is not enough.

Invest how and in what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 of you working for 10+ years and you couldn't save up for down payment? Paying mortgage on a condo would have been forced savings. Stock market has gone up almost 4x since 2012. Apple went up 10X since 2013, Tesla 50x and FB 10X.
Not too late for you two. Both of you need to get a 2nd job at night and weekends, and you should be able to buy something in two years. Working 2nd jobs will keep you from spending.
How low is your income? Can't be lower than my $35k. I think you have spending problem and you don't invest. You got to invest if you have low income. Saving is not enough.

Invest how and in what?

NP are you being sarcastic? The stock market! It's had record gains for the past years. You should be investing your savings to buy a house. How? Get a vanguard fund.

[Anonymous]

If you're not a troll - give her space to have her feelings and don't negate them. she feels left behind and frustrated. she feels like she's not getting any closer to her goals and is failing. she's angry and lashing out inappropriately but we all do sometime. if this is real and she's usually reasonable, it should pass in a day or two

[Anonymous]

Stop being a little byotch. And grow a pair. And leave your gold digger wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 of you working for 10+ years and you couldn't save up for down payment? Paying mortgage on a condo would have been forced savings. Stock market has gone up almost 4x since 2012. Apple went up 10X since 2013, Tesla 50x and FB 10X.
Not too late for you two. Both of you need to get a 2nd job at night and weekends, and you should be able to buy something in two years. Working 2nd jobs will keep you from spending.
How low is your income? Can't be lower than my $35k. I think you have spending problem and you don't invest. You got to invest if you have low income. Saving is not enough.

Invest how and in what?

NP are you being sarcastic? The stock market! It's had record gains for the past years. You should be investing your savings to buy a house. How? Get a vanguard fund.

So I invest in Apple stock? Or s&p 500?

[Anonymous]

Move to a lower-cost area.