No Kids at Wedding - Why So Much Anger?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

We need the cows, dammit, and at least one goat. Make way for the king's first night privilege, too.

[Anonymous]

$150. This is DCUM where people are insecure about their $3m net worth st 40? Where they buy$2k necklaces? Where you have to have $300k or more hhi?
Face it. You are indignant your kids can't come along like you have taken them everywhere since they were in baby carriers. Hey in a bit they won't WANT to be welded to you and you will seek counseling. Use the wedding as practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

So- I mostly agree with you. I think “the way things used to be” regarding weddings was better.

But we are dealing in reality here. Weddings have changed, whether we like it or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

Just proving the point that it's the guests who have all the anger that their kids aren't allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$150. This is DCUM where people are insecure about their $3m net worth st 40? Where they buy$2k necklaces? Where you have to have $300k or more hhi?
Face it. You are indignant your kids can't come along like you have taken them everywhere since they were in baby carriers. Hey in a bit they won't WANT to be welded to you and you will seek counseling. Use the wedding as practice.

It's just mom guilt. They don't spend enough time with their kids so they try to make up for it by insisting kids belong at weddings of people they don't even know.

[Anonymous]

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1. It's fine to have an adults-only event. Nobody should get mad about it.

2. It's fine to decline to come to such an event for any reason at all, including childcare. Nobody should get mad about it.

3. If you think there must be a family reunion, then arrange one yourself. No other person owes it to you and is obligated to do it for you.

In the past #3 weddings and funerals were a natural way of getting family members together. Since most Americans don't get much time off. Why is that all of a sudden seen as a negative? If you get only two weeks off you would plan a family reunion?

If spending family time together is important to you in those two weeks then yes! Go for it. (We do, we rent a beach house and invite relatives.)

Yes the idea of spending time together changes when someone else has to pay for it.😆

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

What do you think the reception is?

Celebrations serve the purpose of creating bonds between people - so the reception ritual (including alcohol often) is part of the overall function of the wedding to create ties between the two families and within the families. Otherwise people would not go to great expense to attend these events.

I recently spent 2 precious vacation days and $3000 I cannot spare to attend a young relative’s wedding, in large part because I knew the entire family would be there, even though I’m not super close to this relative (much younger half sister). Would I have gone to that expense just to go to say, her birthday party or a Mardi Gras party? obviously not. And guess what - the bride was openly joyful and proud that in fact the wedding also served as a family reunion, getting us all into the same place for the first time in maybe a decade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$150. This is DCUM where people are insecure about their $3m net worth st 40? Where they buy$2k necklaces? Where you have to have $300k or more hhi?
Face it. You are indignant your kids can't come along like you have taken them everywhere since they were in baby carriers. Hey in a bit they won't WANT to be welded to you and you will seek counseling. Use the wedding as practice.

+1

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

Just proving the point that it's the guests who have all the anger that their kids aren't allowed.

I’m not angry - I just think you’re absurd and sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

No, it’s not. The whole purpose is to unite two people. Here is the #1 definition of “wedding” in Merriam-Webster for you:

: a marriage ceremony usually with its accompanying festivities : NUPTIALS

You are confusing “wedding” with “reception,” dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

What do you think the reception is?

Celebrations serve the purpose of creating bonds between people - so the reception ritual (including alcohol often) is part of the overall function of the wedding to create ties between the two families and within the families. Otherwise people would not go to great expense to attend these events.

I recently spent 2 precious vacation days and $3000 I cannot spare to attend a young relative’s wedding, in large part because I knew the entire family would be there, even though I’m not super close to this relative (much younger half sister). Would I have gone to that expense just to go to say, her birthday party or a Mardi Gras party? obviously not. And guess what - the bride was openly joyful and proud that in fact the wedding also served as a family reunion, getting us all into the same place for the first time in maybe a decade.

You don't get to define the purpose of a celebration.

Do you listen to yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

Just proving the point that it's the guests who have all the anger that their kids aren't allowed.

I’m not angry - I just think you’re absurd and sad.

That's what angry people say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Somewhere along the generations, parents started lugging their kids everywhere. In the 20th century parents left kids with family and went to places like Hawaii on their own, lol.

somewhere along the generations, weddings morphed from simple and affordable family affairs to the bride’s opportunity to cosplay Cinderella at great expense.

You are so, so butthurt that your children aren’t the center of anyone else’s universe. You should probably see a professional about that.

We see you, bridezilla, with your cringey overly rehearsed first dance, your unflattering dress, cliched photographs, and boring reception that you obviously put more thought into the chair back bows than whether your guests would have a good time.

Just proving the point that it's the guests who have all the anger that their kids aren't allowed.

I’m not angry - I just think you’re absurd and sad.

So you insult people's clothing? You're more than a little unhinged trying to go for the jugular. It's not very effective because it exposes your crazy. Just click the regrets box. It's really easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A wedding is and should be whatever the two people getting married want it to be. That said, they must be gracious if people decline to attend for any reason, including child care.

But no, "two families" are not getting married; two individuals are. So it's whatever they want. If you don't like it, decline. No one owes you a family reunion. If you want a family reunion, plan, pay for and host one. The end.

Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

No, it’s not. The whole purpose is to unite two people. Here is the #1 definition of “wedding” in Merriam-Webster for you:

: a marriage ceremony usually with its accompanying festivities : NUPTIALS

You are confusing “wedding” with “reception,” dear.

If it’s only about you, why do you think people pay $1000s and spend their vacation days to attend? Do you expect them to also do that for your birthday? Don’t be absurd.