What happened to your Ex after...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an AP but married too with 3 kids. My crush is married too with 2 kids. I cannot stop thinking about her. She consumes my thoughts. I even moved to be close to her. I think her husband knew because he moved her to a remote area where I cannot reach her easily. We only made love twice but she was very scared of her crazy controlling husband. I know I would be better for her. I could make her so happy. She blocks me and I have not seen her for months. If I rekindle with her, I will ask her to leave her husband and I can leave my mean and nagging lazy wife.

Okay troll guy f@“d her twice and her husband has her locked away in her castle room.

Yes 2 f@“ks and you can totally tell this is the one for life. Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an AP but married too with 3 kids. My crush is married too with 2 kids. I cannot stop thinking about her. She consumes my thoughts. I even moved to be close to her. I think her husband knew because he moved her to a remote area where I cannot reach her easily. We only made love twice but she was very scared of her crazy controlling husband. I know I would be better for her. I could make her so happy. She blocks me and I have not seen her for months. If I rekindle with her, I will ask her to leave her husband and I can leave my mean and nagging lazy wife.

Your wife would be much more pleasant and happy if you spent half the energy on her that you do for the AP.

[Anonymous]

Oh please. I don't know ANY parents who give their kids exact timelines of their entire dating history, who tell details not appropriate for kids like "We were sh!tfaced at a bar" or "We banged during a ONS", or feel the need to share the details of their sex lives. It's really bizarre you think kids should know all of those. Normal families also have appropriate boundaries.

Wow you are weaving a storyline to address something that was never suggested. There is a lot of real estate between telling your kids about your sex life and telling them about your dating history. Yes, in a normal family that doesn’t have to hide that mom and dad are liars and cheaters the parents tell their kids they met in school or at a party and started dating and got engaged after x months. Of course, you have to tell a sanitized version of that because you were married to someone else when all that happened and while you are so smug and profess that you have no regrets, I’m betting that’s information you don’t want shared. If you are so good with how your current relationship started, I’m sure you tell all your friends the truth, right? Of course not - instead yiu gloss over that and pretend you net after your marriage was over, because that’s what liars do.

[Anonymous]

My ex is with his AP and they appear to be happy. It’s been a year since he moved out. They don’t live together but I think they are planning to marry.

I know one other couple where the ex stayed with his AP after the breakup and they married and had a child together.

Everyone likes to pretend that ex’s that leave for their AP end up miserable but that’s not always the case. It sucks, it’s hard and I know this from personal experience, but sometimes they find happiness with their AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is her AP also separated now?

Sometimes they make a go of it and things work out for them, but mostly it doesn't.

And someone always cheats. Again.

Nope, not always. But jeep telling this to make yourself feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Oh please. I don't know ANY parents who give their kids exact timelines of their entire dating history, who tell details not appropriate for kids like "We were sh!tfaced at a bar" or "We banged during a ONS", or feel the need to share the details of their sex lives. It's really bizarre you think kids should know all of those. Normal families also have appropriate boundaries.

Wow you are weaving a storyline to address something that was never suggested. There is a lot of real estate between telling your kids about your sex life and telling them about your dating history. Yes, in a normal family that doesn’t have to hide that mom and dad are liars and cheaters the parents tell their kids they met in school or at a party and started dating and got engaged after x months. Of course, you have to tell a sanitized version of that because you were married to someone else when all that happened and while you are so smug and profess that you have no regrets, I’m betting that’s information you don’t want shared. If you are so good with how your current relationship started, I’m sure you tell all your friends the truth, right? Of course not - instead yiu gloss over that and pretend you net after your marriage was over, because that’s what liars do.

Who cares, they are happy and you are not. This is what counts. No one wants to be friends with a miserable person who is stuck in the past anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Oh please. I don't know ANY parents who give their kids exact timelines of their entire dating history, who tell details not appropriate for kids like "We were sh!tfaced at a bar" or "We banged during a ONS", or feel the need to share the details of their sex lives. It's really bizarre you think kids should know all of those. Normal families also have appropriate boundaries.

Wow you are weaving a storyline to address something that was never suggested. There is a lot of real estate between telling your kids about your sex life and telling them about your dating history. Yes, in a normal family that doesn’t have to hide that mom and dad are liars and cheaters the parents tell their kids they met in school or at a party and started dating and got engaged after x months. Of course, you have to tell a sanitized version of that because you were married to someone else when all that happened and while you are so smug and profess that you have no regrets, I’m betting that’s information you don’t want shared. If you are so good with how your current relationship started, I’m sure you tell all your friends the truth, right? Of course not - instead yiu gloss over that and pretend you net after your marriage was over, because that’s what liars do.

Who cares, they are happy and you are not. This is what counts. No one wants to be friends with a miserable person who is stuck in the past anyway.

It’s always the cheaters that talk about the betrayed living in the past. They want to just mistreat and cause trauma and then everyone to just forget immediately. Of course.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. He lives his life, and I live mine. Pretty average and normal. We don't have much contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All my girlfriends who cheated on their H and divorced are a mess.

One was a SAHM and lost custody, moved to FLA and rarely sees her kids.

One moved back home, lived with mom, rarely sees kids. Jumps around to boyfriend.

One kids were old enough to move out, sold house, split fund, got a condo and rotates men.

One lives in a 3br townhouse with her kids. She seems okay.

None of them ended up with their AP.

yep.

Because they didn't actually want to be with AP, probably they were exit affairs. They were looking to leave their husband.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if he left for her or met her after, but he introduced her to my kids a year before our divorce was final.

He's fat and broke, and a drunk. She is also a drunk, and a drunk he can control. I dont mean to brag, but I look fantastic and my net worth is double his, and skyrocketing. I'm single and my kids respect me for putting them first. I am happy and travel a lot, with primary custody of our kids. His new plain looking girlfriend also comes with mouths to feed, she has three kids. I date childless men or men with grown kids as I've seen what this faux "family blending" does to my kids perception of their dad. They arent engaged, but I think that is so that she can continue to reap her fat alimony check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

don’t tell my kids because that’s not something you talk to kids about. Weird that you think your children deserve to know about their parents’ relationships prior to them even being born.

You clearly have a problem being honest. It’s totally normal fir kids to ask about when their parents started dating, etc. You won’t tell your kids the truth because the math won’t work, unless you don’t tell them that you were married before - which would be so weird and deceptive. Two friends whose parents were married before have known since we were in middle school. That’s normal family communication is n a family that has nothing to hide.

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So much I haven't told my kids. So much I have. But yes, I pick and choose. And we are happily married. We married years before we had kids. But no, they don't hear everything. Nor do they want to know about any ONS, any kinky sex, or anything that doesn't further the narrative they believe.