Processing that spouse is leaving

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you positive it is actually your DH who is leaving? Could it be you were speaking with someone else (who also happened to be planning a move) and you confused the two? If not, possibly it was a visitor to your home who was planning to leave and that (the leaving) was what got stuck in your head. Here's is hoping this was all a misunderstanding or a case of mistaken identity.

Is this a joke?

NP. That person writes fascinating bizarrely nonsensical posts like that. Those posts are DCUM easter eggs for me and I get so excited to see one. 😄

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Anonymous wrote:My friend’s (now) ex-DH took their newborn when they got into an argument and turned off his phone, so she could locate him or the baby. She was absolutely hysterical. She was texting nonstop, pleading with him to at least come home so she could nurse the child. I have no idea what possessed him to do something so cruel, but taking a newborn from their mother (who is their only source of food at this point) is truly awful.

That could be construed as kidnapping and she could have filed charges.

Either parent can take their kids anywhere without the permission of the other unless there is an order (e.g., custody order) that says otherwise.

Correct.

Nope. I can't take my kids to Canada without my husband's permission

And that's a Canadian rule, not a US law. You can get on a plane at Dulles with your kids and fly most places in the world as long as the children have passports.

The Canadian law is worthless anyway because they just require a notarized letter which is easy to fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are you positive it is actually your DH who is leaving? Could it be you were speaking with someone else (who also happened to be planning a move) and you confused the two? If not, possibly it was a visitor to your home who was planning to leave and that (the leaving) was what got stuck in your head. Here's is hoping this was all a misunderstanding or a case of mistaken identity.

OP, did you consider this? So often we work ourselves into a state of distress when it can all be explained with a little detective work. Could it be that someone else you know is "leaving" or maybe just moving? Have you had any temporary guests, who left, or who are leaving or due to leave? Maybe that situation cropped in your mind, creating confusion or a misunderstanding. It happens.

[Anonymous]

find divorced friends
get a new circle of friends if you need to -
your life is about to be different!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP are you positive it is actually your DH who is leaving? Could it be you were speaking with someone else (who also happened to be planning a move) and you confused the two? If not, possibly it was a visitor to your home who was planning to leave and that (the leaving) was what got stuck in your head. Here's is hoping this was all a misunderstanding or a case of mistaken identity.

What in the world?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP are you positive it is actually your DH who is leaving? Could it be you were speaking with someone else (who also happened to be planning a move) and you confused the two? If not, possibly it was a visitor to your home who was planning to leave and that (the leaving) was what got stuck in your head. Here's is hoping this was all a misunderstanding or a case of mistaken identity.

OP, did you consider this? So often we work ourselves into a state of distress when it can all be explained with a little detective work. Could it be that someone else you know is "leaving" or maybe just moving? Have you had any temporary guests, who left, or who are leaving or due to leave? Maybe that situation cropped in your mind, creating confusion or a misunderstanding. It happens.

The first comment was dumb enough by itself and here you come jumping on the dumber train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:find divorced friends
get a new circle of friends if you need to -
your life is about to be different!

But do you know not find it even a little bit intriguing that OP was not, or could not, be certain that the spouse who was leaving was her spouse? We all make mistakes or misidentify certain people or situations. It does happen. Someone gets it in there mind that Spouse A is leaving Spouse B, only to remember that it’s the other way around or Spouse A doesn’t even know Spouse B. It can be hard to explain but occasionally details or details that exist on a TBD basis are not the easiest to decipher. I had a very good friend who attempted to resign from a job they never had in the first place. When I attempted to remind them of this, they asked me when did it become my job to remind them about their employment status? And this was from someone who had never held a job accept for the one they currently had and kept trying to apply for. Anyhoo, to each their own. Whats for lunch?