"Um, I'm on a really important work call" - he says, half naked in our bathroom

[Anonymous]

The audio change in bathrooms is unmistakable, I know when someone is in theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the middle of the day my husband was standing in our bathroom, half naked, putting on deodorant because he'd just gotten out of the shower. He also had his air pods in. I quietly asked him a quick question about what he was doing, partially with words and partially with a gesture, because *I* wanted to use our bathroom. And he reacts to me by pulling out one air pod and saying in a dismissive, annoyed-as-hell voice, "Um, I'm on a really important work call," - like, how dare you disturb me right now, I'm obviously working.

WTF?

He got off his call and I tried to approach it in a joking manner - like, you can forgive me for not realizing you couldn't be disturbed - and he saw no humor in it. In his mind, I should have magically known not to disturb him. Even when he's standing in OUR bathroom, and I'm trying to figure out if he's going to be in there for long because I have to pee. In my bathroom.

God I'm annoyed and I really want to hear from others that my annoyance is justified.

You need some real problems in your life, Lady

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the middle of the day my husband was standing in our bathroom, half naked, putting on deodorant because he'd just gotten out of the shower. He also had his air pods in. I quietly asked him a quick question about what he was doing, partially with words and partially with a gesture, because *I* wanted to use our bathroom. And he reacts to me by pulling out one air pod and saying in a dismissive, annoyed-as-hell voice, "Um, I'm on a really important work call," - like, how dare you disturb me right now, I'm obviously working.

WTF?

He got off his call and I tried to approach it in a joking manner - like, you can forgive me for not realizing you couldn't be disturbed - and he saw no humor in it. In his mind, I should have magically known not to disturb him. Even when he's standing in OUR bathroom, and I'm trying to figure out if he's going to be in there for long because I have to pee. In my bathroom.

God I'm annoyed and I really want to hear from others that my annoyance is justified.

you blew this by not even trying to blow him - easy peasy and would've solved the problem. just sayin'

[Anonymous]

That’s hilarious and obnoxious. I wonder what the rest of the team was doing? Clipping toenails and flossing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds as if he was semi-hoping that the bathroom would be the only room where he wouldn't be interrupted. And then the incident happen only to confirm that he can't have peace and quiet.

Looks like an accumulated annoyance. Not sure how many people are in the house, but in any case - he needs to chill. You didn't do anything wrong, it's still your home. Ask him to pick up a designated space for an office and don't talk to him 9-5.
Hopefully he won't choose the tub again

If this is the case, perhaps he could’ve shut the door. Just a crazy thought.

He was irritable, snapped at her, and didn’t apologize later. OP, if this is in line with his usual behavior, it’s a real problem. If it’s the kind of thing that happens once a year, try to laugh and let it go, and hope that he lets your lapses go too.

[Anonymous]

Only a few PPs have zeroed in on the REAL issue here, which is that you don’t take work calls — “important” or not — in the bathroom, pandemic culture be damned!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only a few PPs have zeroed in on the REAL issue here, which is that you don’t take work calls — “important” or not — in the bathroom, pandemic culture be damned!

Absolutely yes. In fact, the more important it is, the less the bathroom is appropriate. If I were on the phone with the president, say, I would NOT take that call in the bathroom. Unless Trump had called then I would have gone into take dump while he was on the phone. But aside from that - important calls demand clothes!

FYI sometimes my BF gets calls when we are together and I like to go down and [fill in the blank here] while he's talking to somebody. I'm amazed at his concentration / ability to ignore what I'm doing. I could NOT talk fully coherently while somebody was doing that to me.

[Anonymous]

"Um, I'm on a really important work call" - he says, half naked in our bathroom

Which half?

[Anonymous]

I’m still laughing about this. Hope y’all worked it out.

[Anonymous]

My DH takes work calls all.day.long so sometimes that means he's on one when he's fully naked just getting out of the shower, listening to a call while in the toilet room, while he's chomping on food -- all the time, every setting. It is pretty funny to see him listening intently to a work call while standing in the altogether in our large bathroom.

Seems like your DH is taking himself a little too seriously. On a deeper level maybe he's stressed/overworked (hence the having to take a call the same time as he's getting cleaned up and ready for the day) and reacted from that place. You could give him a little grace or you could bring it up and say it felt like he was annoyed with you for going into a shared space not typically meant for that activity, and ask him what's up with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only a few PPs have zeroed in on the REAL issue here, which is that you don’t take work calls — “important” or not — in the bathroom, pandemic culture be damned!

Absolutely yes. In fact, the more important it is, the less the bathroom is appropriate. If I were on the phone with the president, say, I would NOT take that call in the bathroom. Unless Trump had called then I would have gone into take dump while he was on the phone. But aside from that - important calls demand clothes!

FYI sometimes my BF gets calls when we are together and I like to go down and [fill in the blank here] while he's talking to somebody. I'm amazed at his concentration / ability to ignore what I'm doing. I could NOT talk fully coherently while somebody was doing that to me.

Practicing for your erotic novel?

You were almost doing OK with the plot there, but you can't say that "the more important a call is, the less the bathroom is appropriate" then turn around and declare proudly that you go down on your boyfriend while he's on the phone. Cute try, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only a few PPs have zeroed in on the REAL issue here, which is that you don’t take work calls — “important” or not — in the bathroom, pandemic culture be damned!

Absolutely yes. In fact, the more important it is, the less the bathroom is appropriate. If I were on the phone with the president, say, I would NOT take that call in the bathroom. Unless Trump had called then I would have gone into take dump while he was on the phone. But aside from that - important calls demand clothes!

FYI sometimes my BF gets calls when we are together and I like to go down and [fill in the blank here] while he's talking to somebody. I'm amazed at his concentration / ability to ignore what I'm doing. I could NOT talk fully coherently while somebody was doing that to me.

Practicing for your erotic novel?

You were almost doing OK with the plot there, but you can't say that "the more important a call is, the less the bathroom is appropriate" then turn around and declare proudly that you go down on your boyfriend while he's on the phone. Cute try, though.

The calls aren’t important to me, they are his calls, not mine. Plus, not in the bathroom! Two different situations.

[Anonymous]

Of all the things Dh does that annoy me, gesturing me that he is on any work call doesn’t bother me. Most recently my 4yo was bothering him while he was on a supposedly important call so he angrily gestured me to get her away. Dh walks around the house on AirPods. He has done conference calls in the car. I don’t think this is a big deal at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
"Um, I'm on a really important work call" - he says, half naked in our bathroom

Which half?

If he is in a call, why does it matter what he is wearing?

[Anonymous]

OP, I am with you. An important work call while naked in the bathroom…umm no. Just no. Important work calls are taken fully clothed and in any other room besides the bathroom. Unless he is a doctor and was called regarding a patient emergency. I don’t understand the direction this thread has taken off in.