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Sharing my recipe - am I being weird about this?
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Anonymous
comparing apples to oranges buddy. |
Anonymous
How, exactly? |
Anonymous
Oh, how I do love a trite phrase. Misused, meaningless, and apropos of nothing. |
Anonymous
How, exactly, is this meaningless? |
Anonymous
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The crazies are coming out of the woodwork today.
I see your point of view 100% OP. It's one thing to share a recipe for your MIL to make herself, it's another entirely for her to contribute it to a cookbook. It isn't "her" recipe. True, it isn't "yours" either...but you said "It's a little unusual, but nothing crazy"....so she should be able to find something along the same lines. |
Anonymous
LOL. Now we really want to know! OP -- have you googled "your" recipe? It might not be as unique as you think it is. |
Anonymous
| You know, OP, I get how you're feeling. I have some treasured recipes of my grandmother's and I would probably feel funny about putting them in a cookbook for reasons I can't fully articulate...though I love cooking the dishes for others. I might feel differently if my MIL submitted the recipe with my grandmother's name, i.e. "betty's yams". |
Anonymous
| Recipes are not protected by copyright laws. |
Anonymous
| plus it is just a church cookbook - probably photocopied. It's not like your MIL is shopping it to publishers. Lighten up and be a nice daughter in law. |
Anonymous
indeed. so much for "apples and oranges" not applying here. |
Anonymous
| Why does this offend some of you so much? It's amazing how worked up some of you have become over the topic. Does it matter if (and the OP stated it is a family recipe) she got the recipe off a carton of milk? If she changed the recipe 15% or more it makes it hers. It is no longer true to the original recipe. Some of the comments have been ridiculous and make you all sound like you are a bunch of boys in middle school. |
Anonymous
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I've posted this before, but here it goes again. In my Italian family, cooking is very important. It is the centerpiece of all family gatherings. When my great aunts passed on, they handed out cookbooks at their funerals and included funny stories about cooking together. I hope someone does the same when I die.
But, since we cooked like Italians, no recipe is ever accurate. I prefer to call recipes "suggestions". We cook by color, taste and smell, not measurements and timers. So, good luck following it if you don't cook like us. If the OP is still concerned, write a rambling recipe without measurements. They will never print it. |
Anonymous
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A semi-famous Jewish cookbook author went on national television and served a dish to the (extremely famous African American) host. The host said she loved it.
In that moment, the cookbook author verbally passed off the dish as her own creation --- however it wasn't. It was created out of thin air by a relative of mine and shared with the Jewish cookbook author. This dish also appears in one of her cookbooks as her own, without credit to my relative. True story. Not a federal crime, not a copyright infringement, but scummy nevertheless. |
Anonymous
Hee hee, so true. As my nana's getting up there, I'm trying to get some of her "recipes," such as they are, down, and it's impossible. My favorite is, "Cook it... you know, 'til it's done." Thanks, Nana, got it. 
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Anonymous
| OK, I truly got the answer, OP!. I totally understand you feeling weird about this. So, you should tell your MIL that your mom worked hard on the recipe and that really she is the one you should be asking. Prep your mother by calling her and telling her to hedge your MIL- and not give her the recipe. That way you are not the bad guy. What are mothers for if not to help out their grown daughters every now and again? Good luck and please post the outcome! |