if your your adult kid killed someone would you help them lawyer up or turn them in?
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I feel like it’s impossible to know what you’d really do in this situation. Would depend on the kid, my knowledge of them up to that point, the details of the crime. I wouldn’t be able to say with confidence I’d turn my kid in under any circumstance. I would get the good counsel and tell them not to talk to the police under almost any circumstance though.
I would tell any person, guilty or not, to not talk to the police frankly. And not any acab or BLM stuff, just common criminal justice knowledge, they’re not your friend when they’re solving a crime |
Anonymous
Yes, I would definitely do both. |
Anonymous
You can love someone and still understand that they did something wrong and are a danger to innocent people. I would probably feel guilty that they turned out that way, but not condone their behavior . |
Anonymous
Lolololol |
Anonymous
OMG, you people are frighteningly immoral. |
Anonymous
| No, I would not "turn him/her in" but I would encourage him to turn himself in and to do the right thing. I hope when I'm finished raising my kids and they're grown they've learned to do the right thing in all situations. I would regardless pay for a good lawyer. |
Anonymous
I hope my kid would turn himself in, but if not well we do have property abroad. He can always hide out there. There's limited property records and that country does not really maintain property records like the US so it would not be easily searchable (also in another relative's name not mine). The problem would be the international flights. It would really honestly depend on the crime committed. Did he kill someone in a car crash? Did he murder a bunch of children? Those are two very different crimes in my mind. Look at that diplomat's wife who killed a younger teen in England- no problem with that it was an accident but yet she's a wanted criminal. I think there are shades of grey here. |
Anonymous
| One of my parenting goals is to raise a kid who will only kill another person for a reason I agree with. If I succeed in that, my lips are sealed. |
Anonymous
This is how the Joran Van Der Sloot types are set loose upon the world. |
Anonymous
| I would tell my kid that I loved them but to take someone’s life is a crime that cannot be taken back and that they should turn themselves in. I would hope that while I wouldn’t approve, I would be there to talk to them. This is assuming that my child is otherwise a good person and we have a good relationship. I don’t think good people randomly just become murderers though… it seems more likely that someone would have a personality disorder and be entitled and it would be hard to have a relationship with someone like that even if it were your child. |
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My SIL's sister was married to an extremely abusive man (like, she would wake up on the kitchen floor after he had knocked her unconscious) who was one of two boys adopted by a couple with means who also lived in a very small town. When she fled the marriage with her small children, IL's jumped in and actually got custody of the kids. When I met her, her ex's brother had just been charged with killing his girlfriend and setting her body on fire in a ditch. He entered a conditional plea and was sentenced to 20 years, but was fighting probable cause with regard to his arrest for the crime and won a new trial, at which he was convicted again but this time sentenced to life. During that same period of time the ex, who worked as a nurse's aid in a LTC facility, was convicted of raping an 80 year old stroke victim at the facility and got 12 years.
The parents paid for the lawyers all the way through and have always denied that their sons did any of the crimes they were convicted of. |
Anonymous
Weird. This is such a bizarre parenting goal. 
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Anonymous
| Lawyer up |
Anonymous
Really? Somebody raises soldiers. Get a clue. |