Failing at work - WFH with baby

[Anonymous]

Absolutely nothing wrong with daycare. You're choosing to provide for him financially and pay for an environment that will be way more stimulating than a mom trying to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely nothing wrong with daycare. You're choosing to provide for him financially and pay for an environment that will be way more stimulating than a mom trying to work.

This. A good daycare is far better and more enjoyable than a frazzled parent who is trying to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t feel like a failure; most people can’t do well at work while caring for an infant full time. How is your 4 year old doing? Did that child do fine in daycare? Don’t feel guilty for giving your kid experienced care during the week so you can, in turn, earn a living to satisfy their many other needs.

+1000. Babies need a lot of attention and you cannot give full attention to baby and to work. In normal times, workplaces require that telecommuting employees have childcare in place for exactly this reason. During covid it wasn't really feasible to enforce this rule, but it's there for a reason!

+1. I’ve been full time remote since September 2019 (pre-pandemic). I work for a Fortune 15 and as part of our on boarding the company clearly and unequivocally states that we need to have childcare. In 2020 my husband and I didn’t have childcare for about a third of the year (we moved and didn’t have a nanny at the start of COVID and then our nanny quit at the end of the year to take a job at a nonprofit), but my employer made an exception given the craziness of COVID.

Does your employer have a policy like my employer (that you are violating)? Are you being honest with your boss about your childcare situation? It sounds like it’s only a matter of time before things come crashing down, since your 4 month old is only going to need more from you in the coming months.

[Anonymous]

Send to daycare, x 1000.

My daycare has had like 2 covid cases (both contracted outside of school) in 18 months. (Yes, blahblah, there could have been asymptomatic ones etc but with how kids usually are with touching stuff, I doubt it -- someone would have gotten symptoms and gotten tested per the protocol.)

[Anonymous]

Honestly I’m shocked you’re caring for a baby when obligated to work FT. Wrong on so many levels.

[Anonymous]

You need to send him to daycare. Your work probably requires you to have childcare.

[Anonymous]

I had my baby at daycare full time and I still couldn't do a good job.

BE kinder to yourself. you're doing 2 full time jobs. If you can do it, think about daycare. or maybe compromise for a shorter period of time.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are short-changing everyone--your child, your job and coworkers, your husband, yourself. Just put the baby in daycare or with a nanny and everyone will have a better experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t feel like a failure; most people can’t do well at work while caring for an infant full time. How is your 4 year old doing? Did that child do fine in daycare? Don’t feel guilty for giving your kid experienced care during the week so you can, in turn, earn a living to satisfy their many other needs.

+1000. Babies need a lot of attention and you cannot give full attention to baby and to work. In normal times, workplaces require that telecommuting employees have childcare in place for exactly this reason. During covid it wasn't really feasible to enforce this rule, but it's there for a reason!

+1. I’ve been full time remote since September 2019 (pre-pandemic). I work for a Fortune 15 and as part of our on boarding the company clearly and unequivocally states that we need to have childcare. In 2020 my husband and I didn’t have childcare for about a third of the year (we moved and didn’t have a nanny at the start of COVID and then our nanny quit at the end of the year to take a job at a nonprofit), but my employer made an exception given the craziness of COVID.

Does your employer have a policy like my employer (that you are violating)? Are you being honest with your boss about your childcare situation? It sounds like it’s only a matter of time before things come crashing down, since your 4 month old is only going to need more from you in the coming months.

Same. I had my child with me for 3 months (March to June 2020) in the beginning of Covid but that was different. By now, everyone is expected to have arrangements for regular childcare.