Dh's birthday is coming up...need to make it special

[Anonymous]

From reading this site, I've come to understand that dh's love language is gifts; and I'm kind of a crappy gift giver. Our second child is a year old, and I feel like we are coming out of a fog of parenting. DH has complained he doesn't feel a connection. I am making a concerted effort to be kinder and more thoughtful and I really want to make him feel special on his birthday. For example, I think I will give him a massage every day for his birthday week. Can you help me think of other "gifts" as well as real gifts for a mid 30s DH who is into sports (soccer and football) and relaxing with a beer or a cocktail. He is also sensitive to things feeling contrived so I have a hard time picking for him. Example, he would hate a beer of the month subscription even though he totally enjoys trying new beers. I really don't have the faintest idea what to buy him anymore. Thanks in advance!!!

[Anonymous]

Here's a romantic idea to get that "connection" back.

Try to re-enact your first date.

If possible, go to the same locale where you first met/had dinner, etc. and reconnect. Remember what attracted you to each other back then and hard as it may be, try not to talk about your child during the whole date.

Keep things focused on just you + him as a couple, not as someone else's parents.

Have fun.

[Anonymous]

A leather jacket? Like a really good one?

It might surprise him and make him feel like a cool young thing!

[Anonymous]

How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

[Anonymous]

What's your budget, OP?

[Anonymous]

"For example, I think I will give him a massage every day for his birthday week"

Not quite OP...but getting close. Think happy ending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

Man here.

This would be AMAZING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

That's good as long as he doesn't have to wait an entire year for the next one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

Man here.

This would be AMAZING.

See? Otherwise, he'll feign happiness at best in order to not hurt your feelings, but you will not have made him happy.

[Anonymous]

Can you get someone to watch the kids for a night and spend the night in a hotel?

Otherwise, I like first PP's suggestion combined with other suggestions of a sexual nature. Recreate your first date but end it with sex, whether you did on your first date or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a romantic idea to get that "connection" back.

Try to re-enact your first date.

If possible, go to the same locale where you first met/had dinner, etc. and reconnect. Remember what attracted you to each other back then and hard as it may be, try not to talk about your child during the whole date.

Keep things focused on just you + him as a couple, not as someone else's parents.

Have fun.

That sounds more like an anniversary idea...or just a nice couples night out to reconnect. Do something for HIS birthday. It's all about him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

Man here.

This would be AMAZING.

Sigh. Men are so boring and predictable. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

Man here.

This would be AMAZING.

Sigh. Men are so boring and predictable. Ugh.

Yep. Our needs are pretty basic. Assume that if there was something material that we needed, we would've already bought it. Also assume that if there is something we aren't getting, we will find a way to get it (with or without you). If you spend enough time on DCUM, you will figure that out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about a BJ every day of the week? Women who give material gifts instead of sexual ones really miss the point. Not that material gifts aren't nice sometimes, but if you're trying to reconnect, a football-related gift really misses the mark.

Man here.

This would be AMAZING.

Sigh. Men are so boring and predictable. Ugh.

Yep. Our needs are pretty basic. Assume that if there was something material that we needed, we would've already bought it. Also assume that if there is something we aren't getting, we will find a way to get it (with or without you). If you spend enough time on DCUM, you will figure that out.

Assume that every single man who is "not getting [insert sex act]" will get it, with or without his wife?

What kind of job do you have, PP?

[Anonymous]

Give yourself a BJ and swallow it first then we'll talk.