In laws are changing their will and said my husband needs to sign some papers?

[Anonymous]

My husband's parents said they are changing their will and that he (my husband) needs to come see them immediately to sign some papers? I have never heard of this before and they are being very secretive about what exactly they need him to sign and he is so stupid he won't press the issue or inquire. He has to travel quite a distance to go see them. Does anyone have any idea what he could be signing?

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure you'll find out soon enough.

[Anonymous]

Could be anything. Maybe they're setting up a trust?

[Anonymous]

Is his name currently on anything?

If not, maybe they are putting him on something like a Title? Hopefully your husband is smart enough not to put his name on something like a mortgage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure you'll find out soon enough.

Huh? Why respond with a snarky tone if you have nothing concrete to add to the conversation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be anything. Maybe they're setting up a trust?

depending on the state, this should be able to be done without him. We have a trust set up and none of the people named in it needed to sign anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be anything. Maybe they're setting up a trust?

What kind of a trust?

[Anonymous]

I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

He said he doesn't know and won't ask and is flying there to sign papers. His parents are assholes so I have no idea what it could be and we don't need their money but it is still unsettling that it is all so vague and secretive.

[Anonymous]

Seems like the reasonable thing to do would be to ask them to forward copies of the papers they want him to sign so he can review them before he goes in case there are any questions or issues. Would be such a waste for him to travel out there to sign but not be able to because there's a problem with the documents.

At least, that's how I would present it to them. I also would not have your husband go alone if you don't trust them and don't trust him to properly review/ask questions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like the reasonable thing to do would be to ask them to forward copies of the papers they want him to sign so he can review them before he goes in case there are any questions or issues. Would be such a waste for him to travel out there to sign but not be able to because there's a problem with the documents.

At least, that's how I would present it to them. I also would not have your husband go alone if you don't trust them and don't trust him to properly review/ask questions.

Husband won't ask them and refuses to question anything. He said he is going and signing whatever they want and that is it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

He said he doesn't know and won't ask and is flying there to sign papers. His parents are assholes so I have no idea what it could be and we don't need their money but it is still unsettling that it is all so vague and secretive.

This bullshit would not fly with me. If he's not willing to ask them for you, and doesn't plan to tell you what it is before he signs it, he is being just as secretive as them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

He said he doesn't know and won't ask and is flying there to sign papers. His parents are assholes so I have no idea what it could be and we don't need their money but it is still unsettling that it is all so vague and secretive.

Wow. He has to fly there? Doesn't he have a spine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

He said he doesn't know and won't ask and is flying there to sign papers. His parents are assholes so I have no idea what it could be and we don't need their money but it is still unsettling that it is all so vague and secretive.

This bullshit would not fly with me. If he's not willing to ask them for you, and doesn't plan to tell you what it is before he signs it, he is being just as secretive as them.

welcome to my world...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it reasonable for you to either go along or at least know what he is signing. If your finances are combined it affects you too.

He said he doesn't know and won't ask and is flying there to sign papers. His parents are assholes so I have no idea what it could be and we don't need their money but it is still unsettling that it is all so vague and secretive.

I would demand more information. Put your foot done and tell him they need to fax the papers, so you can both look at them and discuss them together. That would also give you the opportunity to have a lawyer look at them if need be. There is no way my DH would sign anything that might effect our finances without discussing it with me first.