How to deal with husband gaslighting infidelity

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[Post New]03/12/2022 21:41
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Anonymous
Found evidence of infidelity going back years and confronted DH. He completely denied everything. I feel in my heart he is lying and do not believe him. I don’t think I can continue in this marriage but this nagging feeling is in back of my mind what if that 0.5% chance he’s not lying? How do I deal with this?
[Post New]03/12/2022 21:49
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Anonymous
What was the evidence?
[Post New]03/12/2022 21:55
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Anonymous
Ha! Mine too. Saw all the texts and emails but he didn’t know that. Gaslight central till I repeated stuff I knew from them.
[Post New]03/12/2022 21:56
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:What was the evidence?
purchase of condoms every time he traveled out of town going back years. found via our shared amazon account, he archived the purchase immediately after buying but i was searching for a coconut hair product I had bought before and all the condoms came up. I don't believe he ever did anything here but it seems like his annual trip abroad he definitely cheated. So gross
[Post New]03/12/2022 21:58
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Anonymous
There's nothing he can really do at this point if he is telling the truth. If he was guilty there's no benefit to him admitting anything since it would mean divorce anyways. You clearly don't trust him. Sounds like you guys are through no matter what.
[Post New]03/12/2022 21:59
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Anonymous
Get tested for stds.
Divorce.
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:01
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Anonymous
Sounds like he may be seeing professionals. Would that make a difference?
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:04
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Anonymous
Did he ever use the condoms with you? What was his explanation?
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Did he ever use the condoms with you? What was his explanation?
He never used them with me. He said he got them for his guy friends who live abroad! hah. Asked him why he didn't say "hey i'm getting condoms for so and so" ... if it were me I would be super transparent so my spouse wouldn't think anything nefarious going on. Also just thought about this but if he got them for a friend why would he archive the order so it doesn't come up unless you search?
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:09
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he may be seeing professionals. Would that make a difference?
Not really, gross either way.
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:12
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did he ever use the condoms with you? What was his explanation?
He never used them with me. He said he got them for his guy friends who live abroad! hah. Asked him why he didn't say "hey i'm getting condoms for so and so" ... if it were me I would be super transparent so my spouse wouldn't think anything nefarious going on. Also just thought about this but if he got them for a friend why would he archive the order so it doesn't come up unless you search?


Foreign countries have condoms too! Where was he going?
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:15
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Anonymous
What an idiot.
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:19
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What was the evidence?
purchase of condoms every time he traveled out of town going back years. found via our shared amazon account, he archived the purchase immediately after buying but i was searching for a coconut hair product I had bought before and all the condoms came up. I don't believe he ever did anything here but it seems like his annual trip abroad he definitely cheated. So gross


So he is too dumb to buy them at CVS?
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:21
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did he ever use the condoms with you? What was his explanation?
He never used them with me. He said he got them for his guy friends who live abroad! hah. Asked him why he didn't say "hey i'm getting condoms for so and so" ... if it were me I would be super transparent so my spouse wouldn't think anything nefarious going on. Also just thought about this but if he got them for a friend why would he archive the order so it doesn't come up unless you search?


Foreign countries have condoms too! Where was he going?
He said the US ones are better lol. Don't want to specify country but it was not European/Western.
[Post New]03/12/2022 22:24
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Did he ever use the condoms with you? What was his explanation?
He never used them with me. He said he got them for his guy friends who live abroad! hah. Asked him why he didn't say "hey i'm getting condoms for so and so" ... if it were me I would be super transparent so my spouse wouldn't think anything nefarious going on. Also just thought about this but if he got them for a friend why would he archive the order so it doesn't come up unless you search?


Foreign countries have condoms too! Where was he going?
He said the US ones are better lol. Don't want to specify country but it was not European/Western.


Total and utter bullshit. He’s buying guy friends in foreign countries their year’s supply of condoms?

If it’s one of the countries with sex tourism and child prostitution….
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