If you spouse leaves the room to talk to his mom on the phone

[Anonymous]

What would you make out of this.... Every time my husband talks to his mother on the phone he walks into a different room and shuts the door. When I ask him why he walks out of the room he says it's so he can hear her better. How is that possible when it's just me at the table and I don't say anything. What should I think?

[Anonymous]

Be thankful you don't need to hear one half of an inane conversation.

[Anonymous]

Can you explain to him that it makes you curious and uncomfortable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be thankful you don't need to hear one half of an inane conversation.

That too.

[Anonymous]

His mom may be hard of hearing on the phone and your husband may want to talk louder. She may want to talk about something personal and doesn't want you to overhear.

I wouldn't Care at all if dh walked out of the room to talk to someone (not just his parent). I find it a little rude to be on the phone in front of someone else. They just sit there and half listen to your phone call.

Sounds like you have trust issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you explain to him that it makes you curious and uncomfortable?

This just sounds ridiculous. If dh said he was uncomfortable with my talking on the phone with my mom in another room I would think he was crazy.

[Anonymous]

I do that and it is so I can hear better. But I use a cell phone and walking upstairs helps me get a better signal. Also, if DH has the TV on, that's bothersome.

However, even if my husband wanted to tell his mom something in confidence, that wouldn't necessarily bug me. Maybe "she" is dealing with some issues that she'd like to keep relatively private, too.

[Anonymous]

I don't like talking on the phone with an audience. Just feels funny.

[Anonymous]

My DH doesn't ever talk on the phone in front of me. He could do it with his parents as he speaks another language.

He's just weirded out talking on the phone in front of people.

I wouldn't worry.

[Anonymous]

Is it difficult to live your life full of paranoia op?

[Anonymous]

my husband does this too and i'm so glad- means i don't have to talk to mi. awesome.

[Anonymous]

mil, i meant

[Anonymous]

I would literally never even stop to contemplate this

[Anonymous]

I don't like hearing one half of a conversation and I don't like having an audience for calls that aren't set up as conference calls.

So, no, you'd be paranoid to think that your DH gets on the phone with his mom and talks about all the things you do wrong.

[Anonymous]

My DH used to do this. He was usually protecting me from drama. Maybe the same thing is occurring.

Every call from MIL is "Your sister did this, I need XX, this is wrong, blah blah blah. I don't have milk, I need rent, come fix my car, pay this bill, etc. etc."

Conversation usually was uncomfortable or stressful, and he didn't want to have it in front of me, or anyone. Often times he would ignore calls too. She frequently abuses boundaries - very sad the way she has treated him and taken advantage of him. He didn't want me to see it.

When he started letting me see - I didn't mind so much when he took it to another room.

Not sure if that is the case with you, but I had no idea how bad she really was until we married. He did a pretty good job of drawing the lines between where he let her impact our marriage. I am appreciative of that, but it is stressful for both of us to try to manage someone like that.