Completely sick of my husband.Blaming me that he has a cold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is still going:

"I have calls all afternoon, so it's really frustrating that this morning got shot down and we weren't able to spend time together. I'll try harder to stop and think before I make another casual off hand comment that ruins the day."

I totally get that this is super annoying, but I think you are looking for trouble at this point. This last comment seems fine to me. “I’m bummed I said something stupid and we didn’t get to have a nice time before we left. I will try not to say dumb stuff in the future” seems like a way to try to wrap this up and move on.

I was looking for a genuine apology, and I feel what I got was a half assed pretend apology that is actually him taking every opportunity to blame me for being overly sensitive, reactionary, unreasonable etc. IE: The reason we didnt spend the day together i is MY fault due to the way in which I reacted.

I think he keeps trying to turn everything on me.

Yawn. Yes op he's a jerk. You know this. We know this. What's your plan?

[Anonymous]

He is literally worse than a baby. I really hope you don’t make him soup anymore!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

I am in therapy. If it weren't for the kids I would be gone.
I can't just leave. I wish it were that easy. Trust me.
The thought of half custody, not seeing my kids full time is scarier to me than anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is literally worse than a baby. I really hope you don’t make him soup anymore!

Op here. Definitely not. No soup for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand where he's coming from. I assume he makes the majority of income for your family? Is his job stressful? Is he able to "stay home" if he's sick? I'm guessing not.

I have a very stressful job. However, I make 400k a year. I can't take days off. I work seven days a week. There are no "holidays" for me.

When someone in my family is sick I sleep in the basement in a guest bedroom. I don't mind at all. Sometimes if my wife feels sick she will sleep in the upstairs guest room. She knows I can't deal with being sick, I have real responsibilities and work.

You know you don’t HAVE to have this life, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

I am in therapy. If it weren't for the kids I would be gone.
I can't just leave. I wish it were that easy. Trust me.
The thought of half custody, not seeing my kids full time is scarier to me than anything else.

Got it. So you'll just whine and complain and do nothing about it. Great example for your kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

oh let a woman vent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

oh let a woman vent.

Women like OP drive me nuts with their self induced pathetic behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can understand where he's coming from. I assume he makes the majority of income for your family? Is his job stressful? Is he able to "stay home" if he's sick? I'm guessing not.

I have a very stressful job. However, I make 400k a year. I can't take days off. I work seven days a week. There are no "holidays" for me.

When someone in my family is sick I sleep in the basement in a guest bedroom. I don't mind at all. Sometimes if my wife feels sick she will sleep in the upstairs guest room. She knows I can't deal with being sick, I have real responsibilities and work.

You know you don’t HAVE to have this life, right?

In my heart of hearts I know I should leave. I know this.
I am being open and honest here. I don't have the guts to do it.
The thought of such a change terrifies and paralyzes me.
The thought of splitting custody possibly dealing with a step parent- all of it.
I am being raw and vulnerable in telling you that i KNOW i deserve better, and I should leave. But I am too afraid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

I am in therapy. If it weren't for the kids I would be gone.
I can't just leave. I wish it were that easy. Trust me.
The thought of half custody, not seeing my kids full time is scarier to me than anything else.

Well if this is the case, then I am assuming there must be much larger issues going on. I mean sometimes my husband says something obnoxious and doesn’t apologize perfectly (and says I’m too sensitive). But I’m happily married, because this isn’t some common thing and we don’t have bigger issues. He is generally a totally nice person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can understand where he's coming from. I assume he makes the majority of income for your family? Is his job stressful? Is he able to "stay home" if he's sick? I'm guessing not.

I have a very stressful job. However, I make 400k a year. I can't take days off. I work seven days a week. There are no "holidays" for me.

When someone in my family is sick I sleep in the basement in a guest bedroom. I don't mind at all. Sometimes if my wife feels sick she will sleep in the upstairs guest room. She knows I can't deal with being sick, I have real responsibilities and work.

You know you don’t HAVE to have this life, right?

She enjoys the attention she gets from being a victim. Notice how she uses hot terms like abuse and gaslighting for sympathy.

F you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can understand where he's coming from. I assume he makes the majority of income for your family? Is his job stressful? Is he able to "stay home" if he's sick? I'm guessing not.

I have a very stressful job. However, I make 400k a year. I can't take days off. I work seven days a week. There are no "holidays" for me.

When someone in my family is sick I sleep in the basement in a guest bedroom. I don't mind at all. Sometimes if my wife feels sick she will sleep in the upstairs guest room. She knows I can't deal with being sick, I have real responsibilities and work.

You know you don’t HAVE to have this life, right?

In my heart of hearts I know I should leave. I know this.
I am being open and honest here. I don't have the guts to do it.
The thought of such a change terrifies and paralyzes me.
The thought of splitting custody possibly dealing with a step parent- all of it.
I am being raw and vulnerable in telling you that i KNOW i deserve better, and I should leave. But I am too afraid.

Vomit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have to give him sh for giving me a migraine while taking care of sick toddlers and working. ugh! I'm sorry OP. Hope your day gets better.

My day will get better because every hour is closer to when he leaves for this trip.

Are you going to do anything other than complain? Counseling or leave him? Or are you just going to keep putting up with it for whatever warped reason you've worked out

I am in therapy. If it weren't for the kids I would be gone.
I can't just leave. I wish it were that easy. Trust me.
The thought of half custody, not seeing my kids full time is scarier to me than anything else.

Well if this is the case, then I am assuming there must be much larger issues going on. I mean sometimes my husband says something obnoxious and doesn’t apologize perfectly (and says I’m too sensitive). But I’m happily married, because this isn’t some common thing and we don’t have bigger issues. He is generally a totally nice person.

Op here- A lot of other issues going on, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can understand where he's coming from. I assume he makes the majority of income for your family? Is his job stressful? Is he able to "stay home" if he's sick? I'm guessing not.

I have a very stressful job. However, I make 400k a year. I can't take days off. I work seven days a week. There are no "holidays" for me.

When someone in my family is sick I sleep in the basement in a guest bedroom. I don't mind at all. Sometimes if my wife feels sick she will sleep in the upstairs guest room. She knows I can't deal with being sick, I have real responsibilities and work.

You know you don’t HAVE to have this life, right?

She enjoys the attention she gets from being a victim. Notice how she uses hot terms like abuse and gaslighting for sympathy.

F you.

Oh I see you're still going with the victim hood. "Wahhh. I know I should leave but I can't. Which poor little me"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Amazingly, it's getting worse.

He keeps going: "Am i expected to filter myself at all times to only say things that I am sure you can comfortably handle hearing? Because if so, that feels obnoxiously fragile and weak. Do you really think I am accusing you of intentionally getting me sick?"

Just keep ignoring him OP and not engaging.

It is obviously driving him batty.