Men lying about height

[Anonymous]

I was briefly on dating apps. I am just over 6’4”. I got a lot more initial contact when I said I was 6’2” vs 6’4”.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. This is ridiculous though. Why does it matter why she's not attracted to the guy? It was one date after a few text messages. No one is entitled to a second date. If she's not into the guy, then she should find someone else.

I do think though that lying on the profile is dumb. It is obviously bad to start off a meeting with a known lie. It makes you look insecure. And she's obviously going to find out anyway. Nobody wants to date an insecure liar, even if open to a short guy. So why not filter for people who are ok with your height?

[Anonymous]

I wonder if guys also lie about size.

[Anonymous]

OP, how old are you? As an old, married woman, I can tell you that height has literally nothing to do with a strong, loving relationship. If you are still on the dating sites in three years, will you regret that you passed up a man with whom you really clicked because of height?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? As an old, married woman, I can tell you that height has literally nothing to do with a strong, loving relationship. If you are still on the dating sites in three years, will you regret that you passed up a man with whom you really clicked because of height?

+1

There is nothing wrong with not dating somebody if you aren’t physically attracted to them. But if you are and it’s just the height that isn’t ideal?

Short guys can be pretty awesome. Some have a chip on their shoulder, but I think that sometimes they have better personalities because they can’t just get by on being tall. They call them short kings for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see why height matters to taller women. But I know lots of women who are my height (5'4") or shorter and will only date men over 6'. Honestly, couples with a huge height difference look stupid together.

My preference is 5'7" to 5'9" but I've dated men of all heights, including a couple who were shorter than I am.

oof .. we may look stupid together, but we are happy and have beautiful children, together 20 years.

-4'11" dw with 6'2" dh

I could say a couple where the man is a couple of inches shorter than the woman look stupid together, but I won't say that. oops.. just did.

Maybe you looked at us and thought we looked stupid together, and I looked at you when you were with a shorter guy and thought you looked stupid together. That would be pretty funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? As an old, married woman, I can tell you that height has literally nothing to do with a strong, loving relationship. If you are still on the dating sites in three years, will you regret that you passed up a man with whom you really clicked because of height?

Very few people date with no physical standards for attraction. Some people aren't attracted to skinny people, or fat people, or fair people, or dark skinned people, or or or.... It is just silly to insist that someone give a chance to someone that they are not attracted to. Why? Not to mention, what is the chance that a guy who lies about his height on a dating app is going to be otherwise ideal for her?

[Anonymous]

I'm sure you have never lied about your weight, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. This is ridiculous though. Why does it matter why she's not attracted to the guy? It was one date after a few text messages. No one is entitled to a second date. If she's not into the guy, then she should find someone else.

I do think though that lying on the profile is dumb. It is obviously bad to start off a meeting with a known lie. It makes you look insecure. And she's obviously going to find out anyway. Nobody wants to date an insecure liar, even if open to a short guy. So why not filter for people who are ok with your height?

+1 most reasonable post on here. And yes, lying about yourself is a big red flag, for both men and women.

I think if he said he was 5'11 but he's only 5'10, that's nbd. But a few inches is an outright lie rather than just an embellishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you have never lied about your weight, OP?

weight can fluctuate; height cannot, so don't lie about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? As an old, married woman, I can tell you that height has literally nothing to do with a strong, loving relationship. If you are still on the dating sites in three years, will you regret that you passed up a man with whom you really clicked because of height?

Very few people date with no physical standards for attraction. Some people aren't attracted to skinny people, or fat people, or fair people, or dark skinned people, or or or.... It is just silly to insist that someone give a chance to someone that they are not attracted to. Why? Not to mention, what is the chance that a guy who lies about his height on a dating app is going to be otherwise ideal for her?

Ok, be shallow. Let someone whose company you really enjoyed go, because they “weren’t tall enough”. Let’s circle back in a few years to see how this all worked out for OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it is a big deal to put 5'11" on his profile so as not to get filtered out so quickly. But he should have said his true height before the date.

I would be upset too OP and I have dated men his height before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Short and a liar? I wouldn't even entertain that, OP.

+100.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. This is ridiculous though. Why does it matter why she's not attracted to the guy? It was one date after a few text messages. No one is entitled to a second date. If she's not into the guy, then she should find someone else.

I do think though that lying on the profile is dumb. It is obviously bad to start off a meeting with a known lie. It makes you look insecure. And she's obviously going to find out anyway. Nobody wants to date an insecure liar, even if open to a short guy. So why not filter for people who are ok with your height?

+1 most reasonable post on here. And yes, lying about yourself is a big red flag, for both men and women.

I think if he said he was 5'11 but he's only 5'10, that's nbd. But a few inches is an outright lie rather than just an embellishment.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you? As an old, married woman, I can tell you that height has literally nothing to do with a strong, loving relationship. If you are still on the dating sites in three years, will you regret that you passed up a man with whom you really clicked because of height?

Very few people date with no physical standards for attraction. Some people aren't attracted to skinny people, or fat people, or fair people, or dark skinned people, or or or.... It is just silly to insist that someone give a chance to someone that they are not attracted to. Why? Not to mention, what is the chance that a guy who lies about his height on a dating app is going to be otherwise ideal for her?

Ok, be shallow. Let someone whose company you really enjoyed go, because they “weren’t tall enough”. Let’s circle back in a few years to see how this all worked out for OP.

Do you really have no physical standards when you date? Are you attracted to people regardless of appearance?

And putting that aside, the guy lied, and is obviously insecure. Disliking that is not shallow.