Do men never learn? Cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His wife won't leave.

Is that what he told you? Ha

You are reading it wrong. Most don't leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What struck me most is the tone of their communications. It’s very polite and almost wistful. Reading it made me look up knish. I’ve never tried it.

I feel bad for both of them.

Yes, they did seem rather sweet to each other

He’s obviously a romantic. Wasn’t just sex. Paris and a lot of longing. I wonder what he sent her to go with her ice cream maker.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he was really into her. I wonder if the wife exposed them because she realized that it was more than sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What struck me most is the tone of their communications. It’s very polite and almost wistful. Reading it made me look up knish. I’ve never tried it.

I feel bad for both of them.

Yes, they did seem rather sweet to each other

He’s obviously a romantic. Wasn’t just sex. Paris and a lot of longing. I wonder what he sent her to go with her ice cream maker.

Christ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What struck me most is the tone of their communications. It’s very polite and almost wistful. Reading it made me look up knish. I’ve never tried it.

I feel bad for both of them.

Yes, they did seem rather sweet to each other

Really? They seemed so pathetic to me that it made me laugh.

[Anonymous]

He worked for decades for the title "President". And blew it for what essentially sounds like an infatuation. How sad. A profoundly sad time for his wife as well (an accomplished lawyer) and his four children. Feel for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What struck me most is the tone of their communications. It’s very polite and almost wistful. Reading it made me look up knish. I’ve never tried it.

I feel bad for both of them.

Yes, they did seem rather sweet to each other

Really? They seemed so pathetic to me that it made me laugh.

Pretty tame stuff. Out of one hundred pages, nothing salacious and no d*k pics.

It would look very different for a guy of a different generation, and I’m not saying that’s a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What struck me most is the tone of their communications. It’s very polite and almost wistful. Reading it made me look up knish. I’ve never tried it.

I feel bad for both of them.

Yes, they did seem rather sweet to each other

Really? They seemed so pathetic to me that it made me laugh.

Limerence from a dirty old man. Gross.

[Anonymous]

He's stupid to go for a subordinate and I don't like cheating in general. But I will say his wife works in San Francisco and he works in Ann Arbor. I would never do that if I was married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's stupid to go for a subordinate and I don't like cheating in general. But I will say his wife works in San Francisco and he works in Ann Arbor. I would never do that if I was married.

This kind of situation grows out of feeling lonely. There is a human dimension here that I think the emails underscore. He wasn’t just trying to get laid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's stupid to go for a subordinate and I don't like cheating in general. But I will say his wife works in San Francisco and he works in Ann Arbor. I would never do that if I was married.

This kind of situation grows out of feeling lonely. There is a human dimension here that I think the emails underscore. He wasn’t just trying to get laid.

No one knows that he cheated. We know that he’s married and he had another relationship. That may or may not be cheating depending on his agreement with his wife.

[Anonymous]

I'm not condoning what he did, but he probably got fired because the University of Michigan has had several high profile sex scandals, including several while he was president.
https://www.mlive.com/news/ann-arbor/2021/06/computer-science-professor-resigning-amid-sexual-misconduct-allegations-at-university-of-michigan.html

https://www.mlive.com/news/ann-arbor/2022/01/timeline-of-the-dr-robert-anderson-abuse-scandal-at-university-of-michigan.html

https://www.michiganradio.org/investigative/2020-07-13/for-the-first-time-multiple-women-speak-out-about-former-u-m-provosts-alleged-sexual-misconduct

https://www.detroitnews.com/story/news/local/michigan/2018/10/24/student-sues-university-michigan-and-professor-alleges-sex-assault/1752751002/

The board probably wants to show the university is now taking sex scandals seriously. Compared to the other scandals at the school his actions seem kind of tame.

[Anonymous]

Why do married people agree to live separately when the require physical intimacy. All 3 are culpable in this shit show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do married people agree to live separately when the require physical intimacy. All 3 are culpable in this shit show.

I would never be comfortable living in other cities. When I met my husband, he was a consultant and traveled Mon-Thurs. He flew home or I flew out to join him Fri-Sun. Thank goodness for flex schedule back in the day where I did 4 10-hour days.

After we got married, he transitioned off and worked locally ever since (26 years later). He also didn’t want to miss kids growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do married people agree to live separately when the require physical intimacy. All 3 are culpable in this shit show.

The wife is most culpable by far; she left Dr. Schlissel without a wife to take care of all the First Lady responsibilities. Imagine coming home from a day of meetings over heavy University issues that need the President’s attention, and THEN attending development functions until 10:00 PM. You get home about 10:30 PM, call your PACIFIC-TIME wife, and she says she can’t talk because she’s leading her team in preparations for going to trial NEXT week. Rinse and repeat.

So a man who has become the University President at one of the most esteemed institutions of higher education in the United States, a man who has earned the adulation of so many, is supposed to sit at home with his Stouffer’s Lean Cuisine spaghetti watching Colbert each night to unwind? Ridiculous.

The subordinate recognized Dr. Schlissel was lonely and figured out how to be everything his West Coast attorney wife wasn’t providing. And you know what? Dr. Schlissel EARNED the right to build a personal relationship with this woman. And for all the revenue he generated and leadership he devoted to the University, he had every right to use his University resources to make himself happy. He was already booking a suite for his University trips; what did it matter if the woman stayed with him? If she was taking notes in meetings and otherwise boosting Dr. Schlissel’s productivity in India, so what if she flew out first class with him and they had a layover in Paris. What, they’re supposed to sit in DeGaulle and munch Au Bon Pain while waiting for the next leg to New Delhi?

Don’t be silly. We forget that at a certain level, executives and leaders have earned rights and privileges that most don’t. Indeed most places recognize this, and they either promote the paramour or they give her a generous parachute. It’s just good business. But “MeToo” upended this mutually beneficial system. Ultimately it’s the organization itself that suffers.