if your your adult kid killed someone would you help them lawyer up or turn them in?

[Anonymous]

Yes I would turn my kid in. And no lawyer paid by me.

The only time I would get a lawyer for them would be if I felt it was an accident.

Adam Lanza, I would not have been able to live with myself being his parent or Columbine. Those were completely preventable.

[Anonymous]

Both

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell my kid what I would tell anyone facing criminal charges: retain counsel, and don’t talk to police. There’s a process in place for anyone accused of a crime.

And since I’m a lawyer, if my kids confessed a crime to me, it would very likely be inadmissible due to attorney-client privilege.

Not unless they hired you. When I ask my BFF’s DH for legal advice, he has me give him $1 and then he buys me a coffee.

No, there’s no requirement that money exchange hands for attorney-client privilege to arise. If you went in to a criminal defense attorney to talk about her representing you for a DUI or whatever, and they turned you down as a client because they were too busy, the initial discussion would still be privileged.

When someone comes to a person they know is a lawyer and says “I’m in trouble”, even if that lawyer does not end up representing them, the chances of that discussion being allowed in court are exceedingly slim.

[Anonymous]

Probably both.

[Anonymous]

Anyone ever seen the movie "The Lie" with Peter Sarsgaard? I was a ball of nerves, trying to decide how I'd handle it every step of the way.

[Anonymous]

Both.

I would want them to have the best representation I can afford, and I would pressure them to turn themselves in with their lawyer to make the best impression.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No I would not turn in my kid are you kidding???

I feel the same way.
As a parent, our love 💞 is very unconditional.

However if my son was Christopher Lee Watts & confessed to murdering his children (+ thus my Grandchildren!) I would never speak to him again.

So you think murder is fine as long as the victims aren’t on your extremely short list. Got it.

Are you so dim that you can't see the huge space between "I'm fine with that" and "actively assist the police in arresting and convicting my child?"

Are you so dim that you don’t see the disconnect between “our love is very unconditional” and “I would never speak to him again if he murdered MY grandchildren?”

Someone else’s grandchild- unconditional love! 💞

[Anonymous]

If they were *accused* of any felony, I’d course I’d hire a lawyer. You are a fool not to.

[Anonymous]

It would depend on their age and the circumstances..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No I would not turn in my kid are you kidding???

I feel the same way.
As a parent, our love 💞 is very unconditional.

However if my son was Christopher Lee Watts & confessed to murdering his children (+ thus my Grandchildren!) I would never speak to him again.

I think you need to relearn the definition of unconditional because it sounds like your definition is conditional.

+1 Hint: Unconditional love means you love him no matter what he does, not that his behavior is free from consequence.

-1 Hint: Unconditional love means you love him no matter what he does. Full stop.

PP indicated that they would not speak to their son again if he had murdered PP's grandchildren. I get that there are consequences to behaviors but how is never speaking to someone considered unconditional love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever seen the movie "The Lie" with Peter Sarsgaard? I was a ball of nerves, trying to decide how I'd handle it every step of the way.

Hopefully better than Peter did.

[Anonymous]

Unabombers parents faced this issue….and his brother was one who reported him.

Family friend went to federal prison for misprision of felony — didn’t alert authorities to serious risks due to son falsifying fathers name

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you’ve ever said “my love for my child is unconditional,” then either you would not turn them in to the police, or you lied to your child.

Does anyone really believe that when their child is suspected of a crime, the police “are only there to help?”

That's not what OP is asking, though. "If your adult kid killed someone" not if they were suspected of a crime. They did it. You know they did it. So ... yeah, get a lawyer and turn him in. Your kid killed someone else's kid. You can love him while he's in jail, that's what unconditional love means.

I think a good deal of people would have a different definition of unconditional love.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell my kid what I would tell anyone facing criminal charges: retain counsel, and don’t talk to police. There’s a process in place for anyone accused of a crime.

And since I’m a lawyer, if my kids confessed a crime to me, it would very likely be inadmissible due to attorney-client privilege.

Not unless they hired you. When I ask my BFF’s DH for legal advice, he has me give him $1 and then he buys me a coffee.

No, there’s no requirement that money exchange hands for attorney-client privilege to arise. If you went in to a criminal defense attorney to talk about her representing you for a DUI or whatever, and they turned you down as a client because they were too busy, the initial discussion would still be privileged.

When someone comes to a person they know is a lawyer and says “I’m in trouble”, even if that lawyer does not end up representing them, the chances of that discussion being allowed in court are exceedingly slim.

Exactly. The test is essentially whether they knew you were a lawyer and they said things to you in furthering assistance. Essentially. The requirement of a monetary exchange makes for good television though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if you found out your child stormed the capitol on Jan. 6th?

If you ever wonder why you have no friends, it’s because you say stuff like this to show how "witty" you are. It’s exhausting to be around you