How to deal with husband gaslighting infidelity

[Anonymous]

^ NP. I don’t think it sounds crazy at all. She wanted the truth about her own life and was patient to find it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ NP. I don’t think it sounds crazy at all. She wanted the truth about her own life and was patient to find it.

Thank you. I also should make it clear that I am normally a very trusting person and not at all jealous, but the condom incident came after a couple of other questionable incidents that he managed to gaslight me about. At the time I found the missing condoms, I was 5 months pregnant with my second child and wanted to make sure if I birthed that child into the world it would be a choice I made with full knowledge of my own situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ NP. I don’t think it sounds crazy at all. She wanted the truth about her own life and was patient to find it.

Thank you. I also should make it clear that I am normally a very trusting person and not at all jealous, but the condom incident came after a couple of other questionable incidents that he managed to gaslight me about. At the time I found the missing condoms, I was 5 months pregnant with my second child and wanted to make sure if I birthed that child into the world it would be a choice I made with full knowledge of my own situation.

Sorry but your husband is a horrible creep. You probably need to have a through medical exam for yourself, and get away from him asap.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In addition to the possibility of sex tourism with female prostitutes, I’d be nervous about this being a Brokeback Mountain situation with a male “friend.”

Hey, either way, OP's DH is should get some credit here... he is practicing SAFE sex, and not bringing some skeevy critters back home to mama.

I would think the Brokeback buddies would probably normally go sans wrapper... no pregnancy issues, so nbd. At least that seems to be the common way of doing business.
So my money is the "professional" girls -- but, again, he is doing the right thing by bringing the good quality condoms from the USA. Look, honestly I think you'd be more pissed if you found out he'd been using some second rate cheapos.

Condoms don't protect against everything and he gets no credit for anything simply because he agreed to be monogamous with op and broke that agreement

Yes and they break. My nephew died from HIV and in the end it was "that" lifestyle that did him in.

OP don't have sex with him and please start setting yourself up. Even if you are the one that has to move. Your asking advice but you've known for years. Imagine what you don't know?!

[Anonymous]

There is no way to deal with gaslighting. You can't converse with a liar. Not the way you want. So why bother? What are you going to get out of a conversation with a cheater and a liar? Nothing.

There IS no satisfaction. Either decide you want to stay married to a liar and cheater or leave.

[Anonymous]

I hope he brought you amazing gifts from his trips.