Is he only interested in sex with me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That would be too soon for me - it sort of forces that sexual connection when you’re still just getting to know each other. If she happens organically on the second date, fine…but this selfie thing before you’ve even kissed is kind of icky, IMO.

It’s off that he would be a gentleman on your date but send you s photo of him in the shower. I would have reservations, though might see how things go.

How did you react to his photo?

^odd, not off

I think it is odd and off! Weirdo!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been on 2 great dates with a guy and we've been texting for a few weeks. We're both 40. So far, he has only kissed me on the cheek.

This morning, he texted, "I think about your smile a lot", which I thought was really sweet. I replied, "Now I can't stop smiling", and then he sent a selfie of him in the shower (from the neck up only- nothing else) and said, "Let's get you warmed up in here".

I like that he is flirty, but having been burned by many guys who ended up only wanting sex and not anything more, I am cautious about wasting time.
Do you think this is appropriate at this stage? Or too forward?

The second text was meant for someone else.

Bingo. And I agree with PPs that he’s giving you a snow job, and is a major player.

I agree- how is a shower selfie a response to “now I can’t stop smiling?” It’s not. A response would have been like “Well I can’t wait to see that smile in person” or something like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been on 2 great dates with a guy and we've been texting for a few weeks. We're both 40. So far, he has only kissed me on the cheek.

This morning, he texted, "I think about your smile a lot", which I thought was really sweet. I replied, "Now I can't stop smiling", and then he sent a selfie of him in the shower (from the neck up only- nothing else) and said, "Let's get you warmed up in here".

I like that he is flirty, but having been burned by many guys who ended up only wanting sex and not anything more, I am cautious about wasting time.
Do you think this is appropriate at this stage? Or too forward?

The second text was meant for someone else.

Bingo. And I agree with PPs that he’s giving you a snow job, and is a major player.

I agree- how is a shower selfie a response to “now I can’t stop smiling?” It’s not. A response would have been like “Well I can’t wait to see that smile in person” or something like that.

I totally agree with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been on 2 great dates with a guy and we've been texting for a few weeks. We're both 40. So far, he has only kissed me on the cheek.

This morning, he texted, "I think about your smile a lot", which I thought was really sweet. I replied, "Now I can't stop smiling", and then he sent a selfie of him in the shower (from the neck up only- nothing else) and said, "Let's get you warmed up in here".

I like that he is flirty, but having been burned by many guys who ended up only wanting sex and not anything more, I am cautious about wasting time.
Do you think this is appropriate at this stage? Or too forward?

The second text was meant for someone else.

Bingo. And I agree with PPs that he’s giving you a snow job, and is a major player.

OP, this might sound weird but - does he call you by your name consistently when he texts, or does he just say Hey! or Good morning! or other generalized greeting? Sending selfies, random memes, not calling you by your name - all signs he’s blasting out the same texts to multiple people!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been on 2 great dates with a guy and we've been texting for a few weeks. We're both 40. So far, he has only kissed me on the cheek.

This morning, he texted, "I think about your smile a lot", which I thought was really sweet. I replied, "Now I can't stop smiling", and then he sent a selfie of him in the shower (from the neck up only- nothing else) and said, "Let's get you warmed up in here".

I like that he is flirty, but having been burned by many guys who ended up only wanting sex and not anything more, I am cautious about wasting time.
Do you think this is appropriate at this stage? Or too forward?

The second text was meant for someone else.

Bingo. And I agree with PPs that he’s giving you a snow job, and is a major player.

OP, this might sound weird but - does he call you by your name consistently when he texts, or does he just say Hey! or Good morning! or other generalized greeting? Sending selfies, random memes, not calling you by your name - all signs he’s blasting out the same texts to multiple people!!

Op: no, but none of the guys I’ve dated have called me by my name over text conversations…I don’t say, “good morning George” to him either.

[Anonymous]

He just showed his true colors OP.

He IS after only one thing.

That is clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been on 2 great dates with a guy and we've been texting for a few weeks. We're both 40. So far, he has only kissed me on the cheek.

This morning, he texted, "I think about your smile a lot", which I thought was really sweet. I replied, "Now I can't stop smiling", and then he sent a selfie of him in the shower (from the neck up only- nothing else) and said, "Let's get you warmed up in here".

I like that he is flirty, but having been burned by many guys who ended up only wanting sex and not anything more, I am cautious about wasting time.
Do you think this is appropriate at this stage? Or too forward?

Another guy who wants to shower with his love interest, as in the thread asking why a DW would not shower with a DH!