Why are OOS flagships so popular these days?

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Anonymous wrote:“You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.“


No, you’re looking for ways to justify a lack a lack of curiosity and a fear of adventure.

The vanity of people here who assume you have to be crazy or stupid to want to experience a public university that isn’t in College Park or Charlottesville reminds me of those New Yorkers who think everybody in the world spends all day trying to figure out how they might possibly be lucky enough to someday live in NYC. Get over yourselves. College isn’t one size fits all.

Lol. I’m the poster who had two UVA grads, one who joined the Peace Corp for three years and other who lived abroad for 7 years after college and got a masters in a European university. Both also studied abroad in college. Does that sound like a “lack of curiosity and fear of adventure” to you? Get back to me after your spawn do that after going to Ohio State.

That’s a cute anecdote.

But most UVA grads end up in VA. Rinse, repeat.
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

Yes, both of mine eventually returned home. As have my other kids. But if you all have this weird notion that your family is better off with your kids scattered all over the world then have at it. I’ll never understand that way of thinking. There’s lots of opportunity in the DMV. Are all of your kids going to these out-of-state schools never coming back? And if they aren’t coming back, I’d be real interested in hearing why that makes you happy.

I’d be happy if they end up somewhere more interesting in a place they enjoy. We are planning to relocate ourselves at some point in the future. Could be near the kids.

They may choose to live in VA, which is fine. Just not very interesting IMO.

So you’re one of these transplants who thinks you’re above the DMV and that it’s “not interesting.” You do realize that it’s drones like you who come here only for your soulless job and make no effort to actually integrate and that you find it “not interesting.” Right? And if it’s so uninteresting and so terrible, why are you inflicting such misery on your kids? Why do you have to wait for them to grow up?

We are “integrated” in our community and the kids are happy. It’s an ok place to grow up. Doesn’t mean we want to be here any longer than needed.

I guess if you’ve only ever lived in VA and then attended school in VA then it might seem like a great option. YMMV.

We haven’t “only ever lived in VA.” We moved to VA in our late 20s after grad school and moved to downtown DC early retired empty nesters. We also have a second home a couple hours away - a real one where we stay frequently, not some bogus Arbnb rental that we rent out to help cover the mortgage. And we’ve been all over the world, as have our kids, and are back on the extensive international travel saddle now that the pandemic is (largely) behind us.

We’re a pretty tight family and we have a lot going on right here. We help each other out quite a bit. None of our grandkids has ever had paid childcare in their live - and yes, their mothers work, both having landed excellent job after graduating UVA.

It’s super odd to suggest that a family in the top one percent and living in the national capital is parochial simply because their kids wisely chose to attend what is generally regarded as one of the finest universities in the country at half the price of most of its peers without being concerned that it was only a couple hours away and without a burning desire to leave their family behind. Every good school is located close to somebody. We’re extremely lucky that one as good as UVA is this close to us.

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Anonymous wrote:“You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.“


No, you’re looking for ways to justify a lack a lack of curiosity and a fear of adventure.

The vanity of people here who assume you have to be crazy or stupid to want to experience a public university that isn’t in College Park or Charlottesville reminds me of those New Yorkers who think everybody in the world spends all day trying to figure out how they might possibly be lucky enough to someday live in NYC. Get over yourselves. College isn’t one size fits all.

Lol. I’m the poster who had two UVA grads, one who joined the Peace Corp for three years and other who lived abroad for 7 years after college and got a masters in a European university. Both also studied abroad in college. Does that sound like a “lack of curiosity and fear of adventure” to you? Get back to me after your spawn do that after going to Ohio State.

That’s a cute anecdote.

But most UVA grads end up in VA. Rinse, repeat.
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

Yes, both of mine eventually returned home. As have my other kids. But if you all have this weird notion that your family is better off with your kids scattered all over the world then have at it. I’ll never understand that way of thinking. There’s lots of opportunity in the DMV. Are all of your kids going to these out-of-state schools never coming back? And if they aren’t coming back, I’d be real interested in hearing why that makes you happy.

I’d be happy if they end up somewhere more interesting in a place they enjoy. We are planning to relocate ourselves at some point in the future. Could be near the kids.

They may choose to live in VA, which is fine. Just not very interesting IMO.

So you’re one of these transplants who thinks you’re above the DMV and that it’s “not interesting.” You do realize that it’s drones like you who come here only for your soulless job and make no effort to actually integrate and that you find it “not interesting.” Right? And if it’s so uninteresting and so terrible, why are you inflicting such misery on your kids? Why do you have to wait for them to grow up?

We are “integrated” in our community and the kids are happy. It’s an ok place to grow up. Doesn’t mean we want to be here any longer than needed.

I guess if you’ve only ever lived in VA and then attended school in VA then it might seem like a great option. YMMV.

We haven’t “only ever lived in VA.” We moved to VA in our late 20s after grad school and moved to downtown DC early retired empty nesters. We also have a second home a couple hours away - a real one where we stay frequently, not some bogus Arbnb rental that we rent out to help cover the mortgage. And we’ve been all over the world, as have our kids, and are back on the extensive international travel saddle now that the pandemic is (largely) behind us.

We’re a pretty tight family and we have a lot going on right here. We help each other out quite a bit. None of our grandkids has ever had paid childcare in their live - and yes, their mothers work, both having landed excellent job after graduating UVA.

It’s super odd to suggest that a family in the top one percent and living in the national capital is parochial simply because their kids wisely chose to attend what is generally regarded as one of the finest universities in the country at half the price of most of its peers without being concerned that it was only a couple hours away and without a burning desire to leave their family behind. Every good school is located close to somebody. We’re extremely lucky that one as good as UVA is this close to us.

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We don’t all think UVA is good.

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“Your kid picked Penn State over Georgetown and UVA? I am shocked, actually.“

When people buy cars, some want a fast car, some a roomy car, some a car that’s good in deep snow, some an inexpensive car. In other words, not everyone has the same priorities when it comes to picking a car, & nobody freaks out when a person buys a 7-seat SUV instead of a 2-seat sports car.

But when it comes to colleges, some people need CPR if someone deviates from the USNews rankings or decides to go out of state. As a great man once said, “There’s a reason they make chocolate AND vanilla.”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“You're looking for ways to justify your own insecurities.“


No, you’re looking for ways to justify a lack a lack of curiosity and a fear of adventure.

The vanity of people here who assume you have to be crazy or stupid to want to experience a public university that isn’t in College Park or Charlottesville reminds me of those New Yorkers who think everybody in the world spends all day trying to figure out how they might possibly be lucky enough to someday live in NYC. Get over yourselves. College isn’t one size fits all.

Lol. I’m the poster who had two UVA grads, one who joined the Peace Corp for three years and other who lived abroad for 7 years after college and got a masters in a European university. Both also studied abroad in college. Does that sound like a “lack of curiosity and fear of adventure” to you? Get back to me after your spawn do that after going to Ohio State.

That’s a cute anecdote.

But most UVA grads end up in VA. Rinse, repeat.
https://digital.uvamagazine.org/articles/hoo-are-you/index.php

Yes, both of mine eventually returned home. As have my other kids. But if you all have this weird notion that your family is better off with your kids scattered all over the world then have at it. I’ll never understand that way of thinking. There’s lots of opportunity in the DMV. Are all of your kids going to these out-of-state schools never coming back? And if they aren’t coming back, I’d be real interested in hearing why that makes you happy.

I’d be happy if they end up somewhere more interesting in a place they enjoy. We are planning to relocate ourselves at some point in the future. Could be near the kids.

They may choose to live in VA, which is fine. Just not very interesting IMO.

So you’re one of these transplants who thinks you’re above the DMV and that it’s “not interesting.” You do realize that it’s drones like you who come here only for your soulless job and make no effort to actually integrate and that you find it “not interesting.” Right? And if it’s so uninteresting and so terrible, why are you inflicting such misery on your kids? Why do you have to wait for them to grow up?

We are “integrated” in our community and the kids are happy. It’s an ok place to grow up. Doesn’t mean we want to be here any longer than needed.

I guess if you’ve only ever lived in VA and then attended school in VA then it might seem like a great option. YMMV.

We haven’t “only ever lived in VA.” We moved to VA in our late 20s after grad school and moved to downtown DC early retired empty nesters. We also have a second home a couple hours away - a real one where we stay frequently, not some bogus Arbnb rental that we rent out to help cover the mortgage. And we’ve been all over the world, as have our kids, and are back on the extensive international travel saddle now that the pandemic is (largely) behind us.

We’re a pretty tight family and we have a lot going on right here. We help each other out quite a bit. None of our grandkids has ever had paid childcare in their live - and yes, their mothers work, both having landed excellent job after graduating UVA.

It’s super odd to suggest that a family in the top one percent and living in the national capital is parochial simply because their kids wisely chose to attend what is generally regarded as one of the finest universities in the country at half the price of most of its peers without being concerned that it was only a couple hours away and without a burning desire to leave their family behind. Every good school is located close to somebody. We’re extremely lucky that one as good as UVA is this close to us.

Where did you and your DH grow up and go to college/grad school?

How did you end up in VA?

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“I don’t think the towns even necessarily need to be “better”. Just being somewhere different is fun.”

I assume a majority of people here are married now or were married in the past. You would think the statement above would be quite obvious to them.

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So how long ago did the UVA booster’s kids go to UVA?

She even has grandkids now?

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"Your kid picked Penn State over Georgetown and UVA? I am shocked, actually."

I'm not "shocked" at all. We live a couple blocks from Georgetown University. No way in hell would he live at a college campus that close to home. As far as PSU, the other kid wanted a big college campus with big sports. Close to home but far enough away. It fit the bill. The other is off to Texas. He was looking for big sports as well and a different experience. FWIW, Georgetown and UVA are not everyone's perfect fit

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“It’s super odd to suggest that a family in the top one percent and living in the national capital is parochial simply because their kids wisely chose to attend what is generally regarded as one of the finest universities in the country at half the price of most of its peers without being concerned that it was only a couple hours away and without a burning desire to leave their family behind.”

I don’t think anyone has claimed you have to justify attending UVA or U of MD. This thread heated up as a result of the in-state fans questioning the sanity & intelligence of the out-of-state fans. The latter then tried to calmly explain their reasoning, only to be again called lunatics who couldn’t even get in VCU. Only then did the OOS fans roll up their sleeves & get down in the mud with their opponents. In other words, THEY STARTED IT!

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Anonymous wrote:“Your kid picked Penn State over Georgetown and UVA? I am shocked, actually.“

When people buy cars, some want a fast car, some a roomy car, some a car that’s good in deep snow, some an inexpensive car. In other words, not everyone has the same priorities when it comes to picking a car, & nobody freaks out when a person buys a 7-seat SUV instead of a 2-seat sports car.

But when it comes to colleges, some people need CPR if someone deviates from the USNews rankings or decides to go out of state. As a great man once said, “There’s a reason they make chocolate AND vanilla.”

Honestly I don’t believe this really happened. Unless PSU threw money at them.

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Anonymous wrote:“It’s super odd to suggest that a family in the top one percent and living in the national capital is parochial simply because their kids wisely chose to attend what is generally regarded as one of the finest universities in the country at half the price of most of its peers without being concerned that it was only a couple hours away and without a burning desire to leave their family behind.”

I don’t think anyone has claimed you have to justify attending UVA or U of MD. This thread heated up as a result of the in-state fans questioning the sanity & intelligence of the out-of-state fans. The latter then tried to calmly explain their reasoning, only to be again called lunatics who couldn’t even get in VCU. Only then did the OOS fans roll up their sleeves & get down in the mud with their opponents. In other words, THEY STARTED IT!

Disagree. Re-read this thread from the beginning

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Ok, I just re-read it from the beginning. Where was I wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I just re-read it from the beginning. Where was I wrong?

Starts going downhill real fast with this comment on page 8. This was definitely the first real shot fired. Find me an earlier one that proves me wrong:

“Ever since moving to NoVa suburb all I hear is how great Va Colleges are. It's like these people have no other life experience. They've been given a script. They have no independent thoughts. Insular, provincial while being obnoxious.”

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Anonymous wrote:“Your kid picked Penn State over Georgetown and UVA? I am shocked, actually.“

When people buy cars, some want a fast car, some a roomy car, some a car that’s good in deep snow, some an inexpensive car. In other words, not everyone has the same priorities when it comes to picking a car, & nobody freaks out when a person buys a 7-seat SUV instead of a 2-seat sports car.

But when it comes to colleges, some people need CPR if someone deviates from the USNews rankings or decides to go out of state. As a great man once said, “There’s a reason they make chocolate AND vanilla.”

Honestly I don’t believe this really happened. Unless PSU threw money at them.

PSU dons't throw money at anyone. No merit whatsoever. My kid loved PSU and its school spirit. He didn't like UVA or being close to home in Georgetown. My other son loved Texas and the city of Austin.I am happy for them. What is so hard to believe?

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PP here. It’s page 9, not 8. And right after that the whole “13th grade” bullshit started.