Trying to understand Nicola Peltz Beckham

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Anonymous wrote:i dont understand why anyone is applauding him - it's WILD to me.

1. He's obviously very very stupid as evidenced by a. never having had a job b. his decision to do or say any of this in public and c. his appalling grammar

2. Total streisand effect. Answering a q no one asked

3. What kind of psychopathic child would not just deal with this in private? Even if your parent danced weirdly at your wedding, and you're furious, then worst case scenario just stop speaking to them. Who goes out of their way years later to tell the whole world about it? psychotic.

When your narc wife tells you to do it or else, a weak man does it.

Since he’s clearly just parroting her concerns, yes.

I can only imagine what it’s like living with someone that spoiled and self-centered. He’s not the brightest bulb, must be very easy to manipulate.

She also looks frail these days, like she’s developed an ED. I’m sure he feels obligated to “protect” her as she cries daily about how horribly she’s been treated. What a mess.

He's not bright and she's 5 years older than him. They got together and after the wedding he became estranged from his family. It honestly does sound like the Harry and Meagan dynamic!

Right! The parallels are striking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory about their vow renewal is that it’s not really about “creating new memories” because the first wedding was ruined, but rather they (she) simply wanted new photos because Nicola became a brunette and wanted updated wedding photos to reflect her new (much more flattering) look than the brassy blonde with dark roots from the first wedding.


First wedding
https://www.vogue.co.uk/news/article/brooklyn-beckham-nicola-peltz-wedding

Second wedding
https://www.marieclaire.com.au/fashion/wedding/nicola-peltz-brooklyn-beckham-second-wedding/

Her blonde look was truly awful. All that money to look like that??!?!

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Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

Also, many men are so used to seeing their mothers handle all family interactions so they just assume the wife will do it.

[Anonymous]

They have a team of household staff. Nicola is not some poor beaten down housewife, buried under the mental load and responsibilities that her slacker husband won't take up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

Who are you replying to and what are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

Who are you replying to and what are you even talking about?

Who are you? Are you suggesting these two unemployed layabouts favored one side over the other because of all the work that goes into maintaining a relationship? As if they are too busy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have a team of household staff. Nicola is not some poor beaten down housewife, buried under the mental load and responsibilities that her slacker husband won't take up.

Exactly. People here are acting like they are schlubs like them living paycheck to paycheck arguing over whose turn it is to "host" Thanksgiving because it's all too much work to clean the house before MIL arrives. As if they cook, clean, have kids or actual jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

I do wonder what exactly they do all day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

Who are you replying to and what are you even talking about?

Who are you? Are you suggesting these two unemployed layabouts favored one side over the other because of all the work that goes into maintaining a relationship? As if they are too busy?

I think someone made an OT post about DILs generally favoring their own families and others chimed in saying it may look like that but the sons have agency too. I don't think anyone has compared their financial situation to the Peltz Beckhams.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My theory about their vow renewal is that it’s not really about “creating new memories” because the first wedding was ruined, but rather they (she) simply wanted new photos because Nicola became a brunette and wanted updated wedding photos to reflect her new (much more flattering) look than the brassy blonde with dark roots from the first wedding.


First wedding
https://www.vogue.co.uk/news/article/brooklyn-beckham-nicola-peltz-wedding

Second wedding
https://www.marieclaire.com.au/fashion/wedding/nicola-peltz-brooklyn-beckham-second-wedding/

Her blonde look was truly awful. All that money to look like that??!?!

Her inspo was early Claudia Schiffer and I think she achieved that. I actually liked both of her dresses and wedding looks. It's just a bit crazy to do a vow renewal at a few years in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

Who are you replying to and what are you even talking about?

Who are you? Are you suggesting these two unemployed layabouts favored one side over the other because of all the work that goes into maintaining a relationship? As if they are too busy?

I think someone made an OT post about DILs generally favoring their own families and others chimed in saying it may look like that but the sons have agency too. I don't think anyone has compared their financial situation to the Peltz Beckhams.

I think the favoring almost always happens tbh. I can't think of anyone I know who is closer to the dh's family than the dw's, but many have totally fine and good relationships with the dh's family, just not quite as close. Here it's trickier because she seems particularly close to her parents, and the Beckhams are likely used to doing things their very specific way due to wealth and fame. So I can see them asking their son to do x, y or z and the wife disagreeing. And because her family is even wealthier than the Beckhams, there is no pulling strings or guilting their son or else he'll be cut off since he doesn't need them financially. Had he married a poor girl, the dynamics I think would be very different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My theory about their vow renewal is that it’s not really about “creating new memories” because the first wedding was ruined, but rather they (she) simply wanted new photos because Nicola became a brunette and wanted updated wedding photos to reflect her new (much more flattering) look than the brassy blonde with dark roots from the first wedding.


First wedding
https://www.vogue.co.uk/news/article/brooklyn-beckham-nicola-peltz-wedding

Second wedding
https://www.marieclaire.com.au/fashion/wedding/nicola-peltz-brooklyn-beckham-second-wedding/

Her blonde look was truly awful. All that money to look like that??!?!

Her inspo was early Claudia Schiffer and I think she achieved that. I actually liked both of her dresses and wedding looks. It's just a bit crazy to do a vow renewal at a few years in.

I will go against the tide and say I think she looks better blonde. Her brunette looks unnaturally dark. She's tall and skinny, but she does not have a pretty face - it's unfortunate that she did not get her mom's beauty.

As for the vow renewals, who actually does that except for celebrities who have been together for awhile and need to show the outside world that they are still together after a cheating scandal?!? Seriously, do normal people go and renew their vows instead of just celebrating their anniversary or birthday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think when a man gets married he generally tends to side with his wife's side. My ds is not even married, his girlfriend is lovely but I see it already. Her side is favored. We're easy going people so it's fine, but I imagine if I were more of a dramatic, diva person who liked things my way, there'd be major clashing over things, little slights can become mountains and resentment accumulates. Now throw in billionaire tantrums and expectations, immaturity, social media and public interest and it's a perfect storm for a huge mess of a situation.

Is her side favored or is she the one who does all the planning for gifts, visits, phone calls, etc.

+1. Many men hate talking, planning, etc. And they are so conflict avoidant they would rather not raise something to their mom and skip a visit altogether than have an actual conversation about an issue (which may not even be a huge issue- something like "Hey DW is allergic to your dog and can't stay overnight there unless you board the dog.")

It's not like either of them are working. They aren't like you, living paycheck to paycheck. They have nothing else to do but hang out with their parents who foot all the bills.

Who are you replying to and what are you even talking about?

Who are you? Are you suggesting these two unemployed layabouts favored one side over the other because of all the work that goes into maintaining a relationship? As if they are too busy?

I think someone made an OT post about DILs generally favoring their own families and others chimed in saying it may look like that but the sons have agency too. I don't think anyone has compared their financial situation to the Peltz Beckhams.

Comparing them to other couples and the division of labor/mental load implies that they are somehow like normal couples. They aren't at all. Buying gifts and making phone calls are things stressed out people who have limited means and time worry about. That doesn't apply to this couple at all.