Men lying about height

[Anonymous]

Why do men lie about height on apps? 😫 been chatting with a guy I met on Hinge, his height is listed there at 5’11. We had a great chat for a few days, met up yesterday for coffee and I was one inch taller than him: I’m 5’7 😫 I was visibly annoyed but played it cool, we had a great convo during the date and lots in common, but this is bothering me. My friends are saying that I am crazy to discount the connection due to his height, but I am attracted to guys taller than me, and someone lying about their height just bothers me, not the first time that I meet someone much shorter than they listed either, I don’t get it , am I crazy 😩 Also, would you let the person know in these situations? What would you tell them? ‘ sorry the connection is great but you sre much shorter than I expected’? I’d feel bad saying that to someone ! He invited me for dinner and im debating if i should go

[Anonymous]

Don’t say that!!

I would be irritated that he lied about it and I would tell him but I also think you should be open to shorter guys.

I know people say everybody should accept lying on dating apps but I just think it screams insecurity and I’m not a fan.

[Anonymous]

He’s in a tough spot. You, like most women, would screen him out without giving him a chance if he listed himself at 5’6”. Totally understandable. You had a connection, see where it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do men lie about height on apps? 😫 been chatting with a guy I met on Hinge, his height is listed there at 5’11. We had a great chat for a few days, met up yesterday for coffee and I was one inch taller than him: I’m 5’7 😫 I was visibly annoyed but played it cool, we had a great convo during the date and lots in common, but this is bothering me. My friends are saying that I am crazy to discount the connection due to his height, but I am attracted to guys taller than me, and someone lying about their height just bothers me, not the first time that I meet someone much shorter than they listed either, I don’t get it , am I crazy 😩 Also, would you let the person know in these situations? What would you tell them? ‘ sorry the connection is great but you sre much shorter than I expected’? I’d feel bad saying that to someone ! He invited me for dinner and im debating if i should go

Because they know that women filter by height, so he'll have no chance with a huge swathe of women if he's honest. And I think he thinks that perhaps you'll give him a chance if you just met him and clicked.

Anyway, I feel sorry for the guy, but I think you should just blow him off. You don't need to tell him why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say that!!

I would be irritated that he lied about it and I would tell him but I also think you should be open to shorter guys.

I know people say everybody should accept lying on dating apps but I just think it screams insecurity and I’m not a fan.

How would you tell him without being hurtful?

[Anonymous]

I don't worry about it. It's the same reason women lie about their weight.

[Anonymous]

I completely understand you. The same thing happened to me. I advertised that I was looking for at least a C-cup.
But when we met, she was barely a B!! (and that's being generous).
Played it cool, but I was steamed... Talk about false advertising.
I guess you just can't trust some people.

[Anonymous]

I would not go out with him again but also not say anything unless he asks.

I am 5’11 and I always ask the guy how tall he is before meeting

[Anonymous]

I'm a short man and don't lie about my hight and accept the consequences and am sure I'm screened out from many potential dates. Oh well.

I do see women on the apps clearly lying about their age. It's counterproductive because they probably look good for whatever their actual age is, but look like sht for the age they are claiming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I completely understand you. The same thing happened to me. I advertised that I was looking for at least a C-cup.
But when we met, she was barely a B!! (and that's being generous).
Played it cool, but I was steamed... Talk about false advertising.
I guess you just can't trust some people.

sure, if a man advertised for a C cup only, I wouldn't bother responding since I figure he wouldn't be attracted to me. So, why would this situation be any different?

-A cup woman, not OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t say that!!

I would be irritated that he lied about it and I would tell him but I also think you should be open to shorter guys.

I know people say everybody should accept lying on dating apps but I just think it screams insecurity and I’m not a fan.

How would you tell him without being hurtful?

I would call him out for being dishonest. I’d make a joke out of it. Then Id just do some vague “I’m not interested” message. I would never tell somebody I wasn’t interested in them because of a physical feature.

[Anonymous]

If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. Who cares why?

[Anonymous]

Because women are sexist and men need to lie in order to get ahead. No different than women lying about breast size.

[Anonymous]

Because women are shallow creatures and short men almost never get the chance to be known before their height is look at as a defect. Women lie about age and breast size and it’s supposed to be okay.

Stop being shallow, OP. Maybe you will find someone if you care a little less about their height, and more about them as a person. You wonder why you and many women are single. Can’t be a nickel looking for a dime. You probably have very unrealistic expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do men lie about height on apps? 😫 been chatting with a guy I met on Hinge, his height is listed there at 5’11. We had a great chat for a few days, met up yesterday for coffee and I was one inch taller than him: I’m 5’7 😫 I was visibly annoyed but played it cool, we had a great convo during the date and lots in common, but this is bothering me. My friends are saying that I am crazy to discount the connection due to his height, but I am attracted to guys taller than me, and someone lying about their height just bothers me, not the first time that I meet someone much shorter than they listed either, I don’t get it , am I crazy 😩 Also, would you let the person know in these situations? What would you tell them? ‘ sorry the connection is great but you sre much shorter than I expected’? I’d feel bad saying that to someone ! He invited me for dinner and im debating if i should go

Don’t go because he clearly deserves better than your shallow a**.