Should a sympathy card include money? If so how much?
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Anonymous
| My friend's father passed away on Christmas Day. Is money okay for the sympathy card? If so, how much money should I include in the card? I would like to put the card in the mail tomorrow. I will not be able to go to the funeral. I cannot send a basket or flowers because she lives in a different state from parents and I do not know their address. I just thought I would mail the card and it will be waiting for her when she returned home. |
Anonymous
| No money. Inappropriate. |
Anonymous
| No cash, card only. |
Anonymous
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I am not sure from what purpose you'd be sending the money. I have never heard of including money in a sympathy card.
Does she need the money for funeral expenses? If not send flowers or fruit to your friend when she gets back. |
Anonymous
| What is the money for? |
Anonymous
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I've never heard of sending money.
Good thing you thought to ask. |
Anonymous
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When my mom passed away, I got cards with GC to local restaurants. The note basically said sorry for your loss and we know in the upcoming months you'll be busy with the estate so please have dinner in us one night so you don't have to worry about feeding the kids.
From out of town friends and relatives it was a kind gesture. |
Anonymous
| No money. If a donation to a charity was requested in the father's name was requested, you can do that if you want to do something. |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
| No money. There may be a place you can make a donation in his honor. Often the obituary will indicate or else your friend can tell you. |
Anonymous
| No money unless the family is truly poor |
Anonymous
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OP: think of it this way:
-you could have titled your thread "Should I tip the family of a dead friend?" It might be more obvious that the answer is NO. And stop all the other unnecessary tipping that you do (admit it: you tip everyone). |
Anonymous
| If the family is in need then yes. Send as much as you can spare. |
Anonymous
| You can give money in lieu of flowers, donations to a favorite charity, bringing a meal etc. $25-$50. |
Anonymous
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I've sent friend's gift certificates to salons just to give them their own time away after dealing with the details of the burial.
But I waited. |