if your your adult kid killed someone would you help them lawyer up or turn them in?

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Anonymous wrote:There’s an Apple TV show on this: Defending Jacob.

It’s a book. Start there

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I had to stop watching the show Your Honor with Brian Cranston because I found it so anxiety inducing.

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Turn them in and no I would not help them get a lawyer. Self defense is a different story but I'm assuming the question does not have that type of killing in mind.

I have to laugh at people saying they love their children unconditionally.

There is no such thing as unconditional love. And honestly, if you love your child unconditionally you're not that bright.

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I love my child. That doesn’t mean I would like him if he VRE up to be a terrible person. I would love him enough to hope he could somehow atone for his crime and hope that him turning himself in would at least relieve some of the mental torture suffered by the loved ones of his victims.

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Anonymous wrote:Unabombers parents faced this issue….and his brother was one who reported him.

Family friend went to federal prison for misprision of felony — didn’t alert authorities to serious risks due to son falsifying fathers name

Sibling is different though. I’d happily hand my lying brat sister over to the police for far less.

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If I knew he was a sociopath I would. Like joran van der sloot.

If details were similar to this one (recent police report that she attacked/repeatedly slapped him and wouldn't back down) I'd turn him in (and be pissed he didn't call the police when it happened as there is no excuse to not call police/ems if he did what I think he did- shove her hard and this time she hit something and was down for the count. This is normally the lie sociopaths also tell though, so there is that.

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Wouldn’t you hiring a lawyer, possibly get if off? If you knew he did it, you would still hire a lawyer to possibly get him to go home?

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Anonymous wrote:Unabombers parents faced this issue….and his brother was one who reported him.

Family friend went to federal prison for misprision of felony — didn’t alert authorities to serious risks due to son falsifying fathers name

That’s a different question. That question is would you turn in your child if you knew they were going to go kill somebody but hasn’t killed them yet. Or had killed somebody and we’re going to kill more.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:No I would not turn in my kid are you kidding???

I feel the same way.
As a parent, our love 💞 is very unconditional.

However if my son was Christopher Lee Watts & confessed to murdering his children (+ thus my Grandchildren!) I would never speak to him again.

What if your kid was the Columbine or Sandy Hook or Stoneman Douglas shooter? You'd still talk/love to him as long as the murder didn't involve your own grandchildren?

The Mother of Dylan, one of the Columbine shooters actually wrote a book 📖 on her feelings after her son shot up the school - then himself.
Intriguing read…..

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I watched a documentary on Prime about a young man who murdered his sister. The parents still visited him in prison. I think he eventually got paroled to their home.

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Killed a child intentionally? Yes would turn in as clearly they are becoming a monster.

Anything else? No

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Anonymous wrote:Spin off from the Utah post.

If your 23 year old son came across the country and told you "hey, someone went really wrong on my trip with my girlfriend. I snapped and XYZ...."

Would you turn your kid in? Or call a lawyer friend and follow the attorney's predictable advice to "say nothing?"

This would be hard.

Both?

Look, I get that this is an unpopular opinion, but defendants have rights in this country. Even in cases where it's obvious that the defendant is guilty. The State cannot just summarily execute or imprison someone and has to be put to its burden of proof. Most of us will never need the benefit of this system so we don't understand its importance. But it is important and one thing that still continues to make this country different than many other, frankly horrible, places to live.

So, you bet your a-- I'd lawyer up. Especially if I had any morsel of doubt about guilt. That would be our rights under the Constitution.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No I would not turn in my kid are you kidding???

I feel the same way.
As a parent, our love 💞 is very unconditional.

However if my son was Christopher Lee Watts & confessed to murdering his children (+ thus my Grandchildren!) I would never speak to him again.

What if your kid was the Columbine or Sandy Hook or Stoneman Douglas shooter? You'd still talk/love to him as long as the murder didn't involve your own grandchildren?

The Mother of Dylan, one of the Columbine shooters actually wrote a book 📖 on her feelings after her son shot up the school - then himself.
Intriguing read…..

It is a VERY good read, I agree. And my feelings would be complicated, I'm guessing. But, it would still be my child and those feelings are deep and inherent. I can't imagine just abandoning my child. I don't care if that is unpopular or not.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No I would not turn in my kid are you kidding???

I feel the same way.
As a parent, our love 💞 is very unconditional.

However if my son was Christopher Lee Watts & confessed to murdering his children (+ thus my Grandchildren!) I would never speak to him again.

So you think murder is fine as long as the victims aren’t on your extremely short list. Got it.

Are you so dim that you can't see the huge space between "I'm fine with that" and "actively assist the police in arresting and convicting my child?"

Are you so dim that you don’t see the disconnect between “our love is very unconditional” and “I would never speak to him again if he murdered MY grandchildren?”

Someone else’s grandchild- unconditional love! 💞

I do see the difference there. That is not, however, what you wrote. You wrote, "So you think murder is fine as long as the victims aren’t on your extremely short list. Got it." Which is, of course, exceedingly stupid. I can see why you want to change the conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:Unabombers parents faced this issue….and his brother was one who reported him.

Family friend went to federal prison for misprision of felony — didn’t alert authorities to serious risks due to son falsifying fathers name

That’s a different question. That question is would you turn in your child if you knew they were going to go kill somebody but hasn’t killed them yet. Or had killed somebody and we’re going to kill more.

It depends entirely on who was killed / would be killed. A spree killer who killed randomly? Yes, I'd like to believe I'd turn them in. Someone out hunting child abusers? That's a harder question.