If you spouse leaves the room to talk to his mom on the phone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like hearing one half of a conversation and I don't like having an audience for calls that aren't set up as conference calls.

So, no, you'd be paranoid to think that your DH gets on the phone with his mom and talks about all the things you do wrong.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH used to do this. He was usually protecting me from drama. Maybe the same thing is occurring.

Every call from MIL is "Your sister did this, I need XX, this is wrong, blah blah blah. I don't have milk, I need rent, come fix my car, pay this bill, etc. etc."

Conversation usually was uncomfortable or stressful, and he didn't want to have it in front of me, or anyone. Often times he would ignore calls too. She frequently abuses boundaries - very sad the way she has treated him and taken advantage of him. He didn't want me to see it.

When he started letting me see - I didn't mind so much when he took it to another room.

Not sure if that is the case with you, but I had no idea how bad she really was until we married. He did a pretty good job of drawing the lines between where he let her impact our marriage. I am appreciative of that, but it is stressful for both of us to try to manage someone like that.

Unfortunately, this is my Mom too--and it is stressful to talk to her, I assume my brother has some stress talking to her too. Requires a lot of concentration to muster good responses.

Just fyi--another possibility: when I try to talk to my brother on the phone my SIL is always interjecting and/or correcting him, if she is in the room.

And, some people just like having their own space, or walking around when talking. My husband does this, and it doesn't really bother me at all.

[Anonymous]

Even though op now realizes she's acting crazy and paranoid, I do hope she comes back to explain why this bothers her. There must be more to either her relationship with her husband or her relationship with her mIl

[Anonymous]

I didn't grow up with a telephone in the house, so I am very uncomfortable talking on the phone in front of other people. I explained this to DH, so he is used to me leaving the room when I am on the phone with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH doesn't ever talk on the phone in front of me. He could do it with his parents as he speaks another language.

He's just weirded out talking on the phone in front of people.

I wouldn't worry.

Yup, my DH is the same way. Hates having conversations with other people in the room.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for "I just don't like to talk on the phone with somebody else in the room."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you make out of this.... Every time my husband talks to his mother on the phone he walks into a different room and shuts the door. When I ask him why he walks out of the room he says it's so he can hear her better. How is that possible when it's just me at the table and I don't say anything. What should I think?

Looks like we have our first entry for the DCUM 2015 Most Pathetic Post Award.

[Anonymous]

OP here. DH just told me that they want to come to our house on Sunday night and stay Monday. They are from out of town. I have a feeling he had the conversation upstairs because I would have tried to talk him into saying we were busy this weekend - and yes I would have done just that. So now I guess I can see why he did it. Now I hope that the nail places are open on Monday as I will be using that day to get out of the house for some alone time!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you make out of this.... Every time my husband talks to his mother on the phone he walks into a different room and shuts the door. When I ask him why he walks out of the room he says it's so he can hear her better. How is that possible when it's just me at the table and I don't say anything. What should I think?

Looks like we have our first entry for the DCUM 2015 Most Pathetic Post Award.

OP here. Thanks I love awards!!! I win!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another vote for "I just don't like to talk on the phone with somebody else in the room."

Same here. It feels weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like talking on the phone with an audience. Just feels funny.

+1

[Anonymous]

I am confused. Does your DH ALWAYS leave the room when he gets a phone call or only when he talks to his mother? or was this a one time thing? Also, are you sure it was his mother?

[Anonymous]

In the beginning of our relationships, DH took calls from MIL in front of me. She talks really loud and I could hear a lot of what she said. A couple of times she said some nasty things about me and I heard them. Once I mentioned that I could hear what she said and that I was hurt, DH stopped talking to her in front of me. I prefer it this way too

[Anonymous]

I think the line he is giving you is just an excuse.

He probably is confiding to her some issues in your marriage. Which if he is, then is totally out of line because he shouldn't be doing so.

Or there are some family secrets that he feels you shouldn't be privy too which in my opinion, would be wrong for him to keep from you because as his wife, you are now part of his family so nothing should be kept from you.

Next time he leaves the room, follow him and put a glass to the wall and listen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the line he is giving you is just an excuse.

He probably is confiding to her some issues in your marriage. Which if he is, then is totally out of line because he shouldn't be doing so.

Or there are some family secrets that he feels you shouldn't be privy too which in my opinion, would be wrong for him to keep from you because as his wife, you are now part of his family so nothing should be kept from you.

Next time he leaves the room, follow him and put a glass to the wall and listen.

Boy, you had this all wrong!