Is he only interested in sex with me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Player player player player…LOL

That’s what my radar says! But I understand it’s nice to hear sweet things. Just keep it all compartmentalized in your head. Chatting and compliments are one thing, actions and commitment something else. You are in control of what actually happens and how much you invest in this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

He is indeed trying to get in your pants. That’s a line if I’ve ever heard one. And a selfie from the actual shower? Who is on their phone in the shower? Loser. D bag.

[Anonymous]

Yea, OP. RUN. He's a player and thinks he's smooth. He's clearly used those lines and has probably sent that shower selfie before. This guy is not relationship material.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

OP: I'm totally okay if he wants to have sex with me AND wants to get to know me as a person. I'll definitely go out with him again. I'm just looking for a way to weed out the players early on, since I don't want to waste time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

This has to be same poster on the other thread that doesn’t want to pay for his dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

OP: for context, he is recently out of a long-term marriage and supposedly I'm the first person he's dated...so maybe he's a bit rusty? Or just awkward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

OP: for context, he is recently out of a long-term marriage and supposedly I'm the first person he's dated...so maybe he's a bit rusty? Or just awkward?

OMG are you naive? That's gotta be a line too. No guy right out of a marriage is sending shower selfies and gushing like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

OP: I'm totally okay if he wants to have sex with me AND wants to get to know me as a person. I'll definitely go out with him again. I'm just looking for a way to weed out the players early on, since I don't want to waste time.

They tend to weed themselves out . You don't have to really do any work there. Being overly critical and looking for meaning in everything would make you nuts, cause you to hate dating and miss some good opportunities for awkwardness. For all you know he's been told he needs to be more flirtatious..

You need to learn how to communicate better if you were uncomfortable with the text you either tell him so or ignore the text. You don't tell him you think it's hot and then bemoan him only wanting you for sec

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

OP: for context, he is recently out of a long-term marriage and supposedly I'm the first person he's dated...so maybe he's a bit rusty? Or just awkward?

No, honey. He has a playful style, which is all good, but he’s also impulsive and wants to do/get what he wants.

Did he cheat in his marriage?

[Anonymous]

Ewww. He seems weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

OP: for context, he is recently out of a long-term marriage and supposedly I'm the first person he's dated...so maybe he's a bit rusty? Or just awkward?

Even his texts seem a bit much after only two dates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. Before I even opened the thread I thought "Yes". After reading it, "Definitely, Yes". That seems too forward (and tacky)

OP: Darn. I guess it's just confusing because he's been so respectful in person (only kiss on the cheek- not trying to get into my pants), and has only texted sweet things so far. After the second date he sent, "you're stunningly beautiful and I love getting to know you."

Wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean he's not nice or a player.

But stop seeing him because DCUM told you to

Welllll yes, but. If you want to have sex in the context of a committed relationship then you set things up accordingly. Either he is immature, or he’s doing this in a sloppy way because he doesn’t care.

OP: for context, he is recently out of a long-term marriage and supposedly I'm the first person he's dated...so maybe he's a bit rusty? Or just awkward?

Even his texts seem a bit much after only two dates.

Definitely over the top. He’s this hot and heavy early on, he’s going to burn out.

[Anonymous]

I would have sent him a dick pic reply. You could still do that. He made you uncomfortable, return the favor.