Why do some women always look perfect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m a woman like this and to be honest? Beauty and fashion is my hobby. I enjoy watching fashion shows, learning about makeup techniques on YouTube, and chatting with my Derm about new products. Consistently looking pulled together isn’t effortless, but some people enjoy the effort more than others. Here’s what I do:

Standing personal care - hair, nails, skin, brows
Exercise and eat well - count calories every day and try to make sure I MOVE
Wardrobe - I got in a rut and had a personal stylist who helped me spend $7k on my wardrobe. Tons of basic and special pieces. Now a supplement each season and I felt great about my wardrobe.

And with doing all this, there are tons of women who look more pulled together than me. Because they work for it more than I do. More effort.

I was going to post this -- in my experience, the woman who look pulled together love the effort that goes into looking pulled together. Getting their hair, nails, brows, makeup done is a joy. Getting clothes tailored and/or only buying well fitting clothes is an essential, etc.

I'm not like any of this, by the way. It's not just the time these woman spend. I believe many truly enjoy the experience and that's really the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All has to do with age. I dated a few truly beautiful “women” between 20-31. For fun over years on LinkedIn or Facebook take a peak. Most have not aged well at all.

BTW it is intermediating to date a really beautiful women. I recall I had this one girlfriend literally more beautiful than any model or movie star. Five foot nine inch, 120 pounds yet somehow a figure and perfect breads and beautiful blonde hair. I recall folks described her as a much better looking younger version of Christie Brinkley.

She did not work out and ate junk food.

Weird part I took her to two weddings and I could feel the bride wanted to rip her heart out. Even my old uncles were lining up to dance with her. I later took her to my company Xmas party and the posted photos pretty much had her in like 30 percent of shots. She did not work there. I have guys pretty much jump out of cars while I was walking with her.

I dated three girlfriends that level. They are that hot. One girl I dated pre internet got paid to go to clubs and restaurants. They actually pay her to eat and drink. I recall one club owner said 40-100 guys will come on extra if she just sat in front.

But all of them got old

I almost look forward to your creepy posts.

[Anonymous]

I didn't realize until reading this forum how much of it is "having work done" (fillers, plastic surgery, botox)

[Anonymous]

I put on eyeliner and lipstick and concealer. Not drop dead gorgeous but I think I look put together and it takes 5 min.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All has to do with age. I dated a few truly beautiful “women” between 20-31. For fun over years on LinkedIn or Facebook take a peak. Most have not aged well at all.

BTW it is intermediating to date a really beautiful women. I recall I had this one girlfriend literally more beautiful than any model or movie star. Five foot nine inch, 120 pounds yet somehow a figure and perfect breads and beautiful blonde hair. I recall folks described her as a much better looking younger version of Christie Brinkley.

She did not work out and ate junk food.

Weird part I took her to two weddings and I could feel the bride wanted to rip her heart out. Even my old uncles were lining up to dance with her. I later took her to my company Xmas party and the posted photos pretty much had her in like 30 percent of shots. She did not work there. I have guys pretty much jump out of cars while I was walking with her.

I dated three girlfriends that level. They are that hot. One girl I dated pre internet got paid to go to clubs and restaurants. They actually pay her to eat and drink. I recall one club owner said 40-100 guys will come on extra if she just sat in front.

But all of them got old

My dog is a rock star like that. People literally pull over on the side of the road to meet him. I can't walk 10 feet without someone running over. He has been filmed by people all over the world so I know he must be on everyone's social media in foreign countries. Yesterday, some man asked if he could Facetime with my dog on a call to his daughter.

It's tough being so beautiful. Not a minute's peace.

[Anonymous]

Don’t know how they do it; just know we hate them.

[Anonymous]

For Pete’s sake, get off Instagram!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All has to do with age. I dated a few truly beautiful “women” between 20-31. For fun over years on LinkedIn or Facebook take a peak. Most have not aged well at all.

BTW it is intermediating to date a really beautiful women. I recall I had this one girlfriend literally more beautiful than any model or movie star. Five foot nine inch, 120 pounds yet somehow a figure and perfect breads and beautiful blonde hair. I recall folks described her as a much better looking younger version of Christie Brinkley.

She did not work out and ate junk food.

Weird part I took her to two weddings and I could feel the bride wanted to rip her heart out. Even my old uncles were lining up to dance with her. I later took her to my company Xmas party and the posted photos pretty much had her in like 30 percent of shots. She did not work there. I have guys pretty much jump out of cars while I was walking with her.

I dated three girlfriends that level. They are that hot. One girl I dated pre internet got paid to go to clubs and restaurants. They actually pay her to eat and drink. I recall one club owner said 40-100 guys will come on extra if she just sat in front.

But all of them got old

My dog is a rock star like that. People literally pull over on the side of the road to meet him. I can't walk 10 feet without someone running over. He has been filmed by people all over the world so I know he must be on everyone's social media in foreign countries. Yesterday, some man asked if he could Facetime with my dog on a call to his daughter.

It's tough being so beautiful. Not a minute's peace.

DCUM, this is why I can't quit you.

[Anonymous]

OP, have you ever looked into stuff like getting your "colors done" (season color analysis or something of that ilk)? When you get your colors right, your skin can GLOW! That is what got me to look into it is seeing this older woman who just looked so glowy and put together. I asked her what her secret was and she said "Color Me Beautiful" back in the 80s. You might have to shop around for the right expert / method because the old Color Me Beautiful approach doesn't work for everyone (it didn't for me).

I also highly recommend understanding the lines of your body. This is way beyond "body type analysis" involving fruits. Look into David Kibbe and also a book called The Triumph of Individual Style, which uses art works to show you different body types and how to flatter them with different colors and lines.

From this kind of stuff I learned, for example, what type of pant leg / sleeve style to look for, how long my hair should be, or even how long my earrings and necklaces should be to best flatter my face and body shape. I also know where on the spectrum of color to shop: cool vs. warm, bright vs. muted, light vs. dark, and what kinds of prints I can wear well (size of print, round vs linear vs angular, etc.).

Between knowing my colors and knowing my lines, I've been able to streamline my wardrobe and shopping. My aim was not to be fashionable and to turn heads, but just to look decent and feel harmonious in my clothing. Now I can tell if I am in the wrong kind of thing because I actually feel awful in it. Certain colors deflate me or make me feel "hot" (temperature wise, lol) and certain cuts of clothing drag me down. OP, I hope this helps. It can be a really fun rabbit hole to fall into.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All has to do with age. I dated a few truly beautiful “women” between 20-31. For fun over years on LinkedIn or Facebook take a peak. Most have not aged well at all.

BTW it is intermediating to date a really beautiful women. I recall I had this one girlfriend literally more beautiful than any model or movie star. Five foot nine inch, 120 pounds yet somehow a figure and perfect breads and beautiful blonde hair. I recall folks described her as a much better looking younger version of Christie Brinkley.

She did not work out and ate junk food.

Weird part I took her to two weddings and I could feel the bride wanted to rip her heart out. Even my old uncles were lining up to dance with her. I later took her to my company Xmas party and the posted photos pretty much had her in like 30 percent of shots. She did not work there. I have guys pretty much jump out of cars while I was walking with her.

I dated three girlfriends that level. They are that hot. One girl I dated pre internet got paid to go to clubs and restaurants. They actually pay her to eat and drink. I recall one club owner said 40-100 guys will come on extra if she just sat in front.

But all of them got old

This post makes me sad. So they got old and what happened to you? Did you magically become Benjamin Button? I’m not old but I hope to God one day that I get there. I’ve seen beautiful older women that look as Op described. I think you posted on the wrong thread

[Anonymous]

Have you seen teenagers taking photos of themselves for IG? They put on the most hilarious smiles/seductive poses/funny faces, snap the pictures, and then half a second later go back to pouting, being bored and wondering what is wrong with their lives.

Just...exhale OP.

[Anonymous]

I have zero idea how they do it - I'm another frizz head here. But it might make you feel better to tackle one beauty thing at a time and just see if you can make it work.

I recently spent quite a bit of time reading reddit and DCUM threads about curly and frizzy hair, and decided to try some of the techniques that were recommended. And I will be d**ned, my hair looks better. (It also looks worse, because I decided to give myself a trim - but the curls are looking nice. One thing at a time.)

Anyway - maybe try getting your eyebrows done, then learn how to use a pencil on them or something. See if it makes you feel more with it. (I say eyebrows because I am thinking of trying eyebrows next.) A Bird by Bird take on beauty and looking pulled together. Can't hurt, outside of the budget - right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All has to do with age. I dated a few truly beautiful “women” between 20-31. For fun over years on LinkedIn or Facebook take a peak. Most have not aged well at all.

BTW it is intermediating to date a really beautiful women. I recall I had this one girlfriend literally more beautiful than any model or movie star. Five foot nine inch, 120 pounds yet somehow a figure and perfect breads and beautiful blonde hair. I recall folks described her as a much better looking younger version of Christie Brinkley.

She did not work out and ate junk food.

Weird part I took her to two weddings and I could feel the bride wanted to rip her heart out. Even my old uncles were lining up to dance with her. I later took her to my company Xmas party and the posted photos pretty much had her in like 30 percent of shots. She did not work there. I have guys pretty much jump out of cars while I was walking with her.

I dated three girlfriends that level. They are that hot. One girl I dated pre internet got paid to go to clubs and restaurants. They actually pay her to eat and drink. I recall one club owner said 40-100 guys will come on extra if she just sat in front.

But all of them got old

You can’t be a real person, what is this insanity. You sound like Al Bundy reliving the time he scored four touchdowns in a single game while playing for the Polk High School Panthers in the 1966 city championship game versus Andrew Johnson High School, including the game-winning touchdown in the final seconds against his old nemesis, Bubba "Spare Tire" Dixon.

[Anonymous]

My dog is a rock star like that. People literally pull over on the side of the road to meet him. I can't walk 10 feet without someone running over. He has been filmed by people all over the world so I know he must be on everyone's social media in foreign countries. Yesterday, some man asked if he could Facetime with my dog on a call to his daughter.

It's tough being so beautiful. Not a minute's peace.

You might be the Samoyed owner in my neighborhood, LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you ever looked into stuff like getting your "colors done" (season color analysis or something of that ilk)? When you get your colors right, your skin can GLOW! That is what got me to look into it is seeing this older woman who just looked so glowy and put together. I asked her what her secret was and she said "Color Me Beautiful" back in the 80s. You might have to shop around for the right expert / method because the old Color Me Beautiful approach doesn't work for everyone (it didn't for me).

I also highly recommend understanding the lines of your body. This is way beyond "body type analysis" involving fruits. Look into David Kibbe and also a book called The Triumph of Individual Style, which uses art works to show you different body types and how to flatter them with different colors and lines.

From this kind of stuff I learned, for example, what type of pant leg / sleeve style to look for, how long my hair should be, or even how long my earrings and necklaces should be to best flatter my face and body shape. I also know where on the spectrum of color to shop: cool vs. warm, bright vs. muted, light vs. dark, and what kinds of prints I can wear well (size of print, round vs linear vs angular, etc.).

Between knowing my colors and knowing my lines, I've been able to streamline my wardrobe and shopping. My aim was not to be fashionable and to turn heads, but just to look decent and feel harmonious in my clothing. Now I can tell if I am in the wrong kind of thing because I actually feel awful in it. Certain colors deflate me or make me feel "hot" (temperature wise, lol) and certain cuts of clothing drag me down. OP, I hope this helps. It can be a really fun rabbit hole to fall into.

All of the things you mention will change as you age.

The bottom line for looking put together: M O N E Y